Nanny Suspicious Activity

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

I personally am a nanny with no household chores but ill take charges to my apt to clean up but I have permission. My employers are very kind.

Out of curiosity, how old are your charges and what are they doing while you are cleaning? I can't imagine giving our nanny permission to do this because I am not paying her to have my kiddo sitting in someone else's house staring at a wall/TV for hours. Don't the kids have activities or want to go to the park etc.? And how are you watching the kids while you clean? The nannies on this board are always saying they can't do household chores and watch the kids (which I don't disagree with - our nanny does have some child related light housekeeping duties but she mostly does them during DC's nap and if they don't get totally done because the day did not allow for it, we understand). I am honestly curious as to how this works and why your employers allow it.

1yr olds. They play with my dog, toys or eat a snack at the table while I switch laundry or unload my dishwasher. By cleaning I mean 15-30mins of light straightening up. we stop by before or after our activity. i might even feed them lunch there if our activity runs late. i don't clean there house cause they have a maid service. This is not a daily thing. I do it only when I can't keep up with everything because I work 70hrs a week and go to school weekends. I have many perks and being able to run errands, bring my dog to work and go to my house are a few of them. They want the kids to be in an environment similar to one a stay at home mother would create. I do much less then a stay at mom in terms of cooking and cleaning but the children are still exposed to normal daily activities like grocery shopping and picking up dry cleaning. If ppl don't agree that's fine but it's my working relationship and we are content. At least my employers know what's going on and I'm not taking the kid to strangers homes to clean for money. That's wrong.

[Anonymous]

I have a very similar relationship with my employers as PP...although I only work 50 hours vs 70 hours.

My MB has also told me that she wants the kids to be an environment similar to the one they'd experience if she was a SAHM. This means the kids go with me to the dentist twice a year, and occasionally they go with me to the doctor or vet (for my cat...they don't have any pets). We run errands every once in awhile. It also means that they have to entertain themselves at times while I am switching loads of laundry or folding it (the kids have been putting it away since they were 3 1/2), washing dishes, etc... Heck even if I didn't have to do those things the kids would still be entertaining themselves at times b/c it's good for their development to do so. I don't allow the kids to watch tv during my time with them...other than two 7 1/2 minute youtube videos one afternoon each week (they always choose pink panther).

My charges are currently 5. I've been with them for 3 1/2 years. I've always done household tasks with them present. They're old enough to do their own thing now while I'm occupied, but when they were younger I would set them up with an activity within eye/earshot while I took care of things around the house. It's quite easy to do. The kids know that sometimes adults need to take care of household or personal things. They also know that we always make time for their activities (both at the house and outside scheduled ones), trips to the park, playdates, etc...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I personally am a nanny with no household chores but ill take charges to my apt to clean up but I have permission. My employers are very kind.

OMG you have balls. Its nice that your employers allow this but geez, how can you respect yourself? You have no household chores but you drag your charge along to clean your own house while you are being paid??? If the parents told you that you could smoke pot and sit around naked watching porn make would you do this too?

The comparison between smoking pot, and cleaning???

My boss allows me to take their kids home, most of the time they even say to me, "if you want to take the kids to your house ur more than welcome too ok.. "and I have been working for them 10years, I never have to tell my boss where I'm going, what I'm doing... They trust me 100%.... And I thank god I have such loyal, trustworthy employers like them.

Can't imagine the employers that can't trust their kids with the nanny, why start with a nanny if you can't trust them?

Stay home and take care of the kids yourself.

[Anonymous]

"You're welcome to take a second job but only on your own time"...Umm I don't need permission lol you don't own your employees! They can do anything they want when they're not working for you!

[Anonymous]

"You're welcome to take a second job but only on your own time"...Umm I don't need permission lol you don't own your employees! They can do anything they want when they're not working for you!

Apparently, reading isn't your strong suit. Try again before you give yourself a needless coronary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I also acknowledge the nanny was very wrong. I do feel saddened that she was so desperate for the extra money that she felt the need to do something like this. I pray that your nanny does not have children to feed. I understand your anger in feeling lied to, but I do have to wonder at the lack of concern for someone who by your own admission was a great nanny, helped raise your child for 6 years, and had become a part of your family.

I don't think OP lacked compassion for her nanny. She said that she would have gladly given her more hours or assisted her in finding a higher-paid position by giving a stellar reference. The nanny put her job and household at risk by lying to her employers and taking their child to a second job. You must be able to trust your nanny and trust, once lost, is not easily regained.