Worst interview ever

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it was not appropriate of the mb to ask you to wait...she should have let you in. I also think you should have answered her when she called to let her know how you felt.

I agree with this. When I have people over, I'm always 100% ready to receive then at least 15 min ahead so if they come early is all good. I also think OP was rude to ignore the Mb, she could have at least let her explain.

[Anonymous]

Pp here and I straight up think OP was lying to make herself look better when she said the Mb was taking to her mom. It was probably a business call of some sort.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp here and I straight up think OP was lying to make herself look better when she said the Mb was taking to her mom. It was probably a business call of some sort.

OP Here: No, I did not lie. Sorry, I do not come on here and lie and make up stories. She said she was on a call with her mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think the employer dodged a bullet. OP sounds like an idiot. Why wouldn't you have stayed in your car until the time of the appointment in the first place? Why wouldn't you have simply gone back to your car after no one answered the door the first time and waited until the appointment started? Why wouldn't you have carried an umbrella. No one wants to hire an idiot. You did the MB a favor in leaving.

OP here: I'm sorry but I could really care less if you think I am a "idiot". I have been a nanny/household manager for 7 years now. I have had the privilege of working with AMAZING families which like I said before, is why I have NEVER had to come on here and vent about my work family like 95% of you on here do. I am VERY picky when it comes to the families I work with, which is also why I stay with them for as long as they need me and have NEVER had to quit a position. For this mom to just expect me to wait on her front porch in the rain while she finishes up a call with her mom, spoke volumes to me. I don't waste my time on families like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sorry OP, still think you're wrong, and now suspect. All of a sudden you're not at a nanny interview but a household manager job and the kids are old enough to babysit themselves. Before the mother claimed she was on the phone, but now she told you she was on the phone with her mother.

It's great that despite being an hour away you were 10 minutes early. You just as easily could have wound up 5 minutes late due to a traffic accident from the rain. I take efforts to not screw over my employees but it needs to work both ways. I don't stress if they're 5 minutes late, and assume they won't get bent out of shape if I need them to stay 5 minutes late. You come across as highly inflexible. You think you're too good to wait in your car for a few minutes? Step off your pedestal.

OP Here: I WAS at a nanny interview. It was a nanny/household manager position with it MOSTLY being a household manager position. The kids are in school all day so it's only childcare for 1 hour in the morning and then a couple of hours in the afternoon when they are home from school. From 8:30am-3:30pm it is "household manager" duties. Please get your facts straight.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP Here: So let me clarify a couple of things. This family was 1 hour away. I got there a little bit earlier then I anticipated. I was ONLY 10 minutes early, which I always find is professional. I don't see how I am "immature". I made a 1 hour drive for this interview. She asked if I could come at 3pm and I arrived at 2:50pm. I rang the door bell two times and then knocked the third time. After no one answered all three times, I called her cellphone. When she answered, I just said "Hi, it's K. I am at your front door and I don't know if you heard me ring the doorbell"....to which she responded "Oh yes..the kids are in the basement and I am finishing up a phone call with my mom, I will be down in 5 minutes.". She CLEARLY heard be ringing and knocking and chose to ignore me. She could have come down and at least let me in. I would have gladly waited INSIDE the doorway while she finished a conversation. I found it VERY rude to just expect me to wait outside for 5 minutes in the rain. It's been raining here for 2 days..so yes she knew it was raining. I was not going to walk back to my car, wait in my car and then come back. This just proved to me that she was not the type of MB I would want to work for. Yes, I did ignore her two phone calls because I was too busy venting on the phone to my friend who is also a nanny. She left me a VM with the second call saying "I don't understand why you left...you just had to wait on the porch for 10 minutes. Please call me back and let me know if you'd like to come back."....So "5 minutes" was actually 10 minutes. When I got home, I sent her an email saying that I did not appreciate having to wait on her front porch and that I was no longer interested in the job.

To the people saying I am "immature", you really have no justification for that at all. Having been a nanny for 7 years now, I do not waste my time on families like this which is why, I have never had to come on here and complain about a MB like 90% of the nannies on here do. I pick my families VERY specifically and have been lucky to work for GREAT families.

I'm a happily employed nanny, and I think you are...wrong.

I do a lot of on-call work on the weekends, saving up money for graduate school, and am often 10 minutes early for the same reason as you: I don't want to be late, so I give myself a little extra time and end up arriving ahead of schedule. Like you, I usually ring the doorbell for the first time between 5-8min. ahead of my scheduled appointment (whether it's work or an interview) and often find myself waiting outside until the official time. But while I do ring the doorbell a few times in the minutes following, and knock a couple of times, I won't ever call a parent to check in until our scheduled appointment time has come and passed. If you had assumed, when you first rang and got no answer, that she was busy getting out of the shower, or changing a dirty diaper, or finishing up a quick toy clean-up because she wanted to make a good impression, and had gone back to your car (or ducked out of the rain), and then come back to ring again at the time she was expecting you, absolutely nothing would have been wrong with this event. I think you made this a problem, not the MB, by trying to rush your appointment.

OP Here: By the time I called her, it was 4 minutes to 3:00. I don't think I should have went to my car for 4 minutes. I always arrive 5-10 minutes early for interviews and have NEVER had this issue. This was more of a household manager position as the kids are 12 & 10 so there was no diapers being changed, etc. I would have understood if she was on a work call but this was a call with her mom and she HEARD me ring and knock. You just don't ignore someone at your door because they are FOUR MINUTES early.

What if she was actually naked, just getting out of the shower, and didn't want to say that so instead she said she was finishing up a phone call and would be right down? You just seem very inflexible and immature, and to exhibit complete disinterest in showing any kind of attempt at being understanding. I think she's well rid of you, tbh.

OP Here: Sorry but when you have an interview lined up, you should not be showering 5 minutes before the scheduled interview. I CALLED her FOUR MINUTES before my interview to tell her I was on her front porch. You can say whatever you want but I actually am the one who is better off in this situation. Thanks

[Anonymous]

I think families will always stand for other families, regardless how assholes they are or who is wrong or right. Some of you need a reality check, a nanny is also human and the fact you can afford help, doesn't mean you own us. If a nanny is happy, the kids will be happy. Think about this before being unkind, doesn't hurt being nice to people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you really want an hour commute, anyway?

OP Here: I live in a state where it is hard to find good paying positions around where I am in my small town so I travel a bit further for my jobs so that I can make more money. So, yes..I would have been fine with an hour commute. It actually was less then I normally travel for work.

[Anonymous]

It was a bit strange of the MB to ask you to stand in the rain but you were early and you have no idea what her call was about, even if with her mom. Maybe it was something serious and with thin walls/small house/whatever, she didn't want a stranger in the house (or wanted to explain all of that to a stranger). You were early and could have waited in your car. Was it rude of her? Maybe. But a little empathy and flexibility on your part might have been called for in this situation. By leaving, and refusing to take her call, you escalated this into something much bigger than it needed to be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Did you really want an hour commute, anyway?


OP Here: I live in a state where it is hard to find good paying positions around where I am in my small town so I travel a bit further for my jobs so that I can make more money. So, yes..I would have been fine with an hour commute. It actually was less then I normally travel for work.

If it's so hard to find good paying positions in your area, why would you be so silly to throw a fit over having to wait four minutes?

I don't believe your story.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:
Did you really want an hour commute, anyway?


OP Here: I live in a state where it is hard to find good paying positions around where I am in my small town so I travel a bit further for my jobs so that I can make more money. So, yes..I would have been fine with an hour commute. It actually was less then I normally travel for work.

If it's so hard to find good paying positions in your area, why would you be so silly to throw a fit over having to wait four minutes?

I don't believe your story.

Shut up

[Anonymous]

I think families will always stand for other families, regardless how assholes they are or who is wrong or right. Some of you need a reality check, a nanny is also human and the fact you can afford help, doesn't mean you own us. If a nanny is happy, the kids will be happy. Think about this before being unkind, doesn't hurt being nice to people.

The nannies are not her side either. The more the OP posts back the more strange and immature she sounds.

[Anonymous]

Please try to remember that even you, don't always know who is posting what.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I think families will always stand for other families, regardless how assholes they are or who is wrong or right. Some of you need a reality check, a nanny is also human and the fact you can afford help, doesn't mean you own us. If a nanny is happy, the kids will be happy. Think about this before being unkind, doesn't hurt being nice to people.

The nannies are not her side either. The more the OP posts back the more strange and immature she sounds.

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I don't think the OP's story is an example of an MB thinking she "owned" anyone. I think it was a story of how inflexible the OP was, to the point of risking what could have been a fantastic job because of a small misstep of timing.

If she can't give this MB the benefit of the doubt, when she took the time to interrupe her phone call to say she'd be down in just a few minutes - which would have made her ON TIME for the interview - why should she expect her MB to give her any? If the nanny was late one day, would she want MB to fire her on the spot or assume traffic was unusually bad and that she did her best?

Any interpersonal relationship is give-and-take, and in this case I don't think the nanny was willing to give enough (nor even a reasonable amount).

Signed,
Happy Nanny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I think families will always stand for other families, regardless how assholes they are or who is wrong or right. Some of you need a reality check, a nanny is also human and the fact you can afford help, doesn't mean you own us. If a nanny is happy, the kids will be happy. Think about this before being unkind, doesn't hurt being nice to people.

The nannies are not her side either. The more the OP posts back the more strange and immature she sounds.

OP Here: The more I most, the more strange it sounds? Really? How do you figure? I am posting ALL of the facts. Sorry if you are too slow to put them all together.