Pregnant Nanny Questions

[Anonymous]

Shaming people for their childcare choices is extremely rude, 21:27. Cut it out.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thank you for the advice and perspectives. This definitely will help in the conversation we have with our nanny and I hope we can work something out.

I did want to respond to a couple of statements made on this thread. As I mentioned in my OP, we have considered and eliminated the possibility of letting our nanny bring her child to work with her. In part, this is for all the reasons employers always post on these boards for not doing it, and in part this is based on a conversation with our insurance company concerning potential liabilities and exposure. As employers we do everything on the books and by the books and as much as we want to accommodate and retain our nanny, this risk is something we are not equipped or willing to undertake. I understand other families have different insurance coverage and risk tolerances but this is our situation and the decision we have made based on it.

Further, on this same point, I firmly believe nannies should be treated as professionals. However, part of being a professional is recognizing that your job description does not have to change to accommodate you - particularly at expense to your employer - just because you had a baby. Working mothers all over the world go to work leaving their children in the care of others, including those who take care of other children as their profession, such as teachers. If leaving your child to go to work is not the right choice for you, you are always free to make another choice - be it staying at home or seeking out a job that does permit it. We are prepared for the fact that our nanny may do this and will of course wish her well and give her a good reference if she does. However, I am not sure why I should be ashamed for not allowing this myself. At the end of the day, I have to do what is right for my family and my nanny will have to do what is right for her.

Nannies are adults and can make their own decisions around the parameters of the jobs open to them. What a nanny decides is on this very personal subject is entirely her own responsibility and not the responsibility of her employer.