MB *way* overstepping bounds
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Anonymous
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I work PT for a mother who is a nurse at one of the big hospitals here. I asked for (and received) time off coming up for a medical procedure that will leave me unable to walk unassisted for about 10 weeks. My procedure is at a different hospital than MBs and in a different county several hours away.
MB said to me to tell the nurses at my hospital I work for her to receive special treatment, which I just kind of bobbed my head around to, but didn't respond and changed the subject. Sunday I get a text from her to tell her my doctor and surgeon, she wants to know. I ignored the text. Tuesday she called and left a VM (she is in FL on a work trip right now) to again tell me the doctor and surgeons name so she can discuss my upcoming procedure with her colleagues. I am FLOORED that she is 1) discussing MY medical procedure with people not even at the hospital I am going to and 2) using her position at the hospital in a way that I am pretty sure violates HIPPA in multiple ways. So after thinking about her VM she left, I called the hospital and lodged a complaint against her. I have a meeting Wed morning to bring in the text and VM for Patient Relations to listen to. I have no idea what MB will do when she finds out. I've already quit (from this although she does not know yet) and have changed my number, asked my surgeon to transfer my case to another doctor and hospital and talked to my landlord and given notice. I'm like really freaked out that this MB is so insistent on worming her way into something that is NONE of her business. Oh, and I was given the time off (without pay) as between their vacations coming up and the holidays I was only working another 2.5 weeks between now and New Years (which is why I scheduled the procedure for when I did). Anyway, any thoughts on this from other nannies? Thanks |
Anonymous
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This makes ZERO sense. You are moving to avoid your MB who wanted to talk to your doctor? I agree she overstepped but seriously, paranoid much? Honestly, I have a hard time believing this is true because you aren't making any sense. Presumably you didn't tell her the name of your doctor so why do you need to transfer your care to a different one? Sorry but your whole post is bizarre.
And by the way, it doesn't violate HIPAA (not HIPPA) for her to talk about you when you aren't under her care. It violates HIPAA if YOUR doctor or nurse talks about you by name. |
Anonymous
| PP again. I think this is only the second time I am ever saying this but I call troll. |
Anonymous
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I have to think this is a troll also.
Yes, the MB would be overstepping - but from a place of concern for someone she cares about and a position of knowledge where many people would want her input. It's quite easy to say "No thank you" to someone's offer to be involved. It's absurd to quit and lodge a complaint. This can't be real. |
Anonymous
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I say troll.
I work for two parents in the medical profession and have always appreciated their care and attention when I've had to go in for surgery. MB always called her co-workers at the hospital to say their nanny and friend was having surgery and to please take extra good care of me. She'd even request certain personnel who she knew were the best. |
Anonymous
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Definitely a troll.
Makes no sense that a hospital would take a complaint from someone who is not under that hospital's care. As far as they're concerned, what she did is basically talk about the upcoming surgery of her friend, which is taking place hours away, with details given by the friend. A little gossipy, of course, but nothing to do with her job. |
Anonymous
| OP and *sigh* not a troll, even though when I read back over what I wrote it does sound delusional and ridiculous. There have been other things this MB has just gone past boundaries with and I guess that's a part of why this incident just bothers me like crazy. Anyway, my meeting with public relations is in 10min. |
Anonymous
Ok sweetie. Sure this is "real". Maybe in your delusions. |
Anonymous
| You sound crazy |
Anonymous
| Tell us how the meeting goes op. I want to know if it does violate HIPPA. In my opinion it should in someway but I don't know the laws. |
Anonymous
OP, it actually went pretty well, in my opinion. The patient relations person documented the text message and listened to and documented the voice mail and wrote up a report about my concerns and gave me a copy and said she would file the other copy, but didn't say where or with who. When I brought up that my big concern is that she would use her position at this hospital to get information she has no right to, from the hospital I am using, the PR person neither agreed or disagreed with me but did say that it was valid. So, that's that. |
Anonymous
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This is insane. Unless I want someone visiting me, I don't tell them which hospital I'm going to.
I still can't figure out why you thought you needed to move apartments.... |
Anonymous
Like I said, this isn't the first time she's overstepped (to me) huge, serious boundaries. I'm just done with her, her kid and the whole situation. I'm not moving far away, just in with my SO. If she were to pop up angry on my doorstep, it wouldn't be the first time. About 2 mos ago her kid was really sick and contagious and when I refused to keep him (she's not my main income source) she showed up mad as a hornet at my door demanding I keep her kid since that's my job. It's just been one part crazy after another. |
Anonymous
| sounds like you and your alleged employer are a perfect match - both crazy. |
Anonymous
Public relations. Patient relations. Good trolls can keep their story straight. You are not a good troll. |