My nanny declined my call

[Anonymous]

We have a wonderful nanny that has been with us for 10 months. Last night I called her because she forgot a personal item I thought she might need at my house. She didnt pick up. My husband called and she declined his call on second ring. She did return our call earlier today and always answers during work hours. My husband is mad and finds it disrespectful for her to decline our calls considering we are her bosses. I don't think it's a big deal at all and she may have been out with friends. He wants to speak about it Monday but I feel it isn't a big deal. Who is right in this matter?

[Anonymous]

Why didn't you just leave her a message when you couldn't reach her? Why on earth would you ask your husband to try her? This is so fake.

But if it were real obviously she's allowed to decline calls after work hours, she may have been in a movie theater trying to shut off her phone's buzzing.

[Anonymous]

Your husband is SOOOOO out of line. Its her phone, and its her time. You have no idea what reason she has for declining your call. It was a Friday night. Maybe she was out with friends, maybe she was driving, maybe she was at a movie or a church service, or eating dinner with her family. It could have been anything really. If he wants to talk about what is disrespectful, you should start with his assumption that his nanny owes him anything in her free time. Your husband is the one who needs to learn some respect. Respect for your nanny's time, respect for her boundaries, and respect for her as a person. She isn't his child to scold.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why didn't you just leave her a message when you couldn't reach her? Why on earth would you ask your husband to try her? This is so fake.

But if it were real obviously she's allowed to decline calls after work hours, she may have been in a movie theater trying to shut off her phone's buzzing.

I did leave a message but he wanted to try her as well. She left her purse behind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband is SOOOOO out of line. Its her phone, and its her time. You have no idea what reason she has for declining your call. It was a Friday night. Maybe she was out with friends, maybe she was driving, maybe she was at a movie or a church service, or eating dinner with her family. It could have been anything really. If he wants to talk about what is disrespectful, you should start with his assumption that his nanny owes him anything in her free time. Your husband is the one who needs to learn some respect. Respect for your nanny's time, respect for her boundaries, and respect for her as a person. She isn't his child to scold.

He does respect her.

[Anonymous]

Troll. She had her keys and phone on her but left her purse?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Troll. She had her keys and phone on her but left her purse?

I'm not a troll. She brings to bags with her, thank you.

[Anonymous]

* two*. One is her regular purse with keys, phone, etc. the other is a change of clothes, personal hygiene items, sunscreen, etc.

[Anonymous]

MB here. Yes, please talk to her. That way she knows she's working for assholes and can quit before it gets worse. And thank you for perpetuating the image that all bosses are assholes. I'm disgusted.

[Anonymous]

Mb here. He needs to let it go. He should have left her a voice mail.

[Anonymous]

You two have a child? And this is what you're worried about? Is he having postpartum issues or what?

[Anonymous]

I don't reply to emails, texts or phone calls outside if working hours. Your husband is out of line.

[Anonymous]

What if she was at a funeral, wedding, having sex, usually people make there phone stop ringing and deny a call when they really can't answer maybe she was driving .

[Anonymous]

This post cannot be for real. No one is that ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This post cannot be for real. No one is that ridiculous.

I agree. Someone here doesn't like seeing real issues getting addressed, so she fabricates nonsense.