My nanny declined my call

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here. Yes, please talk to her. That way she knows she's working for assholes and can quit before it gets worse. And thank you for perpetuating the image that all bosses are assholes. I'm disgusted.

+1 from another MB. I can't stand posts like this. No one in their right mind would have a problem with their employee (any employee) not answering their phone when they aren't working.

[Anonymous]

Your dh is way out of line. You left her a message and he SHOULD have left it at that. The rude part was him "trying" again after you had already left a message.

Entitled, isn't he?

[Anonymous]

This is crazy!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This post cannot be for real. No one is that ridiculous.

I agree. Someone here doesn't like seeing real issues getting addressed, so she fabricates nonsense.

[Anonymous]

Is this nanny being paid to be ON CALL for your family 24/7? If not then let it go.

[Anonymous]

Mb here. It is obviously acceptable to call the nanny multiple times during her time off if you are in the ER with your kids / her charges and need critical information for doctors like what did Johnny eat today or if he received his medicine and there is no other way to obtain such information but ask the nanny. I can understand how in that situation, it might be upsetting that she hangs up. One would presume that your first voice message would then convey the urgency of the situation, and the nanny might pick up the next time.

Forgotten purse is not an emergency, especially if wallet/keys are no involved. she probably listened to the voicemail, and thought to stop by later or not at all. My nannies left purses couple of times, and text messages were all that was needed.

Maybe I'm just used to texting, but for me and my nanny calls both ways always imply urgency (and I got really annoyed at my previous nanny for calling to discuss trifles as I left business meetings to take her calls for nothing). With my new nanny, text is the method to sort out trivial things, calls if communication is needed right away. I know she will pick up/return calls on the weekends ASAP, but she also knows that if we call her it is ER type conversation. I have not called her during her time off yet

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mb here. It is obviously acceptable to call the nanny multiple times during her time off if you are in the ER with your kids / her charges and need critical information for doctors like what did Johnny eat today or if he received his medicine and there is no other way to obtain such information but ask the nanny. I can understand how in that situation, it might be upsetting that she hangs up. One would presume that your first voice message would then convey the urgency of the situation, and the nanny might pick up the next time.

Forgotten purse is not an emergency, especially if wallet/keys are no involved. she probably listened to the voicemail, and thought to stop by later or not at all. My nannies left purses couple of times, and text messages were all that was needed.

Maybe I'm just used to texting, but for me and my nanny calls both ways always imply urgency (and I got really annoyed at my previous nanny for calling to discuss trifles as I left business meetings to take her calls for nothing). With my new nanny, text is the method to sort out trivial things, calls if communication is needed right away. I know she will pick up/return calls on the weekends ASAP, but she also knows that if we call her it is ER type conversation. I have not called her during her time off yet

+1 from another MB. Actually, our nanny once left her purse in my car (it didn't have her wallet or phone in it) and I would never have thought to call her about it. If it had something that she needed in it she would have called me. I sent her a text just to let her know I found it just in case she was looking for it but certainly didn't expect an answer.

As an employee myself I don't always answer work calls when I'm at home nor would my boss expect me to. I don't know why you would expect this of your nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mb here. It is obviously acceptable to call the nanny multiple times during her time off if you are in the ER with your kids / her charges and need critical information for doctors like what did Johnny eat today or if he received his medicine and there is no other way to obtain such information but ask the nanny. I can understand how in that situation, it might be upsetting that she hangs up. One would presume that your first voice message would then convey the urgency of the situation, and the nanny might pick up the next time.

Forgotten purse is not an emergency, especially if wallet/keys are no involved. she probably listened to the voicemail, and thought to stop by later or not at all. My nannies left purses couple of times, and text messages were all that was needed.

Maybe I'm just used to texting, but for me and my nanny calls both ways always imply urgency (and I got really annoyed at my previous nanny for calling to discuss trifles as I left business meetings to take her calls for nothing). With my new nanny, text is the method to sort out trivial things, calls if communication is needed right away. I know she will pick up/return calls on the weekends ASAP, but she also knows that if we call her it is ER type conversation. I have not called her during her time off yet

+1 from another MB. Actually, our nanny once left her purse in my car (it didn't have her wallet or phone in it) and I would never have thought to call her about it. If it had something that she needed in it she would have called me. I sent her a text just to let her know I found it just in case she was looking for it but certainly didn't expect an answer.

As an employee myself I don't always answer work calls when I'm at home nor would my boss expect me to. I don't know why you would expect this of your nanny.

Because being a nanny isn't like your work. It's more like being a big sister in a family. When MB calls you really should answer unless you are on the toilet or something. It's just polite.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mb here. It is obviously acceptable to call the nanny multiple times during her time off if you are in the ER with your kids / her charges and need critical information for doctors like what did Johnny eat today or if he received his medicine and there is no other way to obtain such information but ask the nanny. I can understand how in that situation, it might be upsetting that she hangs up. One would presume that your first voice message would then convey the urgency of the situation, and the nanny might pick up the next time.

Forgotten purse is not an emergency, especially if wallet/keys are no involved. she probably listened to the voicemail, and thought to stop by later or not at all. My nannies left purses couple of times, and text messages were all that was needed.

Maybe I'm just used to texting, but for me and my nanny calls both ways always imply urgency (and I got really annoyed at my previous nanny for calling to discuss trifles as I left business meetings to take her calls for nothing). With my new nanny, text is the method to sort out trivial things, calls if communication is needed right away. I know she will pick up/return calls on the weekends ASAP, but she also knows that if we call her it is ER type conversation. I have not called her during her time off yet

+1 from another MB. Actually, our nanny once left her purse in my car (it didn't have her wallet or phone in it) and I would never have thought to call her about it. If it had something that she needed in it she would have called me. I sent her a text just to let her know I found it just in case she was looking for it but certainly didn't expect an answer.

As an employee myself I don't always answer work calls when I'm at home nor would my boss expect me to. I don't know why you would expect this of your nanny.

Because being a nanny isn't like your work. It's more like being a big sister in a family. When MB calls you really should answer unless you are on the toilet or something. It's just polite.

MB here, agreeing w/ both MBs above. Our nanny isn't a "big sister in our family". She's an employee. When she's not working I leave her alone unless it's an emergency. I respect her privacy and her personal life, the same way I expect my employer to respect mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mb here. It is obviously acceptable to call the nanny multiple times during her time off if you are in the ER with your kids / her charges and need critical information for doctors like what did Johnny eat today or if he received his medicine and there is no other way to obtain such information but ask the nanny. I can understand how in that situation, it might be upsetting that she hangs up. One would presume that your first voice message would then convey the urgency of the situation, and the nanny might pick up the next time.

Forgotten purse is not an emergency, especially if wallet/keys are no involved. she probably listened to the voicemail, and thought to stop by later or not at all. My nannies left purses couple of times, and text messages were all that was needed.

Maybe I'm just used to texting, but for me and my nanny calls both ways always imply urgency (and I got really annoyed at my previous nanny for calling to discuss trifles as I left business meetings to take her calls for nothing). With my new nanny, text is the method to sort out trivial things, calls if communication is needed right away. I know she will pick up/return calls on the weekends ASAP, but she also knows that if we call her it is ER type conversation. I have not called her during her time off yet

+1 from another MB. Actually, our nanny once left her purse in my car (it didn't have her wallet or phone in it) and I would never have thought to call her about it. If it had something that she needed in it she would have called me. I sent her a text just to let her know I found it just in case she was looking for it but certainly didn't expect an answer.

As an employee myself I don't always answer work calls when I'm at home nor would my boss expect me to. I don't know why you would expect this of your nanny.

Because being a nanny isn't like your work. It's more like being a big sister in a family. When MB calls you really should answer unless you are on the toilet or something. It's just polite.

Oh please. MB here and I would never expect DS' nanny to pick up if I called her during off times. During off hours, we communicate mostly by text (sometimes email) because it allows both parties to respond when convenient.

[Anonymous]

Gee...Your husband sounds like he is a Type A personality.

So she declined his call. It is her phone and thus her decision of what to do with it whenever she wants to.

Maybe she was in the shower, having sex, watching a movie, etc.

She could have been in the middle of doing a million of things and she has every right in the world to do every one of them.

What right does your husband think he has to lecture her on declining her calls just because he is her boss??!

If I were your nanny, I would run far and fast away from your family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Mb here. It is obviously acceptable to call the nanny multiple times during her time off if you are in the ER with your kids / her charges and need critical information for doctors like what did Johnny eat today or if he received his medicine and there is no other way to obtain such information but ask the nanny. I can understand how in that situation, it might be upsetting that she hangs up. One would presume that your first voice message would then convey the urgency of the situation, and the nanny might pick up the next time.

Forgotten purse is not an emergency, especially if wallet/keys are no involved. she probably listened to the voicemail, and thought to stop by later or not at all. My nannies left purses couple of times, and text messages were all that was needed.

Maybe I'm just used to texting, but for me and my nanny calls both ways always imply urgency (and I got really annoyed at my previous nanny for calling to discuss trifles as I left business meetings to take her calls for nothing). With my new nanny, text is the method to sort out trivial things, calls if communication is needed right away. I know she will pick up/return calls on the weekends ASAP, but she also knows that if we call her it is ER type conversation. I have not called her during her time off yet

+1 from another MB. Actually, our nanny once left her purse in my car (it didn't have her wallet or phone in it) and I would never have thought to call her about it. If it had something that she needed in it she would have called me. I sent her a text just to let her know I found it just in case she was looking for it but certainly didn't expect an answer.

As an employee myself I don't always answer work calls when I'm at home nor would my boss expect me to. I don't know why you would expect this of your nanny.

Because being a nanny isn't like your work. It's more like being a big sister in a family. When MB calls you really should answer unless you are on the toilet or something. It's just polite.

MB here, agreeing w/ both MBs above. Our nanny isn't a "big sister in our family". She's an employee. When she's not working I leave her alone unless it's an emergency. I respect her privacy and her personal life, the same way I expect my employer to respect mine.

I don't answer my families calls either. So I guess I'm good.

If I'm busy no I'm not answer anyone's call.
Get a grip

[Anonymous]

Op
Please come back and tell the excuse that was given for not picking up get phone. Obviously no excuse is good enough, so I hope you beat her and locked her in the closet for a while.

She will learn.

[Anonymous]

Good for her. You have no right to intrude on her when she is off duty unless it is a dire emergency, e.g., life or death. I hope she finds another position and leaves you and your idiot husband to cope on your own. FWIW I am Not a nanny.

[Anonymous]

It really doesn't matter whether she was doing something at the time, what matters is even if she was doing nothing at all, it is her right not to answer her phone just because she doesn't want to talk to either of you during her time off. Give the woman a break for goodness sake. Unless it is a genuine emergency then just let her be, it's her time, not yours. I really fail to understand what on earth your husband is so worked up about unless he is a controlling individual who wants to have control over everyone in his life. She is her own person and not owned by either of you.