nanny share process/etiquette

[Anonymous]

FTM --- totally clueless about how to navigate the nanny share search/interview process. For example, when one family has found a nanny they like but needs another family for the share --- then what? Do DH and I interview both the prospective nanny and family hosting the share? What should be discussed?

Are there other costs to be aware of besides salary and taxes? Can we double-check references ourselves after hosting family has done so?

[Anonymous]

Please search this forum for many of your answers.

[Anonymous]

I'm a nanny who does shares and I usually take the bull by the horns and do my own search when we need a new family. The most important match is between you and the nanny not between you and the other family. I usually am the middle man between the families as they rarely see each other.

So you can start by looking for a nanny, or you can start by interviewing nannies who already work for afamily looking for a share which is probably easier since she'll already have a routine with those kids and will only need to get to know yours instead of all the kids. Once you decide you like the nanny, then you can meet the other family and go from there.

Expenses... Just for outings and such. Figure out diapers, food wipes,, bring your own or put money into a common fund and share. Make sure if you do/don't want your kids to go on outings you find a family and nanny to match.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a nanny who does shares and I usually take the bull by the horns and do my own search when we need a new family. The most important match is between you and the nanny not between you and the other family. I usually am the middle man between the families as they rarely see each other.

So you can start by looking for a nanny, or you can start by interviewing nannies who already work for afamily looking for a share which is probably easier since she'll already have a routine with those kids and will only need to get to know yours instead of all the kids. Once you decide you like the nanny, then you can meet the other family and go from there.

Expenses... Just for outings and such. Figure out diapers, food wipes,, bring your own or put money into a common fund and share. Make sure if you do/don't want your kids to go on outings you find a family and nanny to match.

This is exactly the better way to approach doing a share. You deal directly with the care provider, OP.

[Anonymous]

OP sounds like you are the one contemplating joining an existing share right? This is ok but of course you should be able to vet references too

"Do DH and I interview both the prospective nanny and family hosting the share? What should be discussed?"

With the nanny you interview her normally as you would anyone you are hiring. You need to discuss hours, pay, guaranteed hours, PTO, expectations, etc. (run a search as it is a common question and not unique to shares) As to the other family you need to make sure you are generally compatible and that you can agree on core things critical in a share such as PTO and guaranteed hours. Because if they make the nanny want to quit then that is your problem too. Also need to ensure you are compatible in expectations for what nanny should do and how she should deal with the kids.

"Are there other costs to be aware of besides salary and taxes?"

Holiday bonus, workers compensation insurance, unemployment insurance - state and federal, food for nanny if you plan to offer it, additional utility costs if you are host family, extra high chair or pack n'play to leave at host house, double stroller, misc walking around money for nanny to occasionally spend a few dollars out with the kids.

[Anonymous]

NANNY SHARES ARE ILLEGAL!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NANNY SHARES ARE ILLEGAL!!

no they're not. Stop being stupid.