Endless screaming
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Anonymous
My charges are 6mo old (twins) and have started screaming all day. Not so much crying-screaming, just shrill scream at the top of my lungs type stuff. We aren't allowed to go anywhere outside of the house, save a 10min walk once a day if it's not too hot, which it already is (not DC). I'm loosing my mind. Their night sleep has improved dramatically and now they are barely eeking by on an hour nap a day. I'm here 10hrs and they're miserable. They weren't held much as newborns (I've been here 6wks) and as such do not like to be cuddled, rocked etc. They're at the right age for separation anxiety, however they scream whether I'm in the room or not. These aren't my first twin charges, nor my first infant ones, but right now, I'm ready to pull my hair out. 
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Anonymous
| Huh, you're not allowed what? |
Anonymous
| Leave. |
Anonymous
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If you're not allowed to leave the house then I highly recommend finding a new job. That being said I don't usually take my twin charges (8 months) anywhere despite being able to. Our daily schedule is VERY repetitive goes like this:
7:30 wake up, diaper change, naked or diaper time, get dressed 8:00 breakfast 8:30 outside playtime - we play on the deck if its raining or i'll bring out large bowls of water for them to sit and splash in when its hot out 9:30 diaper change, silly songs/stories 10:00-11:30 morning nap 11:30 wake up, diaper change, naked/diaper play time, get dressed 12:00 lunch 12:30 inside playtime - they play in their bouncers, on their playmat, i read them stories and sing songs 2:00-4:00 afternoon nap 4:00 wake up, diaper change, naked/diaper playtime, get dressed 4:30 playtime downstairs until mom or dad gets home at 5 |
Anonymous
| ^^ I'm the PP who posted the schedule. NO 6 month old should only be taking an hour nap. It'll take some time to adjust their day time schedule but within a week you should be getting two solid naps in (1 morning and 1 afternoon) |
Anonymous
| My 2 yr old charge naps 3-4 hrs a day and sleeps 12 hrs a night. They need more sleep |
Anonymous
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OP "is allowed" outside 10 minutes of a 10 hour day?
Troll. |
Anonymous
OP here and not a troll. Mom asked I not be outside with them more than 10min once a day. Her babies, her rules. |
Anonymous
And you troll. Or you're a horrible person. No nanny would agree to that crap. Sorry. |
Anonymous
| Yeah OP that's weird. Do you live in AZ or something? What is the deal with that rule, what's her reasoning? |
Anonymous
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When she told you the "Ten minute rule" during the interview or prior to hire, how did that sit with you OP?
Because that would have made me run for the hills immediately.... |
Anonymous
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I would go insane being stuck in the house for all but 10 minutes of a ten hour day! Especially with babies. I'm sorry you're in this situation, OP. All you can do is talk to the MB and express how bad it is for babies to only see the inside of the house save 10 minutes a day and if she doesn't chance her mind you will have to quit.
As for the screaming - Oy! I couldn't handle that either! |
Anonymous
I can see clearly you don't have any experience as good nanny,if his screaming is because his have some problem ,baby /kids love to play,be feed ,change ,see if his have year infection,lots thing make the babies upset,,you have to learn more about how to take care this poor baby. I have more than 24 years of experience and I know what am talking a about..... |
Anonymous
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You're in a tough spot with a mother like this.
At 6 months those kids should be taking a MIINIMUM of two naps a day, each of at least 2 hours in length, or 3 shorter naps. Discuss this chart w/ your MB: http://www.parents.com/baby/sleep/basics/age-by-age-guide/ Until they get enough sleep you can't really know what you're dealing w/ in terms of temperament. But they are starting to be of an age where they can understand what does and does not garner attention. If they are screaming to get attention (again - not because they're unhappy and sleep deprived, or hungry, or needing a change) then you don't reward that behavior. But honestly - the sleep has to be fixed. My twins are almost 3 and they followed the basic rules for average amount of sleep and number of naps as thought they were written specifically for them. They became (still do) totally different children if they didn't get enough sleep. I also practice the non-attention for screaming thing and it works, but you have bigger fish to fry. Good luck. |
Anonymous
| Anyone who lets a baby outside only ten minutes a day, is clearly insane. You need to get out of there ASAP! |