Endless screaming
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C'mon guys, I don't want to quit (OP here) but the screaming all day long is slowly driving me batty. They aren't screaming in pain, just....scream talking.
MB has her reasons for keeping the twins indoors and as they're her babies, I totally respect that. But this sleeping/screaming thing I have got to get a handle on. Today they slept better but only because I coddled the twin who wakes everyone up. |
Anonymous
You agreed to forced isolation, except for your allowable ten minutes of outside freedom. |
Anonymous
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I would work on having those children get more sleep. At 6 months of age, they probably need a morning nap by 9:30 or 10am latest. LATEST. For some reason, nearly 100% of all babies need a morning nap no more than 2 or 3 hours after they wake up in the morning. After that 1-2 hour AM nap, most babies seem to be able to go for about 5 or 6 hours until their next nap. I don't know why this is, but in my many years of experience, it's been true.
Now, I'd try at 9:30am to change their diapers, then snuggle in a semi-darkened bedroom with some books and quiet songs, then put them to sleep. Hopefully they sleep in the same room so you can help the harder one to fall asleep. don't wait until they "look" or "act" sleepy (rubbing eyes, yawning) because at that point they are OVER tired. I know, sounds crazy, but it's the real deal. So they should look a little glazed-eye, but not be yawning and rubbing their eyes. So if they need to go to bed at 9am, that's fine. Then have a nice active day once they get up - you can't go outside, but you can put on music and "dance" with them, get them out of bouncy/exersaucers and have them be on the floor so they can work on their core muscles by sitting up (assisted at this point) for short bits of time, while you sit right there and play with them, chat, sing songs, read books, etc. You shouldn't be anywhere but on the floor with them at this point, nice and close so they feel comfortable and safe that you aren't going anywhere. Now, if the harder one wakes up early, go in ASAP and rub the baby back to sleep - I wouldn't take her out of the crib necessarily unless the baby is freaking out - I'd just rub the baby's head (I'm assuming he's sleeping on his back) or if he can roll over then rub his back. Quietly, perhaps murmuring shhhhhh...... over and over. But jump on him - don't let him get into full roar, because he'll wake himself up. At this point, you want him to go back to sleep and get another period of sleep, because eventually you want the baby to sleep one whole period of 1-2 hours, but at this point if he wakes after 30 minutes, do whatever you need to do (rub head, back, rock in rocking chair, whatever) to get him back to sleep for 30 minutes. If you consistently do this the SECOND he wakes up, he'll get used to sleeping the whole period of time without waking up. (I know, sounds like voodoo, but I kid you not, I've seen this work). His body is waking up on a schedule, and you want to change that "schedule". (you wake up at the same/similar time on the weekends as on the weekdays, even though you don't "need" to, right? It's a similar principle.) Go to sleeplady.com to learn more info about sleep. Once you have the 2 naps down pat, the scream/whining should go away because the babies should feel better. Also, you haven't been there very long, right? so the kids don't know you that well? Could be that, in addition to the lack of sleep they are getting. |
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| Why only 10 minutes a day outside? |
Anonymous
NP. I really like this schedule. Thanks for sharing! I'm going to try and do something similar with my kiddos. |
Anonymous
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Never put up with not being allowed to leave the house.
Or report them. I can't imagine that's even legal. |
Anonymous
Why is there so much naked time? I'd be creeped out if my nanny kept wanting my kids to be naked. |
Anonymous
Maybe next work on grammar/punctuation. |
Anonymous
As a twin nanny, I assume she is just referring to the fact that you don't usually getnone child 100% dressed and ready and then do the other, you might get both twins naked, then change diapers, then brush teeth, then get dressed and the whole thing takes about 15-20 minutes and often includes half-naked shenanigans. |
Anonymous
+1 In all my years of studying childhood development, I've never heard of this. Maybe it's some feminist agenda thing. I don't know. |
Anonymous
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This is a major derailment of the thread, and I'm not the poster who wrote it, but for those of you questioning "naked/diaper playtime", some naked time is actually really good for the skin. Allowing some nakedness can really help minimize diaper rash for instance.
Also, it's a half hour slot for getting up, changed, dressed for twins. As a mom of twins that is perfectly reasonable. 
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