Why I am leaving my nanny job (and what parents need to avoid doing).

[Anonymous]

I feel like for most of you, this is common sense. However, no matter how close you are with your nanny do not get her involved in your personal life. Do not tell her about your spousal disagreements. Do not tell her your husbands dirty laundry. Do not bitch to her about your husband, her boss. Not only is it extremely disrespectful to your spouse, it's disrespectful to your nanny.

I can understand if you are frustrated with your relationship with your spouse. I do. Just keep it to yourself. Or phone a friend. Even if your nanny has been with you for years, she doesn't want to hear it.

Do you know what it's like going to work everyday knowing more about your bosses life than you do about your own parents? My MB has tried to get me on her side of her super rocky marriage, but you know what. I can't respect anyone who is willing to tell her spouses personal business to an employee.

I'm done.

I feel sorry for the kids, whom I love so much. Living in a house that's falling to shambles. However, you cannot make your nanny the peacekeeper. That is too much stress. I'm done covering for DB, when he doesn't do his job as a father and husband. I'm also done with listening to MB bitch about it. Done.

You lost me. I loved your kids so much, and your family as well. I just cannot take the brunt of your relationship troubles, and deal with my own.

[Anonymous]

Good for you for leaving! I testified in a divorce trial once and it was really an awful, stressful experience. I was only with that family 3 months, just as the marriage was really falling apart and the mom did the same thing as your MB. I ended up testifying on behalf of the dad. They were both lousy parents but the mom wanted to cut the dad out of the kids lives entirely which was wrong. I was just one nanny in a long line of many. Two of us testified for the dad, two for the mom and some wouldn't testify at all. Do your best not to get involved and run run run!

Signed,
BTDT and it sucked

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good for you for leaving! I testified in a divorce trial once and it was really an awful, stressful experience. I was only with that family 3 months, just as the marriage was really falling apart and the mom did the same thing as your MB. I ended up testifying on behalf of the dad. They were both lousy parents but the mom wanted to cut the dad out of the kids lives entirely which was wrong. I was just one nanny in a long line of many. Two of us testified for the dad, two for the mom and some wouldn't testify at all. Do your best not to get involved and run run run!

Signed,
BTDT and it sucked

I really hope it doesn't come to that, but it probably will.

I have been with this family for three in a half years. Oldest is almost four, youngest is nine months. It had been falling apart since day one, but in the past year it got bad. MB has threatened to take the kids across the country numerous times. She uses them as a pawn against DB. He may be lazy, but his isn't abusive or neglectful. She has no right to take those kids from their father just to spite him.

I'm leaving before it gets too messy. I just hope the best for those kids, love them to pieces. Sad they have to grow up in a hostile environment.

[Anonymous]

This is a one reason (but not the biggest) for me leaving my current family once this school year ends. The parents aren't really saying anything to me directly, but I can see that their marriage is falling apart, and I really don't want to be in the middle of it. You can kind of tell that they just aren't comfortable being around one another, and around the time things started to feel awkward at home the little girl started to ask me about parents fighting, divorces, etc.

I feel bad, and I want to be there for her as much as I can, but I won't be able to afford any type of gap in my employment because I know if they decide to divorce they will let me go.