NEVER, NEVER, NEVER discuss personal pregnancy plans IF you're a woman AND you want a job

[Anonymous]

IF they ask you (which is illegal,)
you say something vague, like
"In a few years, we hope to have a family,
but it's hard to know exactly how many years from now."
That's how ALL women are advised
to handle such INTRUSIVE questions,
if they want a job.

Given the ever increasing rates of infertility,
it's crazy to assume you can even get pregnant,
unless you've taken good measures
to maintain your optimal health.

As an additional note,
any family asking about your PERSONAL life,
has BOUNDARY issues,
and should be considered a RED FLAG.
Nanny, BEWARE.

[Anonymous]

Dude it's good advice but it's not a poem. Stop writing as if it is.

[Anonymous]

I agree with OP. I would also add to NEVER discuss your personal life at all - in an interview or on the job. Nothing good can ever come from it.

Smile, be pleasant and stay vague about all personal details.

[Anonymous]

"Good fences make good neighbors."

[Anonymous]

I know women's rights is important but being a nanny is not the same as a basic "job". When your job is working at McDonalds, you are paid for the time you are there and that is it, you can easily be replaced with nearly anyone, you have coworkers, the company has enough staff, resources, and money to not be effected by your absence. Being a nanny is very different, you can't be replaced easily, the family doesn't have the resources to cover your absence, they can't hold your position for 2 months for maternity leave, the children bond with you, etc etc etc. Too bad that is how it is.

[Anonymous]

This sound advice applies to virtually all jobs but most certainly nanny jobs. If you want to get pregnant you may not be able to and if you don't want to get pregnant it may happen accidentally (if you are in your child-bearing years) so there is no point.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sound advice applies to virtually all jobs but most certainly nanny jobs. If you want to get pregnant you may not be able to and if you don't want to get pregnant it may happen accidentally (if you are in your child-bearing years) so there is no point.

If you are a nanny and sleeping around you really should be on birth control.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sound advice applies to virtually all jobs but most certainly nanny jobs. If you want to get pregnant you may not be able to and if you don't want to get pregnant it may happen accidentally (if you are in your child-bearing years) so there is no point.

If you are a nanny and sleeping around you really should be on birth control.

Yes, and thank God all birth control is 100% effective! My second son should have been born with "nuvaring" stamped on his butt. And does sex with your husband constitute "sleeping around" as we have made love in various locations?

[Anonymous]

The needy nanny who wants to her her MB about her breakup should probably ready this... Boundaries!!

[Anonymous]

OP's advice is solid for any woman looking for a job in any industry. Never talk about family planning with any employer.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The needy nanny who wants to her her MB about her breakup should probably ready this... Boundaries!!

Same with the needy MB who wants to tell the nanny about the fight she had with her husband or her bad Pap smear.

[Anonymous]

Stop dissing the nanny and her break up. Every family/nanny relationship is different.

And the OP of this discussion needs go grow up, as do most of the people who "contribute" to these boards.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop dissing the nanny and her break up. Every family/nanny relationship is different.

And the OP of this discussion needs go grow up, as do most of the people who "contribute" to these boards.

Take you own advice, Child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Stop dissing the nanny and her break up. Every family/nanny relationship is different.

And the OP of this discussion needs go grow up, as do most of the people who "contribute" to these boards.

Take you own advice, Child.

Really, is that the best insult you can think of?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I know women's rights is important but being a nanny is not the same as a basic "job". When your job is working at McDonalds, you are paid for the time you are there and that is it, you can easily be replaced with nearly anyone, you have coworkers, the company has enough staff, resources, and money to not be effected by your absence. Being a nanny is very different, you can't be replaced easily, the family doesn't have the resources to cover your absence, they can't hold your position for 2 months for maternity leave, the children bond with you, etc etc etc. Too bad that is how it is.

If your child's stability is so important (as it should be,) perhaps you should reconsider your family priorities.