Nannies Socializing

[Anonymous]

I attended my son'a preschool graduation with my nanny yesterday. She say next to a fellow nanny and they chatted the entire time before the ceremony. They also hung around each other during the free play time. I'm not sure how I feel about this, and if I should be concerned if this happens every time they're together?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I attended my son'a preschool graduation with my nanny yesterday. She say next to a fellow nanny and they chatted the entire time before the ceremony. They also hung around each other during the free play time. I'm not sure how I feel about this, and if I should be concerned if this happens every time they're together?

That wouldn't bother me at all. I'd appreciate a little space to be the one concentrating on my child in that setting, and for a rising Kindergartener it's totally appropriate for them to have some time to play on their own.

[Anonymous]

All people need human interaction to have a truly fulfilling life, please remember that your nanny is human too. I can think of many ways this is a benefit for your child but here are just a few:

1. She probably has other nannies she can meet up with to form play groups. That is both free to you and good for socializing your little one.

2. Another nanny who knows your baby is another set of eyes on your child at the park. Not that she will not pay attention but nanny friends look out for one another's charges and there is even less chance anyone will get hurt.

3. She is less likely to quit the job. Every person needs support from time to time. Unless you are a single parent (bless their hearts) chances are you rarely have your kids for 10 to 12 hours without a single break. That is the type of stress her nanny friends understand and will help her with.

4. Nannies who know her are more likely to provide emergency care in an emergency. Last year I learned that my grandfather died while I was with my kiddo. Fortunately, another nanny who the family knew from our numerous play dates was able to come over with no advance notice so I could get home.

OP, none of this applies to nannies who gossip about their families private business though. That is not professional, its unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All people need human interaction to have a truly fulfilling life, please remember that your nanny is human too. I can think of many ways this is a benefit for your child but here are just a few:

1. She probably has other nannies she can meet up with to form play groups. That is both free to you and good for socializing your little one.

2. Another nanny who knows your baby is another set of eyes on your child at the park. Not that she will not pay attention but nanny friends look out for one another's charges and there is even less chance anyone will get hurt.

3. She is less likely to quit the job. Every person needs support from time to time. Unless you are a single parent (bless their hearts) chances are you rarely have your kids for 10 to 12 hours without a single break. That is the type of stress her nanny friends understand and will help her with.

4. Nannies who know her are more likely to provide emergency care in an emergency. Last year I learned that my grandfather died while I was with my kiddo. Fortunately, another nanny who the family knew from our numerous play dates was able to come over with no advance notice so I could get home.

OP, none of this applies to nannies who gossip about their families private business though. That is not professional, its unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I attended my son'a preschool graduation with my nanny yesterday. She say next to a fellow nanny and they chatted the entire time before the ceremony. They also hung around each other during the free play time. I'm not sure how I feel about this, and if I should be concerned if this happens every time they're together?

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Oh my Lord!!!i don't believe that...

[Anonymous]

I don't understand your concern. Are you worried she isn't properly supervising your child when she is around other nannies?

[Anonymous]

MB here, and I also don't understand your concern.

I am always happy when my nanny has active nanny friends/contacts in the neighborhood. It gives her options for playdates, gives the kids good socialization, gives the nanny some adult company (I think 10 hours w/ toddlers is tough!), and also builds a network of kids and families in my neighborhood that I think will be valuable over the years.

If you had a friend attending the show wouldn't you have sat with him/her?

I don't know what you're worried about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All people need human interaction to have a truly fulfilling life, please remember that your nanny is human too. I can think of many ways this is a benefit for your child but here are just a few:

1. She probably has other nannies she can meet up with to form play groups. That is both free to you and good for socializing your little one.

2. Another nanny who knows your baby is another set of eyes on your child at the park. Not that she will not pay attention but nanny friends look out for one another's charges and there is even less chance anyone will get hurt.

3. She is less likely to quit the job. Every person needs support from time to time. Unless you are a single parent (bless their hearts) chances are you rarely have your kids for 10 to 12 hours without a single break. That is the type of stress her nanny friends understand and will help her with.

4. Nannies who know her are more likely to provide emergency care in an emergency. Last year I learned that my grandfather died while I was with my kiddo. Fortunately, another nanny who the family knew from our numerous play dates was able to come over with no advance notice so I could get home.

OP, none of this applies to nannies who gossip about their families private business though. That is not professional, its unacceptable.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:All people need human interaction to have a truly fulfilling life, please remember that your nanny is human too. I can think of many ways this is a benefit for your child but here are just a few:

1. She probably has other nannies she can meet up with to form play groups. That is both free to you and good for socializing your little one.

2. Another nanny who knows your baby is another set of eyes on your child at the park. Not that she will not pay attention but nanny friends look out for one another's charges and there is even less chance anyone will get hurt.

3. She is less likely to quit the job. Every person needs support from time to time. Unless you are a single parent (bless their hearts) chances are you rarely have your kids for 10 to 12 hours without a single break. That is the type of stress her nanny friends understand and will help her with.

4. Nannies who know her are more likely to provide emergency care in an emergency. Last year I learned that my grandfather died while I was with my kiddo. Fortunately, another nanny who the family knew from our numerous play dates was able to come over with no advance notice so I could get home.

OP, none of this applies to nannies who gossip about their families private business though. That is not professional, its unacceptable.

+100

Another +100
What a lot of parents who work out of the home seem to forget is that nannies are adults who need adult interaction as well. Other nannies are in some ways our "coworkers".

[Anonymous]

I had an old boss that didn't want me socializing with the other nannies. Reason because it was a nanny share and they each wanted to pay minimum wage 7$ per family so 14$ an hour and she didn't want me finding out I was being ripped off. I didn't know the rates well because I had just moved here

[Anonymous]

You are worried because your child's nanny had a chat with a fellow nanny.

Two thoughts for you:

Would any of the parents in attendance have bothered to speak to the nannies? If not, no wonder they sought each other out.

Get a grip. People need to communicate with others, especially when they work in isolated circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Yeah, I have no clue what the issue here is, OP.

You are coming off like a slave-owner here - wanting to dictate who your employee can and cannot talk to and thinking your approval of who she speaks to means anything at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:


OP, none of this applies to nannies who gossip about their families private business though. That is not professional, its unacceptable.

No, gossip is ok, talking is normal. Fear not, you are not special enough to be the topic

[Anonymous]

I was watching one of our past nannies once when DS was 3 and she was at an indoor play area with him and he got preoccupied with something and she turned her attention to another child that had wandered up to her and played with him for a while instead of DS. We let her go that evening.

If your a nanny being paid to be with one child you should give 110% of your focus to that child. No texting, no chatting, no dealing with other children. Do your damn job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was watching one of our past nannies once when DS was 3 and she was at an indoor play area with him and he got preoccupied with something and she turned her attention to another child that had wandered up to her and played with him for a while instead of DS. We let her go that evening.

If your a nanny being paid to be with one child you should give 110% of your focus to that child. No texting, no chatting, no dealing with other children. Do your damn job.

Calm down, Bitter Mommy. OP and her nanny were at a preschool graduation ceremony and no child watching was involved.