Can i sue her for all the trouble she has caused me?

[Anonymous]

Ok I will try to keep this short. I've nannied in the past and decided to try to find a job. I'd been out of work for a while due to being ill and I answered an ad on a nanny website I've used a lot in the past. The lady called me for an interview and later hired me. She asked me to come over so she could show me the ropes of her kids schedules. The first week she called and said the little boy had a sinus infection and could we do this next week. I agreed and went as planned to her house. She was not around and I tried to get in touch with her several times over the end of last week and the weekend but she never answered or called me back. I became worried so this morning I called the non-emergency cops. They never came. Her car wasn't at her apartment and her lights were on. I'm still waiting to see if I hear from the cops but I'm starting to think she is just avoiding me. My question is, I feel this was fraud, malicious, and wrong because I was counting on the money I would have made from that job. Can I sue her for the money I would have been paid? when I was planing on leaving? Or at least press some sort or charges? I feel she needs to pay. If she didn't want me she shouldn't have hired me.

I'm also looking for something else, she officially hired me, and I was and am not mentally ill. I had a small stroke and have no lasting effects from it. This for me is about setting an example that you shouldn't be able to do this to people, what she did was childish.

[Anonymous]

No, you cannot. Get over it and move on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ok I will try to keep this short. I've nannied in the past and decided to try to find a job. I'd been out of work for a while due to being ill and I answered an ad on a nanny website I've used a lot in the past. The lady called me for an interview and later hired me. She asked me to come over so she could show me the ropes of her kids schedules. The first week she called and said the little boy had a sinus infection and could we do this next week. I agreed and went as planned to her house. She was not around and I tried to get in touch with her several times over the end of last week and the weekend but she never answered or called me back. I became worried so this morning I called the non-emergency cops. They never came. Her car wasn't at her apartment and her lights were on. I'm still waiting to see if I hear from the cops but I'm starting to think she is just avoiding me. My question is, I feel this was fraud, malicious, and wrong because I was counting on the money I would have made from that job. Can I sue her for the money I would have been paid? when I was planing on leaving? Or at least press some sort or charges? I feel she needs to pay. If she didn't want me she shouldn't have hired me.

I'm also looking for something else, she officially hired me, and I was and am not mentally ill. I had a small stroke and have no lasting effects from it. This for me is about setting an example that you shouldn't be able to do this to people, what she did was childish.

Your stroke may have had more side effects than you are aware of, specifically, you sound a bit nuts. When she didn't call you back, you should have assumed you were no longer going to be employed and moved on. The fact that you contacted her repeatedly and got no answer should have been an even greater indication that the position was no longer yours. Calling the cops and contemplating a frivolous lawsuit ( which would be a HUGE waste of you and a lawyer's time) just make you seem unhinged. Whatever leg you may have had to stand on before calling the police is gone. Walk away from this situation and hope that this woman doesn't spread the word about your behavior.

[Anonymous]

She went about it the wrong way, she should have been upfront with you. But I'm assuming she noticed your instability and changed her mind. You are way too impulsive. Calling the cops on her was just ridiculous. Stop harassing this woman, don't sue her.

[Anonymous]

I am the poster and I didn't call the police to cause trouble, I was worried and wanted to no what was going on. I'm perfectly stable with no mental health conditions.

[Anonymous]

She went about it wrong is an understatement. She sounds awful, but you need to let it go. Yeah it's annoying, but you need to focus your energies on positive things ie. finding a job and staying healthy, not on paying someone back. She will get hers. They always do.

[Anonymous]

You drove to her apartment to see if she was there? I'm sorry you sound completely unhinged. Did she handle this wrong? yes totally and like a PP said, karma will eventually get her back. But seriously, you sound a little unhinged and perhaps nannying isn't the best thing for you right now.

[Anonymous]

OP, I'm concerned that you may be experiencing some effects from the stroke. Not all side effects will be clear cut. Please make an appt with your doctor to see if there is some damage to the part of your brain that handles impulse control.

[Anonymous]

Also, continuously mentioning that you are NOT mentally I'll is a pretty big red flag here. Seek some kind of help.

[Anonymous]

http://www.strokesupport.eu/psychology/changes.html

please read this OP. Lack of impulse control is a sign of damage from the stroke. Please talk to your doctor. My concern is that you will find a job in charge of a child and put that child in harms way because of the poor impulse control. Then you might find yourself being the one sued or worse.

[Anonymous]

Your stroke may have had more side effects than you are aware of, specifically, you sound a bit nuts.

I agree with this. When we were interviewing, I had multiple messages from one candidate that kept progressing as she imagined that we had spoken, I had hired her, then we were just working out details, and then resolving those details. Each message was progressively more panicked and even though she was speaking as if we had spoken she kept urgently asking me to call back and why were we missing each other. Its was VERY strange as I had never called her once. I would have thought that she thought she was calling someone else but she kept using my name and referring to details in the ad. I almost changed my phone number.

[Anonymous]

OP, one of the side effects of stokes is a quick temper. It sounds like you have that.

Regardless though, I assure you that you do not have a case and no legitimate attorney would take you on. Obviously you do not have a signed contract since otherwise you would have mentioned that. But even with that, people are allowed to change their minds.

[Anonymous]

I'm the poster and I can assure you that I am perfectly stable. mentally and emotionally. I am just upset that I was led on only to be ignored. It's cold and uncalled for. Any next steps I'd be willing to take.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm the poster and I can assure you that I am perfectly stable. mentally and emotionally. I am just upset that I was led on only to be ignored. It's cold and uncalled for. Any next steps I'd be willing to take.

There are no next steps except to move on. She did nothing that you can sue her for or go after her for. Was she rude? Yes, but she did nothing illegal. So spend your energy trying to find a new job.

[Anonymous]

OP, she didn't handle it poorly, and you are also not handling it well. Most likely, she had every intention to hire you and then faced some family tragedy or issue that severely impacted her finances. Perhaps she lost her job, her partner died/was arrested, you have no idea. After the first phone call went unanswered, you should have been looking for other jobs. Move on.