Wow, posters are NASTY on the nanny forum, and pretty quick to diagnose a mental illness.
OP, I'm sorry this happened to you. She should have called if she needed to cancel, and there is no excuse for her bad behavior. Can you sue her? Yes, anyone can file a complaint, but it wouldn't do you any good, especially since she probably intended to hire you and than changed her mind (which is perfectly legal). Hope you are able to get a better position soon, but remember never count on money from a job you haven't done yet. You have to look out for yourself that way. Good luck! |
| OP, you should just move on from this. Just take it as a lesson learned and move on. Yes, people do crappy things all the time. I think many nannies can tell you similar stories. The best thing would be just to keep looking for the right job for you. |
The posters have been very kind to OP and given her good advice. I hope she takes it |
Posters aren't being nasty or diagnosing a mental illness. They are trying to point out lingering affects of a stroke that OP might be missing. If this type of behavior is new for OP since her stroke (as in before she wouldn't have kept calling, checked out the apt, or called the cops) than it needs to be addressed with her doctor. No one is being nasty. |
Wow... you sound nuts. She handled it wrongly and there is no excuse but you are handling it like the women in the Hand That Rocks The Cradle and I am sure she is glad she didn't go with you. Keep harassing her and you may have a lawsuit against you and from the actions you are telling us, she will win and you will be paying here. Seek help |
Go easy. We all agree she handled this incorrectly, but OP is dealing with the after effects of a stroke. She needs encouragement and support right now. OP, I hope you are going to the doctor to be evaluated. |
| If the OP comes off as crazy on just a few posts, imagine what she is like in real life. The employer may simply be scared of her and trying to avoid her because she's nuts. |
I wasn't talking about the stroke posters, but look back at 15:44, 16;38, and 16:59, who call her among other things "completely unhinged," and that tell her that they are sure she has "a big red flag" for mental illness. Seriously? I know that DCUMers like to rush to judgment, but comments like that are anything but "very kind to OP" and they do not help her. |
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There was a time we used to erroneously call troll every single post in here. The one time where that could've been unanimous, everyone falls for it?
good job OP! |
I can only speak for myself, but I assumed OP was a troll and even reported the thread to Jeff. But on the off chance that OP wasn't, I did want to provide some information about the effects of strokes and damage they can cause to the brain that aren't always obvious. I have a friend who suffered from a brain injury (not a stroke) and was convinced since the doctor gave him a clean bill of health, that it meant he was ok. In reality, he was more aggressive and had almost no impulse control. He finally got some help and is doing better. I hope OP is a troll or that OP was like this before the stroke. I really, really, really hope that OP hasn't suffered some damage that she's not aware of that has changed her personality. |
Will you idiots stop reporting every thread to Jeff. He has alot of upkeeping to do on this site and shouldn't be bothered over nonsense by paranoid troll-callers. Do you notice that almost every thread you report STAYS UP??? Get a life. |
Noone would ever win a lawsuit. What damanges (besides annoyance) did the parent face? You morons get all sue happy over the most ridiculous things. |