Want to ask nanny to be surrogate.
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Anonymous
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We are contemplating this. The last pregnancy was too rough on my body. We want to have at least one more. Nannies, would you be put off by this or would you be willing to do it?
I already planned to tell our nanny that she is welcome to say "no" and there will be no hard feeling or anything. What would you suggest? |
Anonymous
| Absolutely not. |
Anonymous
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Too much for your delicate body but nanny has a body like a horse, so z
Ask her. You are despicable. |
Anonymous
| Uh, no. I would not do this for my boss. Would YOU? |
Anonymous
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PP. You're being an ass.
The last pregnancy was dangerous for both the baby and myself. Our nanny is a lot younger than I am. It would be safer than me risking two lives to have another baby. |
Anonymous
MB here, PP isn't being an ass you are. I have a crazy idea, why don't you contact a surrogacy agency if you really want another child and can't safely carry it? |
Anonymous
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I'm suspecting you're a troll because I can't imagine a real MB being so stupid as to think this is appropriate.
-a real MB. |
Anonymous
| If this is not a troll post, how much were you planning to pay your nanny to be a surrogate for you? |
Anonymous
| Oh Laaawd |
Anonymous
| Would your nanny then be forced to take care of the child she just birthed? |
Anonymous
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Forced? No. But ideally, we would pay her about $9000 just to carry. In addition, we would cover all medically incurred expenses (dr.s visits, hospitalizations,therapies, etc) I only list therapy because I know that I had depression during my pregnancy and my therapist was a god send. If she has multiples we will increase her pay by double (so she would get 18K)
Also, we would continue her normal salary while she is pregnant. We have a secondary nanny that will be trained by the current nanny, and we have budgeted out to let our nanny go on paid MAT leave at 7 months and stay on leave till 2 months post partum. However, if she needs to stay off longer or get off earlier that is fine too. Yes, after the birth she will be caring for the baby as she does the other kids. Her salary will of course be adjusted to compensate for the addition. We were thinking about raising her pay $8 once the baby comes. We were going to increase pay by this much regardless of if we had the baby or if she carried. And yes, I am a real MB. I don't see why this isn't appropriate. Our nanny is like a close friend to us. She knows we are trying to have another but she does not know that we are thinking about surrogacy. In addition, all the money we are planning to pay, will go to her regardless of if the baby is born. If for example, there is a M/C or termination for her health we will still pay her because of the tremendous gift she would be giving us in even accepting our request. We know that this is a tall order, but we want to keep it close to home and not have a stranger carrying our child. We know, love, respect and trust our nanny and it would mean the world to have her carry our baby. |
Anonymous
| So basically you want to rip your Nanny off and take advantage of her? Surrogates are compensated more than twice what you're planning to offer her plus all of her medical and other expenses. The fact that you would then expect her to be able to emotionally process all of this and then babysit the child that she gave birth to is beyond insensitive and so I can sleep tonight I'm going to pretend this is a troll post for sure. |
Anonymous
| This is boring. NEXT! |
Anonymous
| I would look for a surrogate somewhere else. To then be the child's nanny after carrying it would be to much. I'm a nanny and have always wanted to be a surrogate for someone but can't imagine then taking care of it later. To many things could go wrong with that. |
Anonymous
| Such an obvious troll post. Yawn. |