Charge's bruised face

[Anonymous]

My charge jumped of the couch today (she's 2). She landed on her face more or less... She cried for a minute or two but the. Was fine.


After waking up from nap, I notice she has a purple bruise on her jaw/cheek/eye area... I lightly pressed on it to see if it was hurting her, it was not. Should I email and let the parents know before they get home? Or just handle it when they get here. She is not in pain but the bruise looks kinda bad... It just makes me nervous that they will think I'm irresponsible or hurt er or something. I feel awful :/

[Anonymous]

As a MB, I would like you to let me know now, send me a pic if possible. I would have asked you to be careful about whether it's her face or head, if her teeth are all there or loose at all, if she cut the inside of her mouth at all, etc. Being up front is always the better way to go. I would absolutely think it's suspect if you didn't mention it at all.

I would also ask you to try to keep her from jumping off the couch in the future.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

I would also ask you to try to keep her from jumping off the couch in the future.

Oh come on. It was an accident. Kids hurt themselves All. The. Time. She already feels bad enough.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I would also ask you to try to keep her from jumping off the couch in the future.

Oh come on. It was an accident. Kids hurt themselves All. The. Time. She already feels bad enough.

+1. I guess it depends on your MB. My nanny usually tells me when I get home if anyone has a bruise and that's always been fine with me. But I guess from the PP some MBs would want to know earlier.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I would also ask you to try to keep her from jumping off the couch in the future.

Oh come on. It was an accident. Kids hurt themselves All. The. Time. She already feels bad enough.

It's reasonable after a child has been injured to remind the caregiver to actually supervise the child.

[Anonymous]

In this situation, I think a lot depends on your relationship with your MB. DS' nanny seldom texts me during the day, and if she does it is because they are doing something they don't normally do or she's sending me a picture or asking a particular question. Since your charge appears to be ok (other than the bruise) I'd be fine waiting to hear about it when I got home.

If charge was still in distress, it hurt to touch, there was any blood, or she won't eat because of pain, that definitely warrants a call or text to the parents.

If your MB is the type that wants to know when you leave the house, where you are going, when you arrive there, when you leave, when you arrive home etc. , then I think you should call or text.

Also, if you are going to be thinking about it all day and worrying about MBs reaction, I think it is fine to text or call. Honestly though, accidents happen. We don't let DS do certain things that are dangerous, but he still manages to do them once in awhile. Luckily bruises and a teeny bite on the inside of his cheek have been the worst injuries.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I would also ask you to try to keep her from jumping off the couch in the future.

Oh come on. It was an accident. Kids hurt themselves All. The. Time. She already feels bad enough.

It's reasonable after a child has been injured to remind the caregiver to actually supervise the child.

Oh stop. MB here. My kid has jumped off the couch when I've been sitting right next to her. She just stood up and jumped. It happens. Accidents happen. It doesn't mean that she wasn't supervising her charge. Now go back under your bridge.

[Anonymous]

Op here: thanks pp's for the encouraging words and advice! I was infact sitting next to her when she stood up and jumped... So she was being supervised. I emailed my mb just to be sure. Thanks all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here: thanks pp's for the encouraging words and advice! I was infact sitting next to her when she stood up and jumped... So she was being supervised. I emailed my mb just to be sure. Thanks all.

Good for you! Handled like a pro! I hope you feel better! As other PP said, it happens! There will be a lot more where that comes from!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here: thanks pp's for the encouraging words and advice! I was infact sitting next to her when she stood up and jumped... So she was being supervised. I emailed my mb just to be sure. Thanks all.

Good for you! Handled like a pro! I hope you feel better! As other PP said, it happens! There will be a lot more where that comes from!

*Came from*

[Anonymous]

Whenever a child has an accident that leaves large marks I immediately text the parent with a picture. I like to document everything just incase. I have this fear that one day I will work with crazy parents who believe a normal bump would be signs of child abuse.

[Anonymous]

MB here - I've stopped trying to keep track of the bruises on my kids, let alone holding myself (or the nanny) accountable for being able to prevent them!

I'd want you to tell me about it when I got home. Wouldn't expect anything more than that unless it was serious.

Sounds like you handled it fine though - never hurts to err on the safer/more informative side if you're unsure.

But get used to it. I have twin 2 year olds. The bruises (on all of us!) are constant!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:MB here - I've stopped trying to keep track of the bruises on my kids, let alone holding myself (or the nanny) accountable for being able to prevent them!

I'd want you to tell me about it when I got home. Wouldn't expect anything more than that unless it was serious.

Sounds like you handled it fine though - never hurts to err on the safer/more informative side if you're unsure.

But get used to it. I have twin 2 year olds. The bruises (on all of us!) are constant!!!

+1

[Anonymous]

I am a Nanny and have been in this type of situation before. It always makes me nervous when a child gets hurt and there is a tangible reminder of it. I always am afraid that the parent might overreact and think I caused the injury.

While I know a normal and rational parent knows that kids hurt themselves all the time and that it even happens in their own care, it still makes me nervous regardless.

For this reason, I always text the parents. Just to let them know so it doesn't look to them like I am trying to cover something up.

Plus, it's better to let them know ahead of time than to walk in the door from work, spring it on them, then leave.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

I would also ask you to try to keep her from jumping off the couch in the future.

Oh come on. It was an accident. Kids hurt themselves All. The. Time. She already feels bad enough.

It's reasonable after a child has been injured to remind the caregiver to actually supervise the child.

I'll bet you're a popular employer. Kids get hurt. Nobody-including you-can prevent that from happening and reminding your child's nanny to supervise them every single time they get hurt is a really good way of losing them.