going to the movies...mb didn't buy my ticket.
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Recently MB requested that I take the kids to the movies. I agreed and on the day we were supposed to go, she asked me to buy the tickets online and said she'd reimburse me. I told her the price of the children's tickets and the price of my ticket when I saw her later. She gave me enough for their tickets and didn't pay for mine, or even offer to pay for mine.
I'm kind of put off by this, and don't want to deal with going to the movies anymore with them because of it. I make 17/hr over the table and the ticket was $11. Its not easy to take three little kids to the movies. Am I being unfair by expecting her to pay for my ticket? |
Anonymous
| Another reason NOT to front $$$ for your employer. So sorry she's like that. I'd ask her to pay for it, just like if she wants you to take the kids out to lunch, she pays for your food to. |
Anonymous
| That is unacceptable and I am a mom. I would ask to be reimbursed. Ridiculous. |
Anonymous
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Not at all. I'm an MB and I would absolutely expect to pay for your ticket as well. That's stupid and cheap of her to do.
It might be tough to do anything about it at this point, but the next time she asks I think you need to say "Can I just check something, last time you asked me to take them to the movies you only reimbursed me for their ticket costs - not mine." Then see what she says. If she doesn't just offer to cover your (of course!!) then you can press and say that you wouldn't be choosing to go to this movie, and one movie ticket is almost the equivalent of an hour of your take home pay and you really would rather not spend the money. But I hope you don't have to push it to that point. So obnoxious and short-sighted of her. |
Anonymous
| Not at all, unless she would be OK with you not going in the theater with the kids. |
Anonymous
| No, you are not being unreasonable at all. As a MB I would always expect to pay for the nanny to go to any activity with the kids (and also make sure that they had enough money for everyone including the nanny to have treats). Can you say something now so that it doesn't bother you so much and nip it in the bud? Maybe she misunderstood when you presented her with two different amounts? If you do bring it up and she says that she doesn't think she should pay for you, then she's not a good employer, but then she probably won't ask you to take them again and you're off the hook! If you don't bring it up, perhaps if she does ask again you can you say something like "I think there was a misunderstanding about the cost of going to the movie last time, as it seemed like you only reimbursed me for the kids' tickets. I don't mind taking them, but I'm sure you'll understand that as it is during my working hours I'd appreciate it if you could pay for my ticket too". If it was a mistake on her part she'll be embarrassed and do right by you. Again, if she thinks she shouldn't pay for you, she's being ridiculous. |
Anonymous
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OP, is there any chance it was an honest mistake?
i.e. "It was $11 for me and $25 for the kids" could have been heard as "It was $11 for just me and $25 with the kids"? I would give MB the benefit of the doubt and assume that a mistake like this happened, because the alternative is just THAT ridiculous. Try saying: "MB, I think there may be some confusion regarding the movie tickets. The $25 actually did not include the cost of my ticket, so I need to be reimbursed an additional $11. Sorry if I miscommunicated something!" |
Anonymous
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Op here. Thanks SO much for the responses everyone. I'm glad my feelings are legitimate.
I feel it has been a little too long to bring it up randomly...so if she asks again I'll pipe up. I'm a big people pleaser and can be kind of a pushover when it comes to things like this. I really need to learn to stand up for myself when it comes to my employer... |
Anonymous
| OP, always always when you're asked to do an activity with the kids, your MB should cover your costs. Without a doubt. I'm an MB, by the way. Your hourly rate has nothing to do with it. Even if you made $30/hour, if your MB asks you to take the kids to the movies, she pays for your ticket and the kids. |
Anonymous
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I wouldn't let it go, OP. Maybe a brief email saying you were just going through your receipts, and need to check about the movie tickets reimbursement,.....
Did she give you cash or a check for the kids' tickets? |
Anonymous
| Next time just tell her the total amount without the breakdown of who cost what. |
Anonymous
+1 it should be a given that she pays for your ticket, so next time give her the total, and if she balks let her know that if she isn't going to cover your cost of attendance to activities that you'd prefer to take the kids to free activities. I work with younger children (under 2) so whenever there's an entrance fee, its for me not them, but my bosses always cover it. |
Anonymous
| Thanks all. This is my first official nanny job so I am still learning what's normal and what's not. She reimbursed me with cash. |
Anonymous
Did you ask or did she decide to pay you? |
Anonymous
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Wow OP, your boss sounds like a total moron. Is it possible she may have overlooked your ticket by mistake? I am only asking this because I am flabbergasted that someone would do something so stupid and clueless!!!!!!!!!
If she truly expected you to pay for your own ticket, then shame on her. Talk to her and tell her since seeing this movie was a job requirement, you were obligated to see this movie, then she is supposed to pay your way as well. Why should you incur add'l expenses for her idea? If she doesn't see your point or pays you but gives you attitude, I would seriously consider leaving this crazy lady for good. It's not about the eleven dollars anymore. It boils down to principle now. |