How To Give Notice

[Anonymous]

Posting this for a friend who doesn't believe anonymous is really anonymous.

"I was offered a FT position with a family I babysit for occasionally, making better money than I make at my current high stress, high hour job. The position starts in six weeks. My contract requires three weeks' notice, but I want to give my current family as much time as necessary to find a replacement. I can afford the six weeks of no pay if they let me go immediately, because I have been saving diligently since I started this position. The problem is I have never had to have this conversation, and am so scared about where to start. I am also live in, so I expect things to be tense after I give notice. They will not be expecting this at all. Can someone walk me through an example conversation?"

[Anonymous]

First, find a time that they are not busy and will have time to talk.
"John and Jane, I have decided to accept a new nanny position. My last day of work will be xx/xxxx.
I have enjoyed caring for your children and hope I can stay in touch with you all (if you do).
They most likely will be upset at first. Don't expect a good reaction. After they've had time to process your resignation, they'll probably be able to speak with you in a productive manner.
I had to resign my position a few days ago. It is never comfortable but is necessary. Don't feel guilty for a second.
This is your life. You'll feel better once you've done it!
Best of luck!

[Anonymous]

Were will you live if they throw a temper tantrum and want you out asap?

[Anonymous]

OP (not the nanny in question) here:

She will stay with me while she's apartment hunting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP (not the nanny in question) here:

She will stay with me while she's apartment hunting.

That is good that she has you to stay with because I am quite sure that once her current employers find out she will leave them, they will evict her. This seems to ALWAYS happen for some reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP (not the nanny in question) here:

She will stay with me while she's apartment hunting.

That is good that she has you to stay with because I am quite sure that once her current employers find out she will leave them, they will evict her. This seems to ALWAYS happen for some reason.

One reason is that few people know their local laws.

[Anonymous]

Of course they should evict her. Her housing is part of her compensation package for a job she has left.

Yes, her employers should give her adequate notice of her eviction, but she still needs to be evicted.

As for local laws, yes, PP is correct that everyone should know and follow the law. In most cases, without a separate tenant agreement, a nanny is a boarder and not subject to tenancy laws. Make sure you all understand the issues in your jurisdiction.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course they should evict her. Her housing is part of her compensation package for a job she has left.

Yes, her employers should give her adequate notice of her eviction, but she still needs to be evicted.

As for local laws, yes, PP is correct that everyone should know and follow the law. In most cases, without a separate tenant agreement, a nanny is a boarder and not subject to tenancy laws. Make sure you all understand the issues in your jurisdiction.

Well if you knew the law, she would have at least 14-30 days to move out before they could force her out. That would be if she was a tenant, and the number of days would be determined by if it was a month to month or yearly "lease". If not, she is considered living there (usually you are a resident if living somewhere for more than 3 weeks), she could legally stay until they went through the court system and had a judge finally throw her out. This is why many hotels have a policy that if you stay for 3 weeks, you need to stay elsewhere for one night before coming back to stay again (and up to another 3 weeks, etc). If you allow a friend to live with you, and they are not paying you rent as a tenant, then after 3 weeks they are no longer a "guest" and are a resident of the home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Of course they should evict her. Her housing is part of her compensation package for a job she has left.

Yes, her employers should give her adequate notice of her eviction, but she still needs to be evicted.

As for local laws, yes, PP is correct that everyone should know and follow the law. In most cases, without a separate tenant agreement, a nanny is a boarder and not subject to tenancy laws. Make sure you all understand the issues in your jurisdiction.

Well if you knew the law, she would have at least 14-30 days to move out before they could force her out. That would be if she was a tenant, and the number of days would be determined by if it was a month to month or yearly "lease". If not, she is considered living there (usually you are a resident if living somewhere for more than 3 weeks), she could legally stay until they went through the court system and had a judge finally throw her out. This is why many hotels have a policy that if you stay for 3 weeks, you need to stay elsewhere for one night before coming back to stay again (and up to another 3 weeks, etc). If you allow a friend to live with you, and they are not paying you rent as a tenant, then after 3 weeks they are no longer a "guest" and are a resident of the home.

That's weird. I worked at a major hotel and you don't have to limit a stay to 3 weeks. Some people live in them. All that is required is after 30 days they are considered a permanent resident and get exempt from hotel tax.