how would you handle $$ for occasional nanny share with a friend?

[nomdeweb]

We have a fabulous nanny who takes care of our 2 kids, although older one starts preschool in the fall. We're slowly casting about for a full time nanny share, but wanted to see how the transition to school goes (and how after school works, etc) before we commit to it. Meanwhile a friend has approached me about a part time, occasional nanny share when she's in town for her job, usually a couple days every month. Our kids are the same age and our nanny is fine with it and we have a great set up for two kids. But what's the best way to pay her? I

1) nanny should get extra $$ because she's taking on an extra kid/family, even if occasionally, .is a 2$/hr raise okay for those hours?
2) should our family's burden also be reduced slightly? e.g., should friend just pay nanny something directly as extra and we continue our weekly salary for her for our (one) child, or do we ask friend to chip in by splitting the hourly wage? I don't want to seem tacky...but let's say for the hours she has 1 kid (ours) she makes 16/hr, for the hours she has both, she makes 18/hr. Our paycheck would pay her at 16 hr for all hours except the 'two kid' hours and we'd pay her 9/hour for those hours....and friend would give her directly 9/hr *hours worked with both kids?

[Anonymous]

For two days a month, you tell your friend to pay the nanny 5-10 an hour, and leave it at that. What you pay her isn't that much.

[Anonymous]

Pay her your normal rate. And then have the other mom pay the nanny's rate for one child (minus about 3 dollars).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For two days a month, you tell your friend to pay the nanny 5-10 an hour, and leave it at that. What you pay her isn't that much.

I agree.

[Anonymous]

I agree with the above posts. IF it were a regular situation, it would be different. $2/hr for just a couple days is not worth her hassle. If this is a long term situation, you should each pay $10/hr and the other family needs to pay on the books. You definitely cannot reduce her rate if the other family pays cash (legally if under a certain amount).

[Anonymous]

Ask the nanny what her rate is for the extra child.

[Anonymous]

Have your friend pay seperately. And don't add $2/hr and pocket the rest.

[nomdeweb]

sorry OP here, a couple days a week for a couple months, not a couple days a month, if that makes a difference. let's say, 60 hours a month.

[Anonymous]

It's still temporary, and it will mean extra work for the nanny while the kids adjust to each other.

[Anonymous]

OP, why not leave it to them to agree on details? They're both adults that you trust, no?

[Anonymous]

1) No, a $2 raise is not quite right. This is not a true nanny share in which the children have a consistent routine, know one another well, are used to the nanny and the house, and so on. Taking on additional children 5-7 days per month is much different from a daily nanny-share.

2) No, your family will continue to pay your nanny her same rate. There is no deduction on your end.

The other family should pay your nanny independently for the hours they use her. IMO $10/hr would be acceptable.

[Anonymous]

*reduction

[Anonymous]

Of course there should be a reduction in what OP pays; her kids will be getting less attention. The nanny should also get an increase. I would suggest paying the nanny $22 per hour, with OP paying $12 per hour and the friend paying $10. That's on the higher end for a share, but the nanny will be dealing with three kids instead of two.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1) No, a $2 raise is not quite right. This is not a true nanny share in which the children have a consistent routine, know one another well, are used to the nanny and the house, and so on. Taking on additional children 5-7 days per month is much different from a daily nanny-share.

2) No, your family will continue to pay your nanny her same rate. There is no deduction on your end.

The other family should pay your nanny independently for the hours they use her. IMO $10/hr would be acceptable.

For the nanny to gross $26/hr, she better play the flute and give them non-stop foot massages. At the same time.

[Anonymous]

Ask the nanny how much per hour she wants to look after both kids. Pay her that amount for the days she has both kids, and you and your friend split 50/50. Pay your normal rate all other days. Really, ain't rocket science.