Why would MB say no to this?

[Anonymous]

Just as a disclaimer: I respect my MB's judgement, we have a very amicable relationship and I do enjoy working for her. There haven't been any problems so I don't want to suggest there's any kind of animosity between us.

Today I took my charge on a hike, it was pretty hot out so he got a bit sweaty. His hair is longer his bangs got stuck to his forehead. He got a bit cranky, and was annoyed with having to repeatedly push his hair back. I said "ok, next time we go on a hike we can bring a hair tie or a head band so you can push your hair back". He said he didn't have one, so I said "ok, let's ask Mom if she can pick you up one?". Easy enough compromise. I'm not referring to headbands that are reserved for little girls, I mean a unisex sweatband anyone can wear to push their hair back when exercising.

When MB got home, he asked her if she could buy him a sweat/hair band for our next hike. Since he likes his hair longer, MB doesn't cut it that often (I think it might be for personal or religious reasons?). She gave him a swift no and laughed it off. It was pretty clear it wasn't up for discussion. MB is *very* left-wing, so I can't see her saying headbands are reserved for girls or anything.

I'm just wondering why? Like, what are the possible reasons? It just seemed a little weird. Any insight? I thought it was a relatively simple solution.

[Anonymous]

I just wanted to add, this post was to try and generate any kind of feedback and not to try and pit myself against MB. I'm just genuinely curious.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you didn't actually speak to the MB about this? She probably thought he meant a girl's headband which is why she laughed. Why not just say, "Hey MB, little Eric had a tough time keeping the hair out of his eyes on our hike yesterday, which is why I suggested he might need a sweatband to keep it back. Would it be okay for me to pick one up at CVS or do you have another solution in mind so his hair isn't in his face the whole time?"

[Anonymous]

Yeah that's definitely a possibility. I think I'll mention it tomorrow or bring one on my own. He did just say "I need a sweatband to keep hair out of my eyes." It wasn't like we needed hairbands for dressup or something.

[Anonymous]

My hunch is that she probably didn't understand the reasoning behind the request. Just have a quick private chat w/ her and tell her why he was asking - then you can see if she says "Oh, in that case of course" or actually has some concern.

[Anonymous]

Show her a picture of Harry Styles with one of those things on. That might change her mind.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Show her a picture of Harry Styles with one of those things on. That might change her mind.....

Nooo! You don't want to scare her MB away from ever letting her son wear one of them, she *wants* her MB to let him get one!