does this ever happen?
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Anonymous
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Have had two dreams/nightmares now that I run into my nanny during the day when she is supposed to be caring for my son but she is alone, running errands (that always have to do with her taking a trip). In both dreams, she's left my son under the care of her nanny friends (irl she regularly meets two nannies and their charges at the park or zoo etc. - I believe they are now good friends and socialize outside of work too).
Does this ever happen irl or is it just a form of an anxiety dream? |
Anonymous
| Discuss this with your doctor, OP. |
Anonymous
| Has this situation ever happened in real life? Have you had issues with your nanny before? |
Anonymous
No and No. I trust her (as much as I can - everyone thinks they have a great nanny, and yet I see not great nannies out and about all the time). Just wondering if this ever happens irl? Thought maybe nannies or employers would pop in with stories or would tell me this is just an irrational fear of mine/just general anxiety manifesting itself in a weird form. It is a terrible dream and has stuck with me all day. |
Anonymous
| you've got to be kidding me. |
Anonymous
It's most definitely anxiety or stress. It's how you choose to deal with it that matters. You need to find an outlet before this goes any further and causes real issues possible between you and your nanny. |
Anonymous
| The only logical choice is to fire your nanny. |
Anonymous
Go to bed. |
Anonymous
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Does it EVEER happen? Sure. Not usually to people ho have hired good nannies/checked references/done a background check though.
The longest I've ever left a charge in care of a good nanny friend was when we took turns going to the bathroom when there weren't stalls big enough to bring strollers in. And even that was rare. I don't think this is something you need to worry about, but sinc it causes you so much anxiety just has a chat about it with the nanny. Let her know you trust her, but you've been having some crazy anxiety ridden dreams about it. Let her know what ou are and aren't comfortable with, if you want to meet th nannies your child may spend time with regularly or ever briefly bein care of (ie, for th bathroom trip or to change clothes or something similar.) Communication is your friend. Her response/reaction/questions should reassure you. |
Anonymous
| Pp here: sorry for typos/incorrectly"autocorrects." iPad likes to think it knows best and I didn't proof read! |
Anonymous
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Pp's who told you to go to your nanny are giving you bad advice IMO... If my MB came to me telling me all these dreams in which I essentially neglect her child and then wants to more or less review the rules - I would think she was bat shit crazy. It's a dream. And your a grown woman...
Buy a nanny cam if your concerned... |
Anonymous
| It sounds like an anxiety/lack of control type dream. |
Anonymous
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I'm a nanny and I always have weird/scary dreams. Sometimes I dream that my charge is napping and I've left. I get so scared and panicked and try to run back to the house and I can't get there.
I also dream that I've taken him on a walk or something and I'm late to get home before mb is home. and she's calling me, and I can't answer my phone to reassure her that I'll be home soon. |
Anonymous
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That sounds like an anxiety dream. Sure things like this might happen. Every once in a while you hear the horror story that is the exception to the rule (the one nanny or parent w/ severe mental illness who kills a child, versus the millions who provide safe loving care all day, every day long).
But you have a nanny you trust who has never given you reason to doubt her. Trust that, and trust your instincts (when you're awake) more than dreams. Is your son very young, and is he your first? I had my first kids a couple of years ago and I've been stunned by how much of a worrier it's made me now. I think it's a maternal thing, a new parent thing, and a result of watching too much news. 
BREATHE, trust your nanny, trust yourself in hiring her, and take a day off to just hang out with your nanny and son and be relaxed if that would help. |
Anonymous
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OP here. Thanks everyone. Just what I needed to hear. It probably is because he is spending time with adults I don't know. I don't plan on mentioning it to my nanny because I agree that it's CRAZY, and I'd prefer for our conversations to be about more realistic concerns I might have.
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