A New Horizon- Please Read, and take a deep breath before responding

[Anonymous]

Why does every thread go off onto the tangent of who is the primary caretaker.

MBs-Stop being so defensive and insecure, the truth is that there are nannies that do know their charges better than the parents do, and there are nannies that spend more time with the children than nannies do. In the latter case, yes the nanny is the primary caretaker. By definition this is a fact. That does not mean she is the parent, stop being so insecure about your role. You are the parent; quit feeling like you need the title Primary Caretaker when you are not. If you are also the primary caretaker by definition then great! Stop assuming all nannies are stupid, couldn't finish school, can't do any better etc. If you honestly thought this about your nanny why would you hire her to raise your children? Stop attacking people, internet courage is deceiving and making you into big bad wolves, which I am sure you don't actually act like irl with your nanny. Accept the fact that there are nannies out there with true expertise, and that many parents, first time or not hire these nannies for their expertise and trust them thoroughly with raising their children and would actually listen to them and adjust accordingly. If you don't have one that does not mean that none exist. Quit the overgeneralizing. Stop assuming that because you gave birth to a child means you are by default better at parenting, keep your mind and ears open, everyone can learn something at any point. (There are enough children in foster care and elsewhere to prove that being a parent does not automatically make you great at parenting.) Your nanny could very well add something valuable to your parenting skills if you will give her respect and a voice.

Nannies- Stop being so freaking bitter, resentful, and defensive! Yes your MBs and DBs have to work! Why do you feel the need to bash them at every turn because of this fact? If they didn't you wouldn't have a job! Are you mad at the fact that you have a job? I don't get it. Accept the reality that many MBs and DBs have great relationships with their children despite working. Accept the fact that you are not the child's parent, you are his/her caretaker, friend, guide, and whatever other role you play, but you will never be his/her parent. Stop attacking all MBs under some ridiculous umbrella, it just make you seem like you are envious of their circumstances. Do have loyalty to your charges, but also have respect and allegiance to your employers. Treat them as such, and address situations that make you so angry to attack people online. If it can't be solved find a family that suits YOU.

This forum can be worth so much more to us all if we stop attacking each other and work together, see our differences and work on creating a better environment for everyone. There is a reason most professions employ team based work, it creates a healthy environment that offers greater benefits. There is no reason the nanny industry cannot be the same. I know many of you will automatically put on your catty panties, but just think for a second, what is the harm in being respectful, cordial, and patient with each other? Does it harm anyone? No, we can all, including the children, benefit from a healthier environment. There are too many toxic commenters here and too few helpful ones. Let’s tip the scale to the positive!

[Anonymous]

THANK YOU!

[Anonymous]

Well said...

[Anonymous]

This forum is so nasty compared to the relationship I've had with any of my nanny families. Of course I'm not their parent, but the parents would never say I don't have a huge influence on their kid's lives. I'm not a nanny robot who does everything exactly like their parents. We are on the same page 90% of the time. I'm sure I do things that annoy them and there are things they do that I don't agree with. That's how the world works. We both flex without taking advantage of each other for the most part

[Anonymous]

Good post and I actually did lol at 'Are you mad at the fact that you have a job?'

[Anonymous]

I agree. I'm a young nanny with almost 2 years experience while I've been in college and I've been with a couple families. I have obviously had my problems with some and had my gripes but the total resentment displayed on these forums toward the parents/children is crazy. I know that it is a paycheck for some and that they may think there is no way out. But honestly if a job makes you that miserable then you should be doing everything in your power to find another family or choose a different profession. Bottom line.

I've posted a few questions here and there. And while I absolutely adore my currently family I do have my issues with them every now and again. Doesn't make me bitter or resentful! I got the hell out (quickly) of the first and last position that made me feel that way. I wish the nannies here would just do the same.

There are definitely a lot of trolls on here though. At least that is my hope. Some of the things said on here by "MBS" is absolutely outrageous and can't be real life. Hahahaha.

[Anonymous]

OP here,

I didn't address the troll status. Which is as we know pretty ridiculous. But in the chance that they are real I want to address them as such. And I am sure they are bitter or resentful as a MB/nanny/Sahm or what have you to spend so much time trying to anger people. So trolls, this is for you too. Fix your situation, find happiness and stop trying to be destructive to others.

I am a nanny, as you may have guessed already. And I have never had a family or a child that would anger me to the point of some of the arguments that take place here. For new nannies and new MBs this forum is not painting the best picture for any of us. That is a big problem.

[Anonymous]

PP here and I totally agree. If I were an expectant mother and stumbled across this website in hopes of learning about the nanny trade and how it works I would be pretty damn horrified.

But this forum is far from reality. There are so many families with great nannies and so many bosses who love and respect their nannies.

[Anonymous]

Omg it's Comma woman on yet another rant about MBs/DBs.

OP you need a LIFE lmao. You aren't even a professional nanny but a low grade babysitter. It's very obvious by your attitude on successful parents that you envy them and their careers. Go to BED!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here,

I didn't address the troll status. Which is as we know pretty ridiculous. But in the chance that they are real I want to address them as such. And I am sure they are bitter or resentful as a MB/nanny/Sahm or what have you to spend so much time trying to anger people. So trolls, this is for you too. Fix your situation, find happiness and stop trying to be destructive to others.

I am a nanny, as you may have guessed already. And I have never had a family or a child that would anger me to the point of some of the arguments that take place here. For new nannies and new MBs this forum is not painting the best picture for any of us. That is a big problem.

OP there is a whole thread that was created about you and many are talking about your pathetic attitude. LOL. The fact that you're making such a (negative) name for yourself on an anonymous website speaks volumes on the life/job/skills you lack. You're so miserable, resentful and bitter towards parents and "new" nannies to the point that you come on here to hate, rant and yap about nonsense on a daily basis. I almost feel bad... NOT LMAO!

[Anonymous]

I am not convinced that OP is Comma Lady, but agree this is another thinly-veiled attempt to last-word everyone in the rant against parents. I'm so bored with it already.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Omg it's Comma woman on yet another rant about MBs/DBs.

OP you need a LIFE lmao. You aren't even a professional nanny but a low grade babysitter. It's very obvious by your attitude on successful parents that you envy them and their careers. Go to BED!

Calm down, she rants against nannies too. Please find a new hobby.

[Anonymous]

What threads are you talking about? I've read quite a few today and none of them have turned into an argument about who is the primary caregiver.

[Anonymous]

Some of you want to hate. It doesn't matter what's being discussed.

[Anonymous]

OP here.
I am not the comma lady. Your investigation skills is not as good as you thought. I was actually reading those reads when I got so irritated about the constant arguments. The other thread went into a tangent about who knows the child best, then if nannies are educated enough and so on. It's maddening how many times this happens. It's like a constant war between MBs and nannies on here. It is ridiculous. I have been on this site for 6 months. I rarely comment and I have had one thread way back when about socializing with other nannies in DC. If you think this thread is some sort of attack on MBs then you are the person it is addressed to. This is about stopping the over generalizations and blind judgements, if you can't appreciate that, then I don't know what else to say.
And for the PP above I am not understanding why you think I am attacking new nannies. My exact point was that this forum is not painting the best picture for new nannies to understand the relationship between nannies and MBs, because judging from here it seems like most hate each other. I have loved all of my employers, and they have loved me as well, that is my reality. A strong relationship between nannies and parents that facilitates the best environment for the children. I wish this forum portrayed that reality. Please read my pollinates carefully before jumping to conclusions.