Need advice about nanny friend who is attracted to one of her charges

[Anonymous]

Help with a Nanny Attracted to a Teen:
I have a 20-year-old nanny friend that admitted to me she's attracted to one of the kids she nannies for who is almost 16-years-old. She speaks inappropriately about him and it disturbs me. Should I tell the parents of the teen?

[Anonymous]

No, you should not. A 16-yr old does not need a nanny, so he is not one of her charges .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No, you should not. A 16-yr old does not need a nanny, so he is not one of her charges .

When I was 20 I was a live in nanny for a 1, 6 and 16yr old. The 16 yr old was the worst. That kid stole, smoked, drank, skipped school and a million other crappy things her mother and step father thought I should miraculously be able to control and make her stop doing. Worst nanny charge ever

[Anonymous]

Ha. I was following this on the be the best nanny Facebook page.

[Anonymous]

I'm 21 and I've been attracted to a teenager before. I wasn't his nanny though. And I never did anything about it. That's what makes it even more inappropriate. The fact that she is in s position of power over him.

Is he the only child in her care, or does he have younger siblings that are her primary charges?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Help with a Nanny Attracted to a Teen:
I have a 20-year-old nanny friend that admitted to me she's attracted to one of the kids she nannies for who is almost 16-years-old. She speaks inappropriately about him and it disturbs me. Should I tell the parents of the teen?

No you shouldn't say anything to the parents, but you should tell your "friend" that she's being inappropriate whenever she is, and that the way she is talking about this child makes you uncomfortable. Then find something better to worry about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Help with a Nanny Attracted to a Teen:
I have a 20-year-old nanny friend that admitted to me she's attracted to one of the kids she nannies for who is almost 16-years-old. She speaks inappropriately about him and it disturbs me. Should I tell the parents of the teen?

What does she say about him?

[Anonymous]

It's one thing to talk about it but another to act on it. She's 20 not 40, if the kid were to ever find out it would do nothing but boost his ego. Stay out of it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Help with a Nanny Attracted to a Teen:
I have a 20-year-old nanny friend that admitted to me she's attracted to one of the kids she nannies for who is almost 16-years-old. She speaks inappropriately about him and it disturbs me. Should I tell the parents of the teen?

What does she say about him?

OP here: That he is hot, funny and that she wants to sleep with him and that he looks like he would be big. She says he flirts back with her.

[Anonymous]

I think the op is the nanny in question. And she only posted this to see what we would all think of her liking a teenager.

Some of her wording is off in my opinion. Especially at 13:22.

[Anonymous]

The 20 year old is hardly an adult herself, so what were those parents thinking??

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The 20 year old is hardly an adult herself, so what were those parents thinking??

I'm a professional, university educated, full time nanny to an infant at 20 years old. Obviously the 20 year old OP is talking about is not a great example of professionalism and maturity, but don't paint us all with the same brush please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The 20 year old is hardly an adult herself, so what were those parents thinking??

I'm a professional, university educated, full time nanny to an infant at 20 years old. Obviously the 20 year old OP is talking about is not a great example of professionalism and maturity, but don't paint us all with the same brush please.

Some 20 year olds are tons more mature than some 40 year olds. I wish those parents had as much maturity as you seem to.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The 20 year old is hardly an adult herself, so what were those parents thinking??

I'm a professional, university educated, full time nanny to an infant at 20 years old. Obviously the 20 year old OP is talking about is not a great example of professionalism and maturity, but don't paint us all with the same brush please.

Some 20 year olds are tons more mature than some 40 year olds. I wish those parents had as much maturity as you seem to.

no they're not and the fact you think so proves it.

[Anonymous]

I wonder what people would think if it was a 20 year old male who had the hots for a 16 year old female.. Yes, they're only 4 years apart but those are 4 crucial years. Totally different then a 40 year old liking a 36 year old.

However, 16 year old males (and females) aren't as 'young minded' as one would think. Many are not virgins, esp males.

I think the OP's friend takes care of the teen's younger siblings and not the teen himself. I also think OP's friend is still immature and most likely has the mindset of a 16-year-old. I don't no if OP should tell or not. Strangely though, I think if OP's friend was a male and the roles were reversed I'd probably say definitely tell the parents.