I know it's wrong but...

[Anonymous]

Once or twice a week, when MB comes home, the kids go nuts over my leaving. The older ones sit on my feet and cling to my legs and beg me not to leave. We have to have several "last big hug and kiss"es and after the door closes, the preschooler melts down and MB runs her out to my car so I can roll down my window for the "really last kiss I'm serious this time". And secretly I love it

[Anonymous]

what's your secret?

[Anonymous]

If you were trying to stop this behavior like a good nanny I could tell you what you're doing wrong to exacerbate this behavior. However, it seems as though you don't care.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you were trying to stop this behavior like a good nanny I could tell you what you're doing wrong to exacerbate this behavior. However, it seems as though you don't care.

Whatever, it's not best but it's a wonderful feeling to be so loved. Let her enjoy it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you were trying to stop this behavior like a good nanny I could tell you what you're doing wrong to exacerbate this behavior. However, it seems as though you don't care.

Chill out. The nanny secretly enjoys knowing that the kids love her and miss her when she goes home. That's natural and so common. She's doing nothing wrong. How would she try to stop it? Tell them no hugs and no kisses? No.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you were trying to stop this behavior like a good nanny I could tell you what you're doing wrong to exacerbate this behavior. However, it seems as though you don't care.

Chill out. The nanny secretly enjoys knowing that the kids love her and miss her when she goes home. That's natural and so common. She's doing nothing wrong. How would she try to stop it? Tell them no hugs and no kisses? No.

No, she could try to stop it by giving them hugs and kisses and leaving without prolonging the exit. Speak to MB about the day, hugs and kisses for the children, then say goodbye. At that point LEAVE right away and if the children beg her to stay or give more kisses she can says something along the lines of "You already got your kisses! I am leaving and will see you tomorrow morning." By giving in to the children's poor behavior and allowing them more hugs and kisses than she said she would she is letting them know that if they act out she will give them more attention and take longer to leave. This is letting the children win and in my opinion, children should never be awarded for poor behavior, whining, and crying.

Also, think about how this makes the mother feel. Yes, on one hand she can rest assured that the children enjoy spending time with the nanny and have a good relationship with her but you can't tell me that this doesn't bother MB. I would never purposefully do anything that would make my MB feel bad about herself or brew jealousy between the two of us.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you were trying to stop this behavior like a good nanny I could tell you what you're doing wrong to exacerbate this behavior. However, it seems as though you don't care.

Chill out. The nanny secretly enjoys knowing that the kids love her and miss her when she goes home. That's natural and so common. She's doing nothing wrong. How would she try to stop it? Tell them no hugs and no kisses? No.

No, she could try to stop it by giving them hugs and kisses and leaving without prolonging the exit. Speak to MB about the day, hugs and kisses for the children, then say goodbye. At that point LEAVE right away and if the children beg her to stay or give more kisses she can says something along the lines of "You already got your kisses! I am leaving and will see you tomorrow morning." By giving in to the children's poor behavior and allowing them more hugs and kisses than she said she would she is letting them know that if they act out she will give them more attention and take longer to leave. This is letting the children win and in my opinion, children should never be awarded for poor behavior, whining, and crying.

Also, think about how this makes the mother feel. Yes, on one hand she can rest assured that the children enjoy spending time with the nanny and have a good relationship with her but you can't tell me that this doesn't bother MB. I would never purposefully do anything that would make my MB feel bad about herself or brew jealousy between the two of us.

You sound like a know it all. You know, the type that tells MB how to parent without actually having kids of your own. OP said her MB will bring the child out for more kisses. That is MB's decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you were trying to stop this behavior like a good nanny I could tell you what you're doing wrong to exacerbate this behavior. However, it seems as though you don't care.

Chill out. The nanny secretly enjoys knowing that the kids love her and miss her when she goes home. That's natural and so common. She's doing nothing wrong. How would she try to stop it? Tell them no hugs and no kisses? No.

No, she could try to stop it by giving them hugs and kisses and leaving without prolonging the exit. Speak to MB about the day, hugs and kisses for the children, then say goodbye. At that point LEAVE right away and if the children beg her to stay or give more kisses she can says something along the lines of "You already got your kisses! I am leaving and will see you tomorrow morning." By giving in to the children's poor behavior and allowing them more hugs and kisses than she said she would she is letting them know that if they act out she will give them more attention and take longer to leave. This is letting the children win and in my opinion, children should never be awarded for poor behavior, whining, and crying.

Also, think about how this makes the mother feel. Yes, on one hand she can rest assured that the children enjoy spending time with the nanny and have a good relationship with her but you can't tell me that this doesn't bother MB. I would never purposefully do anything that would make my MB feel bad about herself or brew jealousy between the two of us.

You sound like a know it all. You know, the type that tells MB how to parent without actually having kids of your own. OP said her MB will bring the child out for more kisses. That is MB's decision.

No, I do not tell MB and DB how to parent. When I go in for an interview I interview the family as well and I would only accept a position where I had similar child rearing beliefs as my bosses. Both MB and DB see me as a third parent and the three of us do everything that we can to raise their children into a respectful and well behaved child. We don't encourage any negative behavior but I would certainly never encourage negative behavior that made MB feel bad about herself just so that I could feel better about myself. My charge loves me and is sad to see me go at the end of the day as well but he gets his hugs and kisses and then I leave. He knows that even when he cries and whines when I say "This is the last hug!" that it truly is the last.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you were trying to stop this behavior like a good nanny I could tell you what you're doing wrong to exacerbate this behavior. However, it seems as though you don't care.

Chill out. The nanny secretly enjoys knowing that the kids love her and miss her when she goes home. That's natural and so common. She's doing nothing wrong. How would she try to stop it? Tell them no hugs and no kisses? No.

No, she could try to stop it by giving them hugs and kisses and leaving without prolonging the exit. Speak to MB about the day, hugs and kisses for the children, then say goodbye. At that point LEAVE right away and if the children beg her to stay or give more kisses she can says something along the lines of "You already got your kisses! I am leaving and will see you tomorrow morning." By giving in to the children's poor behavior and allowing them more hugs and kisses than she said she would she is letting them know that if they act out she will give them more attention and take longer to leave. This is letting the children win and in my opinion, children should never be awarded for poor behavior, whining, and crying.

Also, think about how this makes the mother feel. Yes, on one hand she can rest assured that the children enjoy spending time with the nanny and have a good relationship with her but you can't tell me that this doesn't bother MB. I would never purposefully do anything that would make my MB feel bad about herself or brew jealousy between the two of us.

You sound like a know it all. You know, the type that tells MB how to parent without actually having kids of your own. OP said her MB will bring the child out for more kisses. That is MB's decision.

No, I do not tell MB and DB how to parent. When I go in for an interview I interview the family as well and I would only accept a position where I had similar child rearing beliefs as my bosses. Both MB and DB see me as a third parent and the three of us do everything that we can to raise their children into a respectful and well behaved child. We don't encourage any negative behavior but I would certainly never encourage negative behavior that made MB feel bad about herself just so that I could feel better about myself. My charge loves me and is sad to see me go at the end of the day as well but he gets his hugs and kisses and then I leave. He knows that even when he cries and whines when I say "This is the last hug!" that it truly is the last.

WOO HOO nanny of the year right here everyone!!

[Anonymous]

If this situation were reversed, and it was MB prolonging the goodbyes, it would be SO frustrating for the nanny.

So consider that next time, OP. Yes, it's great to feel loved. By why make things harder on the mom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If this situation were reversed, and it was MB prolonging the goodbyes, it would be SO frustrating for the nanny.

So consider that next time, OP. Yes, it's great to feel loved. By why make things harder on the mom?

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If this situation were reversed, and it was MB prolonging the goodbyes, it would be SO frustrating for the nanny.

So consider that next time, OP. Yes, it's great to feel loved. By why make things harder on the mom?

+1

+2

[Anonymous]

WOO HOO nanny of the year right here everyone!!

NP here. There's no need to be so nasty, PP,

[Anonymous]

On one hand, it all sounds, oh, so cute.
On the other hand, nanny and MB have boundary issues. What are the children learning here. Ignore what nanny and mommy say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Once or twice a week, when MB comes home, the kids go nuts over my leaving. The older ones sit on my feet and cling to my legs and beg me not to leave. We have to have several "last big hug and kiss"es and after the door closes, the preschooler melts down and MB runs her out to my car so I can roll down my window for the "really last kiss I'm serious this time". And secretly I love it

That's awesome and you definitely should love it.