Ski trip with AP

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Anonymous wrote:Think about what she makes…one weeks pay is close to a one day ticket. You cannot ask her to pay for that, especially after you asked her to join you. Plus, you set a precedent last time.

We are actually doing the same for Christmas, and the ap traveling with you dilemma is one one my main downsides of having an ap. So, solidarity. Just use her a bit like others have said.

We were planning to go to Disney this year but did not go because of this the traveling with AP dilemma. My AP is immature and thinking about what benefits she could get from us all the time. While I understand that they don't make much and would not be able to afford a decent Disney trip by herself, I don't like the feeling of almost being forced to give her an expensive trip. Yes taking her with us is not required, but the AP will definitely feel disappointed if we don't take her and that might affect the quality of her work. So we decided not to go this year.

While I agree with providing the AP the "American experience", but it shouldn't be expected an experience at my financial level that I worked my butt off for. I would give exceptions to an unicorn AP who treats me truly like a family but doesn't make me feel that I am a dollar tree. I have no problem paying for a beautiful year for an AP like that. Unfortunately our current AP is not.

Ha, that reminds me of my first AP, who took the “au pairs are like family” to an extreme. Like she thought my husband’s parents were going to be her grandparents and she sometimes referred to herself by our last name. About 6 months in, we asked about her post AP plans and she said she wanted to live with us for 4+ years while we paid for her college and in exchange she’d provide us childcare. I was horrified; I thought I was signing up for a one year commitment, this woman thought we were making a life long promise to be her family. No thank you.

Yes they are “on par” in that you should be feeding them the same meals as you eat, giving them the same linens your family uses, including them when you get take out. But no, I’m not buying my AP a Tesla because I drive one or buying her a designer purse because I carry one.

Actually…yes it does. Au Pair literally means “on par” as in she is to be treated “on par” with your exalted financial level.

And on par with your children who also haven’t worked for these fantastic vacations, and may be sassy and angsty as preteens and teens.

Sorry I don't have that kind of unconditional big love. My kids go on these fantastic vacations because they are lucky to be MY kids money wise. But they "paid" for those benefits by missing a lot of parents' company because we are working our butt off to provide them a nice life. What did the AP do to deserve the same? Plus I discipline my kids when they are not good and potentially punish them if they don't improve. Does AP want the same?

I treat my AP very generously, nicely and reasonably. She is not a superstar and doesn't deserve to be treated like one. I am not a saint and never wanted to be one. What I said is the ugly truth whether you admit or not. If your AP is on par with your own kids, why don't you pay for AP's college here for $80k a year? If you do, I truly admire you.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Think about what she makes…one weeks pay is close to a one day ticket. You cannot ask her to pay for that, especially after you asked her to join you. Plus, you set a precedent last time.

We are actually doing the same for Christmas, and the ap traveling with you dilemma is one one my main downsides of having an ap. So, solidarity. Just use her a bit like others have said.

We were planning to go to Disney this year but did not go because of this the traveling with AP dilemma. My AP is immature and thinking about what benefits she could get from us all the time. While I understand that they don't make much and would not be able to afford a decent Disney trip by herself, I don't like the feeling of almost being forced to give her an expensive trip. Yes taking her with us is not required, but the AP will definitely feel disappointed if we don't take her and that might affect the quality of her work. So we decided not to go this year.

While I agree with providing the AP the "American experience", but it shouldn't be expected an experience at my financial level that I worked my butt off for. I would give exceptions to an unicorn AP who treats me truly like a family but doesn't make me feel that I am a dollar tree. I have no problem paying for a beautiful year for an AP like that. Unfortunately our current AP is not.

Actually…yes it does. Au Pair literally means “on par” as in she is to be treated “on par” with your exalted financial level.

Don’t listen to the PP, OP. She is a nanny troll.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Think about what she makes…one weeks pay is close to a one day ticket. You cannot ask her to pay for that, especially after you asked her to join you. Plus, you set a precedent last time.

We are actually doing the same for Christmas, and the ap traveling with you dilemma is one one my main downsides of having an ap. So, solidarity. Just use her a bit like others have said.

We were planning to go to Disney this year but did not go because of this the traveling with AP dilemma. My AP is immature and thinking about what benefits she could get from us all the time. While I understand that they don't make much and would not be able to afford a decent Disney trip by herself, I don't like the feeling of almost being forced to give her an expensive trip. Yes taking her with us is not required, but the AP will definitely feel disappointed if we don't take her and that might affect the quality of her work. So we decided not to go this year.

While I agree with providing the AP the "American experience", but it shouldn't be expected an experience at my financial level that I worked my butt off for. I would give exceptions to an unicorn AP who treats me truly like a family but doesn't make me feel that I am a dollar tree. I have no problem paying for a beautiful year for an AP like that. Unfortunately our current AP is not.

Actually…yes it does. Au Pair literally means “on par” as in she is to be treated “on par” with your exalted financial level.

And on par with your children who also haven’t worked for these fantastic vacations, and may be sassy and angsty as preteens and teens.

Sorry I don't have that kind of unconditional big love. My kids go on these fantastic vacations because they are lucky to be MY kids money wise. But they "paid" for those benefits by missing a lot of parents' company because we are working our butt off to provide them a nice life. What did the AP do to deserve the same? Plus I discipline my kids when they are not good and potentially punish them if they don't improve. Does AP want the same?

I treat my AP very generously, nicely and reasonably. She is not a superstar and doesn't deserve to be treated like one. I am not a saint and never wanted to be one. What I said is the ugly truth whether you admit or not. If your AP is on par with your own kids, why don't you pay for AP's college here for $80k a year? If you do, I truly admire you.

You are so delusional. Disney is not a fantastic vacation and your children are not superstars, either, and never will be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Think about what she makes…one weeks pay is close to a one day ticket. You cannot ask her to pay for that, especially after you asked her to join you. Plus, you set a precedent last time.

We are actually doing the same for Christmas, and the ap traveling with you dilemma is one one my main downsides of having an ap. So, solidarity. Just use her a bit like others have said.

We were planning to go to Disney this year but did not go because of this the traveling with AP dilemma. My AP is immature and thinking about what benefits she could get from us all the time. While I understand that they don't make much and would not be able to afford a decent Disney trip by herself, I don't like the feeling of almost being forced to give her an expensive trip. Yes taking her with us is not required, but the AP will definitely feel disappointed if we don't take her and that might affect the quality of her work. So we decided not to go this year.

While I agree with providing the AP the "American experience", but it shouldn't be expected an experience at my financial level that I worked my butt off for. I would give exceptions to an unicorn AP who treats me truly like a family but doesn't make me feel that I am a dollar tree. I have no problem paying for a beautiful year for an AP like that. Unfortunately our current AP is not.

Actually…yes it does. Au Pair literally means “on par” as in she is to be treated “on par” with your exalted financial level.

And on par with your children who also haven’t worked for these fantastic vacations, and may be sassy and angsty as preteens and teens.

Sorry I don't have that kind of unconditional big love. My kids go on these fantastic vacations because they are lucky to be MY kids money wise. But they "paid" for those benefits by missing a lot of parents' company because we are working our butt off to provide them a nice life. What did the AP do to deserve the same? Plus I discipline my kids when they are not good and potentially punish them if they don't improve. Does AP want the same?

I treat my AP very generously, nicely and reasonably. She is not a superstar and doesn't deserve to be treated like one. I am not a saint and never wanted to be one. What I said is the ugly truth whether you admit or not. If your AP is on par with your own kids, why don't you pay for AP's college here for $80k a year? If you do, I truly admire you.

You are so delusional. Disney is not a fantastic vacation and your children are not superstars, either, and never will be.

lol

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Think about what she makes…one weeks pay is close to a one day ticket. You cannot ask her to pay for that, especially after you asked her to join you. Plus, you set a precedent last time.

We are actually doing the same for Christmas, and the ap traveling with you dilemma is one one my main downsides of having an ap. So, solidarity. Just use her a bit like others have said.

We were planning to go to Disney this year but did not go because of this the traveling with AP dilemma. My AP is immature and thinking about what benefits she could get from us all the time. While I understand that they don't make much and would not be able to afford a decent Disney trip by herself, I don't like the feeling of almost being forced to give her an expensive trip. Yes taking her with us is not required, but the AP will definitely feel disappointed if we don't take her and that might affect the quality of her work. So we decided not to go this year.

While I agree with providing the AP the "American experience", but it shouldn't be expected an experience at my financial level that I worked my butt off for. I would give exceptions to an unicorn AP who treats me truly like a family but doesn't make me feel that I am a dollar tree. I have no problem paying for a beautiful year for an AP like that. Unfortunately our current AP is not.

Actually…yes it does. Au Pair literally means “on par” as in she is to be treated “on par” with your exalted financial level.

And on par with your children who also haven’t worked for these fantastic vacations, and may be sassy and angsty as preteens and teens.

Sorry I don't have that kind of unconditional big love. My kids go on these fantastic vacations because they are lucky to be MY kids money wise. But they "paid" for those benefits by missing a lot of parents' company because we are working our butt off to provide them a nice life. What did the AP do to deserve the same? Plus I discipline my kids when they are not good and potentially punish them if they don't improve. Does AP want the same?

I treat my AP very generously, nicely and reasonably. She is not a superstar and doesn't deserve to be treated like one. I am not a saint and never wanted to be one. What I said is the ugly truth whether you admit or not. If your AP is on par with your own kids, why don't you pay for AP's college here for $80k a year? If you do, I truly admire you.

You are so delusional. Disney is not a fantastic vacation and your children are not superstars, either, and never will be.

Not sure where my children will be in life. It doesn't matter as long as they are good people. One thing I am sure is that they are smart enough to understand the principals of other people's words and not to be judgmental.

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The “principals”?! Oy vey