Letting go of nanny in first few weeks

[Anonymous]

OP here. Thanks to those who have posted useful replies. I feel bad for the nanny, because being laid off sucks, but given the way the first few weeks went, I know I’m not ever going to be happy with her watching my kids. So I’ll pay her severance, be as polite as possible, and let her get on with her life.

[Anonymous]

Awful. Pay her the 2 weeks so she can find a job. This is why most nannies are high ego against parents because people like you OP

[Anonymous]

The first weeks are a trial period, which is pretty common. My job had a probation period of a year. People should not take this personally, but rather figure out how to improve or look for different type of work that is a better fit. Not every person is a good fit for every job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The first weeks are a trial period, which is pretty common. My job had a probation period of a year. People should not take this personally, but rather figure out how to improve or look for different type of work that is a better fit. Not every person is a good fit for every job.

The same parents should do. They shouldn't take personally these kind of issues. They also have to figure out how to improve their parenting skills, learn how to work and respect nannies work; while they are working from (not being in their way, and meses up everything and have a set office). Or look other type of childcare (like a daycare of be a Stay at home parent), that's a better fit for them. No every single Family deserve to have a nanny and it's a great fit for a great nanny either.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. Thanks to those who have posted useful replies. I feel bad for the nanny, because being laid off sucks, but given the way the first few weeks went, I know I’m not ever going to be happy with her watching my kids. So I’ll pay her severance, be as polite as possible, and let her get on with her life.

OP, another nanny employer here. You’re doing what needs to be done to be a good person, and in fact going above and beyond. Not sure why nannies sign a contract including a trial period and then don’t expect a trial. My nanny requested such provision’s removal as she knew if she was let go even during a trial period she’d need a few weeks of pay to tide her over. So, our notice provision governs…but she’d have to work to get paid if we wanted her to.

It’s a job, not an adoption.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Awful. Pay her the 2 weeks so she can find a job. This is why most nannies are high ego against parents because people like you OP

Huh?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Lots of nannies are quitting their jobs; bcs when parents are Teleworking, there are not any boundaries set; which it's very important now; when parents and a nanny are sharing the same house to work. So the environment become very stressful and no desirable to anyone; even though nannies are getting great rates.

Note: I'm not talking in general. With this pandemic; I really appreciate families, whom have learned how to work from home, focuse on their work and have their private office at home. No working or hanging out around, in common areas; and no popping in and popping out when hear a child complaining, whining or crying. Which it's a huge mistake for Parents who sadly has not understand yet; why they will be hiring a new nanny, after a new one, after another one, everytime. Nannies are quitting often their jobs; as I said, even they are earning a very high salary. It's most important for them their mental health than working in a toxic and stressful environment; when parents don't let them do their job and don't let them be in full of charge of their kids.

Sorry, OP, but in these times; not always it's nanny's fault if the position don't work out. It might also be your family, who didn't work out for her.. so nanny couldn't performance her job; as she would typically do it; if the work environment it's not a good one.

So good for her and good for you part ways.

Nightmarish!!! I am 'unavailable' for a certain family because of the micromanaging when they are around. Not even $50/hour would be enough to deal with them. Real whackos!!! Too bad, the kids are so funny and warm my heart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:When she shows up Monday morning get everything from her that’s yours . Car seats, keys, credit card, etc . Then pay her the 2 weeks and ask her to leave. Have new nanny start Tuesday. Or Monday later in the day if you wish . I would wait until Tuesday personally.[/quote

Lol.... what are you talking about? Are you sure you really read this post or another. What car, and what keys and what credit card. And how do you know if PP hasn't paid her last week, on Friday as she had to be. Why you seems to be so angry; as you were the OP. Probably you are someone who hates the nannies world lol.

Yes I read the very small post . I myself am a nanny . I was just telling op to make sure she gets everything that is hers , example; car seat , credit card, key. If the nanny was never given those things then op doesn’t have to get them does she. Just trying to help op make this as smooth as possible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We were able to tell during the trial day it wasn't going to work. Unfortunately the nanny thought everything was going great, and CRIED when we told her we wouldn't be moving forward with her. We hadn't given her a key or anything so it was pretty easy to give her the money for the day and usher her towards the door. Three minutes later she rang the bell and asked if she could take a picture of the baby to remember her. No.

I seriously doubt she was crying about your amazing job she got let go from, but crying because 1) she's panicked about paying rent 2) she stopped job searching because she thought she had a job and 3) you basically told her she sucks as a human. You sound like complete trash. Too bad you procreated.

Are there any nannies that post here that aren't bitter, childish and unstable? Are the "special" ones just the loudest?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We were able to tell during the trial day it wasn't going to work. Unfortunately the nanny thought everything was going great, and CRIED when we told her we wouldn't be moving forward with her. We hadn't given her a key or anything so it was pretty easy to give her the money for the day and usher her towards the door. Three minutes later she rang the bell and asked if she could take a picture of the baby to remember her. No.

I seriously doubt she was crying about your amazing job she got let go from, but crying because 1) she's panicked about paying rent 2) she stopped job searching because she thought she had a job and 3) you basically told her she sucks as a human. You sound like complete trash. Too bad you procreated.

Too bad she sucked and was clueless. Ignore this poster OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We were able to tell during the trial day it wasn't going to work. Unfortunately the nanny thought everything was going great, and CRIED when we told her we wouldn't be moving forward with her. We hadn't given her a key or anything so it was pretty easy to give her the money for the day and usher her towards the door. Three minutes later she rang the bell and asked if she could take a picture of the baby to remember her. No.

I seriously doubt she was crying about your amazing job she got let go from, but crying because 1) she's panicked about paying rent 2) she stopped job searching because she thought she had a job and 3) you basically told her she sucks as a human. You sound like complete trash. Too bad you procreated.

Wow, this must be a reject nanny speaking.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We were able to tell during the trial day it wasn't going to work. Unfortunately the nanny thought everything was going great, and CRIED when we told her we wouldn't be moving forward with her. We hadn't given her a key or anything so it was pretty easy to give her the money for the day and usher her towards the door. Three minutes later she rang the bell and asked if she could take a picture of the baby to remember her. No.

I seriously doubt she was crying about your amazing job she got let go from, but crying because 1) she's panicked about paying rent 2) she stopped job searching because she thought she had a job and 3) you basically told her she sucks as a human. You sound like complete trash. Too bad you procreated.

Are there any nannies that post here that aren't bitter, childish and unstable? Are the "special" ones just the loudest?

You spelled “entitled MBs wrong.”

(not a nanny)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:As someone who manages people at work and has hired nannies, the regret is usually not letting go of someone who is not a good fit sooner. Often times, we make excuses, try to make it work. It usually doesn't. It is only afterwards that you realize how draining the situation was. My advice for what is worth is move on as quickly as possible.

This this this!! We stuck with someone much longer than we should have and it was so draining and terrible. And she was still surprised when we let her go, despite having many conversations about what was not working. Should have just done it three months earlier and saved myself a lot of headache.