Playroom disaster

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a Nanny & would advise either 1 or 3.

Definitely not 2.

Because to expect her to have the playroom completely cleaned up would be an unfair responsibility for her.

Yes, the kids MAY help - but that is unlikely especially due to their ages.
It would be likely that the Nanny would be doing the majority of the straightening up here.

I know some of you either don't understand or just don't care, but this a job and they aren't always "fair". You don't always get to stick your your special preferred list of chores as if you're working in a vacuum with nothing going on around you.


OP, 2 is fine given the circumstances, and a good employee wouldn't have even needed to be told or asked. Just something to keep in your pocket when bonus time comes, nanny asks for for special allowances for herself, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here - Thanks for the input. I was in the ER for hours on Sunday (medical issue) so husband had kids and they did not do great clean up and then he worked late into the night on work and once I got back from ER was too drained to clean. Monday and Tuesday were crazy with kid after school events and practices, and honestly I still feel like total crap, so we just let the playroom slide.

Nanny had played outside much of Monday and Tuesday since it was great weather. I had a meeting get cancelled so had an hour on Wednesday and just put everything in order. DH and I were on opposite sides on the issue - he felt like we could tell older two to clean with nanny supervision and I didn't even want her to see the state of affairs and wished there was a door to close and lock. Nanny was very understanding and kind, but I was embarrassed by the situation and really try hard to not job creep or have two sets of rules. But wanted a check on what others would think.

Your DH dropped the ball. Why didn't he clean up? The real question is:. Why do you allow your children to make messes by taking out every toy. Most of us teach our children that before they start playing with another toy they put the old toy away. You don't teach this to your children because you can sluff their mess off to the nanny. Children do what their parents allow them to do and, apparently neither you or your husband parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a Nanny & would advise either 1 or 3.

Definitely not 2.

Because to expect her to have the playroom completely cleaned up would be an unfair responsibility for her.

Yes, the kids MAY help - but that is unlikely especially due to their ages.
It would be likely that the Nanny would be doing the majority of the straightening up here.

I know some of you either don't understand or just don't care, but this a job and they aren't always "fair". You don't always get to stick your your special preferred list of chores as if you're working in a vacuum with nothing going on around you.


OP, 2 is fine given the circumstances, and a good employee wouldn't have even needed to be told or asked. Just something to keep in your pocket when bonus time comes, nanny asks for for special allowances for herself, etc.

Exactly. If you are a nanny, you should make yourself indispensable or at least make your employer's life easier. f the employer feels they have to answer to you when they have a special need due to a medical emergency, you don't deserve a raise or a bonus. I agree that both parents and nanny should stick to the one activity/toy at a time per child though.

[Anonymous]

The 8 year old is OLD ENOUGH TO CLEAN UP

[Anonymous]

Teach the younger ones to clean up, PICK UP YOUR TOYS so you don't loose them. Nanny should just take care of them. Parents be a team player, then you wonder why nanny leaves you and your brats

[Anonymous]

Picking up toys is SO BASIC FOR KIDS. I'm a teacher and we teach good manners early age

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a Nanny & would advise either 1 or 3.

Definitely not 2.

Because to expect her to have the playroom completely cleaned up would be an unfair responsibility for her.

Yes, the kids MAY help - but that is unlikely especially due to their ages.
It would be likely that the Nanny would be doing the majority of the straightening up here.

I know some of you either don't understand or just don't care, but this a job and they aren't always "fair". You don't always get to stick your your special preferred list of chores as if you're working in a vacuum with nothing going on around you.


OP, 2 is fine given the circumstances, and a good employee wouldn't have even needed to be told or asked. Just something to keep in your pocket when bonus time comes, nanny asks for for special allowances for herself, etc.

Exactly. If you are a nanny, you should make yourself indispensable or at least make your employer's life easier. f the employer feels they have to answer to you when they have a special need due to a medical emergency, you don't deserve a raise or a bonus. I agree that both parents and nanny should stick to the one activity/toy at a time per child though.

A nanny's job is to take care of children. It is not her job to make your life easier by cleaning up messes that you are too lazy to clean
Obviously, her medical problem was not an emergency or she would not have come home. OP should have gone to Urgent Care where she would not have waited all day.

[Anonymous]

At 8 it would have been my job/chore to straighten the playroom. Also, we were taught we could not have more than 1 game or toy out at one time. You always put one back before taking out another one. It was automatic after the first time. I do that with my own kids. There is never a mess or disorder. My mom had 3 under 3 and was not about to add to the workload. I follow the same rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a Nanny & would advise either 1 or 3.

Definitely not 2.

Because to expect her to have the playroom completely cleaned up would be an unfair responsibility for her.

Yes, the kids MAY help - but that is unlikely especially due to their ages.
It would be likely that the Nanny would be doing the majority of the straightening up here.

I know some of you either don't understand or just don't care, but this a job and they aren't always "fair". You don't always get to stick your your special preferred list of chores as if you're working in a vacuum with nothing going on around you.


OP, 2 is fine given the circumstances, and a good employee wouldn't have even needed to be told or asked. Just something to keep in your pocket when bonus time comes, nanny asks for for special allowances for herself, etc.

So you clean your boss’s office, vacuum and take out the trash? Because your job is a job and they aren’t always “fair.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a Nanny & would advise either 1 or 3.

Definitely not 2.

Because to expect her to have the playroom completely cleaned up would be an unfair responsibility for her.

Yes, the kids MAY help - but that is unlikely especially due to their ages.
It would be likely that the Nanny would be doing the majority of the straightening up here.

I know some of you either don't understand or just don't care, but this a job and they aren't always "fair". You don't always get to stick your your special preferred list of chores as if you're working in a vacuum with nothing going on around you.


OP, 2 is fine given the circumstances, and a good employee wouldn't have even needed to be told or asked. Just something to keep in your pocket when bonus time comes, nanny asks for for special allowances for herself, etc.

So you clean your boss’s office, vacuum and take out the trash? Because your job is a job and they aren’t always “fair.”

Np but I’m guessing the pp works in corporate America or healthcare. So no, we don’t clean our boss’ offices because cleaning and picking up is not part of a corporate job… it is part of a nanny’s job. You’re comparing apples or oranges.

A better example: when my boss went on vacation, I covered her work, as well as my own. I also made myself available outside of normal business hours because she was traveling internationally. Similarly, when I had a family issue, my boss covered my conference calls and time sensitive matters for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a Nanny & would advise either 1 or 3.

Definitely not 2.

Because to expect her to have the playroom completely cleaned up would be an unfair responsibility for her.

Yes, the kids MAY help - but that is unlikely especially due to their ages.
It would be likely that the Nanny would be doing the majority of the straightening up here.

I know some of you either don't understand or just don't care, but this a job and they aren't always "fair". You don't always get to stick your your special preferred list of chores as if you're working in a vacuum with nothing going on around you.


OP, 2 is fine given the circumstances, and a good employee wouldn't have even needed to be told or asked. Just something to keep in your pocket when bonus time comes, nanny asks for for special allowances for herself, etc.

Exactly. If you are a nanny, you should make yourself indispensable or at least make your employer's life easier. f the employer feels they have to answer to you when they have a special need due to a medical emergency, you don't deserve a raise or a bonus. I agree that both parents and nanny should stick to the one activity/toy at a time per child though.

A nanny's job is to take care of children. It is not her job to make your life easier by cleaning up messes that you are too lazy to clean
Obviously, her medical problem was not an emergency or she would not have come home. OP should have gone to Urgent Care where she would not have waited all day.

Right, and the playroom is the children's space, so the nanny should be willing to help tidy it, especially given the circumstances. If not, she doesn't have the flexibility to be a team player at all? I might not fire her if she is otherwise a good nanny, but I would be less generous with raises, bonuses, and special requests. For example, we occasionally let our nanny leave early on Fridays (no PTO involved). If she can't be bothered to help when we need it, then that practice might end.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a Nanny & would advise either 1 or 3.

Definitely not 2.

Because to expect her to have the playroom completely cleaned up would be an unfair responsibility for her.

Yes, the kids MAY help - but that is unlikely especially due to their ages.
It would be likely that the Nanny would be doing the majority of the straightening up here.

I know some of you either don't understand or just don't care, but this a job and they aren't always "fair". You don't always get to stick your your special preferred list of chores as if you're working in a vacuum with nothing going on around you.


OP, 2 is fine given the circumstances, and a good employee wouldn't have even needed to be told or asked. Just something to keep in your pocket when bonus time comes, nanny asks for for special allowances for herself, etc.

Exactly. If you are a nanny, you should make yourself indispensable or at least make your employer's life easier. f the employer feels they have to answer to you when they have a special need due to a medical emergency, you don't deserve a raise or a bonus. I agree that both parents and nanny should stick to the one activity/toy at a time per child though.

A nanny's job is to take care of children. It is not her job to make your life easier by cleaning up messes that you are too lazy to clean
Obviously, her medical problem was not an emergency or she would not have come home. OP should have gone to Urgent Care where she would not have waited all day.

Right, and the playroom is the children's space, so the nanny should be willing to help tidy it, especially given the circumstances. If not, she doesn't have the flexibility to be a team player at all? I might not fire her if she is otherwise a good nanny, but I would be less generous with raises, bonuses, and special requests. For example, we occasionally let our nanny leave early on Fridays (no PTO involved). If she can't be bothered to help when we need it, then that practice might end.

Ah, yes. The old "we are a team" and there is no 'I" in team meaning "I, The OP" is not in team unless OP starts with job creep because they are so special and, anyway, it is a child related job to clean up all children's messes, no matter when they occur.

Nannies should not be expected to clean up children's messes made on parent's watch!

[Anonymous]

Lazy parents...

Stop giving your kids too much JUNK TOYS

[Anonymous]

Parents setting a terrible example.

[Anonymous]

A good nanny would do 2 without being asked. I can’t believe you were having a medical issue and she didn’t help out a little extra. Quite frankly most of the nannies I know are awesome and would just do it unless it was a regular occurrence. But they aren’t the type do be on DCUM.