Was I Wrong To Feel A Little Offended?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not trying to judge but why is she sleeping in a poopy diaper? Are you not checking before she goes to sleep? Or do you put her down awake and then she poops and then falls asleep? I’ve been a nanny for four infants and they never pooped while sleeping…

With regard to the mom, she sounds mentally ill. I would not tolerate that behavior from my employer. Not only would I quit (I dont think you need to give her the courtesy of two weeks unless you want to), I would explicitly explain why you are quitting. Her whispering with her husband in the kitchen was probably him telling her what a fool she was, which is why she then came back and thanked you 2x.

Of course you were judging. I have three children and all have popped a diaper while sleeping and woke up crying because of poopy diaper.

Well in my experience 10 month olds don’t poop while they are sleeping. They might poop in their crib and then fall asleep or they might wake up and poop. But poop while they’re sleeping? Lol, no. You might want to have your kids checked for incontinence issues…

Another Nanny here. I disagree with you. I have 18 years of experience and have care of multiple children since babies. And Yes, babies are able to poop while they are napping. I always put them down in clean and dry diaper before naps. Some of then don't exactly wake up. They are just napping; even if you are watching the monitor, sometimes they are just moving with their eyes close and then keep napping.

Some of them wake up and cry when they have pop and good sleepers don't do it, bcs they are so tired and don't wake up. You really they have poop until they wake up and you pick them up.

So if you mean that a baby have to be Wide open and cry to go poop, you don't have enough experience in different stages to be a nanny. You are totally wrong.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not trying to judge but why is she sleeping in a poopy diaper? Are you not checking before she goes to sleep? Or do you put her down awake and then she poops and then falls asleep? I’ve been a nanny for four infants and they never pooped while sleeping…

With regard to the mom, she sounds mentally ill. I would not tolerate that behavior from my employer. Not only would I quit (I dont think you need to give her the courtesy of two weeks unless you want to), I would explicitly explain why you are quitting. Her whispering with her husband in the kitchen was probably him telling her what a fool she was, which is why she then came back and thanked you 2x.

And yes, you are completely wrong like other poster. "About when and how a baby is able to poop" . I'm also a Nanny with so much experience and yep. Babies are different and impredictible. I tell you that because of my experience talk by itself. I have care with multiples Infants and all my years of experience.

[Anonymous]

Ladies. How a little of comparison for others. OP is positing here for some advice or support of what she is going through. No to judge her if a baby poop or not. You have missed the bottom like of her posting.

The trust is broken already. I would look for a new position OP, so simple. As I wouldn't feel comfortable anymore working for a family who doesn't trust on me and it would break my heart hearing the parents asking me why in the whole world happened to her daughter to make her cry like that.

Good luck OP finding a good family, who trust on you and really appreciate you.

[Anonymous]

I’m a nanny and a mom.

This can be hard for working moms; you leave your precious baby and have to trust they’re ok. It’s difficult not to be triggered by that crying. She probably struggles with her own feelings, which has nothing to do with OP, and let that comment slip. She felt bad, and she and her husband discussed why the comment was inappropriate and she tried to smooth things over without directly apologizing. OP, you did nothing wrong. The mom is having a hard time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny and a mom.

This can be hard for working moms; you leave your precious baby and have to trust they’re ok. It’s difficult not to be triggered by that crying. She probably struggles with her own feelings, which has nothing to do with OP, and let that comment slip. She felt bad, and she and her husband discussed why the comment was inappropriate and she tried to smooth things over without directly apologizing. OP, you did nothing wrong. The mom is having a hard time

OP did not something wrong. But she is the one who will have to deal in this environment; when she feel broken already inside. Op, I wish you make the best decision ever for you. If you are planning to leave I wish you good luck in your new job.

[Anonymous]

You don’t want to work for a mom having a hard time. Time to look for a better job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny and a mom.

This can be hard for working moms; you leave your precious baby and have to trust they’re ok. It’s difficult not to be triggered by that crying. She probably struggles with her own feelings, which has nothing to do with OP, and let that comment slip. She felt bad, and she and her husband discussed why the comment was inappropriate and she tried to smooth things over without directly apologizing. OP, you did nothing wrong. The mom is having a hard time

No, no. Stop making excuses for the mother. If she doesn't trust OP then she quits her job and takes care of her own child. What she did was say that she does not trust OP and is accusing her of hurting her child.

The trust is broken irretrievably. Words spoken cannot be taken back.

[Anonymous]

Agree this particular mom sounds like she should take care of her own child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny and a mom.

This can be hard for working moms; you leave your precious baby and have to trust they’re ok. It’s difficult not to be triggered by that crying. She probably struggles with her own feelings, which has nothing to do with OP, and let that comment slip. She felt bad, and she and her husband discussed why the comment was inappropriate and she tried to smooth things over without directly apologizing. OP, you did nothing wrong. The mom is having a hard time

No, no. Stop making excuses for the mother. If she doesn't trust OP then she quits her job and takes care of her own child. What she did was say that she does not trust OP and is accusing her of hurting her child.

The trust is broken irretrievably. Words spoken cannot be taken back.

Seems a little extreme

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny and a mom.

This can be hard for working moms; you leave your precious baby and have to trust they’re ok. It’s difficult not to be triggered by that crying. She probably struggles with her own feelings, which has nothing to do with OP, and let that comment slip. She felt bad, and she and her husband discussed why the comment was inappropriate and she tried to smooth things over without directly apologizing. OP, you did nothing wrong. The mom is having a hard time

I sick of hearing "moms and their precious babies". If they're so precious to you, stay home and take care of your child.

You check references of the nanny
and you run a criminal check and some of you really invade their privacy by running a credit check. If you can't trust the nanny with all of this then hire someone else or stay home with your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m a nanny and a mom.

This can be hard for working moms; you leave your precious baby and have to trust they’re ok. It’s difficult not to be triggered by that crying. She probably struggles with her own feelings, which has nothing to do with OP, and let that comment slip. She felt bad, and she and her husband discussed why the comment was inappropriate and she tried to smooth things over without directly apologizing. OP, you did nothing wrong. The mom is having a hard time

I sick of hearing "moms and their precious babies". If they're so precious to you, stay home and take care of your child.

You check references of the nanny
and you run a criminal check and some of you really invade their privacy by running a credit check. If you can't trust the nanny with all of this then hire someone else or stay home with your child.

Geez, you have so much misdirected anger that you carry around.
It must be so hard living with so much pent up bitterness and resentment.
Someone must really have made you angry, I think it would be best for you to get individual therapy vs. coming on DCUM and ruining people’s threads.
You should only be responding if you have anything related to the topic at hand.

Your response had nothing to do with the original post.

[Anonymous]

^^ Touché ^^

[Anonymous]

Your family does not trust you.

A.) The Mother’s comment

B.) The fact that after all this time they still have cameras up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not trying to judge but why is she sleeping in a poopy diaper? Are you not checking before she goes to sleep? Or do you put her down awake and then she poops and then falls asleep? I’ve been a nanny for four infants and they never pooped while sleeping…

With regard to the mom, she sounds mentally ill. I would not tolerate that behavior from my employer. Not only would I quit (I dont think you need to give her the courtesy of two weeks unless you want to), I would explicitly explain why you are quitting. Her whispering with her husband in the kitchen was probably him telling her what a fool she was, which is why she then came back and thanked you 2x.

Of course you were judging. I have three children and all have popped a diaper while sleeping and woke up crying because of poopy diaper.

Come on now! Infants poop while sleeping and wake up because of the discomfort.

[Anonymous]

You should be grateful, to have found a nanny willing to work for your family; with multiple and older kids and parents working from home. For me it would be no thanks.