Gave our nanny 2 week notice, and then she stopped coming to work. What do I do?

[Anonymous]

Nanny needs to find a new job. Letter isn't enough. You gotta respond to the calls. She took care of your precious gems. Be fair, pay her the 2 weeks and if she finds a job let her take the job and you still pay her.

She needs to worry of finding a job because you chose daycare

[Anonymous]

Call an agency that places temp nannies while you interview for replacement

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a little bit of confusion OP on the amount of PTO days that your Nanny has.

Did she have more than 22 days of PTO?
You said that she has three days of PTO left.

So I guess what I am asking for clarification for are the twenty-two days that she missed this year.

I personally feel you should fire your Nanny.
She has not been reliable at all & does not seem to be taking her job as seriously as she should.
I would be hard-pressed to offer her ANY severance pay after such bad job performance.

If you feel generous - you can always pay out her PTO but I honestly do not think you owe her any more than the day(s) that she has already worked.

While I am sorry that you + your husband are dealing w/shoddy childcare > your Nanny probably feels awkward working after being given notice by you.
This is not an excuse for her behavior at all…..just perhaps the reason why she may not come back.
Plus would you really want your child in the care of a disgruntled Nanny?

I wish you luck w/preschool for your daughter.
Hope everything is a smooth ride from now on.

~ Signed,
A Nanny

You cannot withhold earned vacation/pto for any reason.

[Anonymous]

She sounds ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

The nanny is not showing up to even say bye to the child. Don't pay her anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Years ago I did a share and got 2 weeks notice. We weren’t exactly parting on good term due to the parents and I honestly didn’t feel like showing up or working the last 2 weeks. I had checked out. Pretty much my last two weeks kids just sat in crib all day unless being changed/fed while I looked for another job.

This is why so many parents fire on the spot and don’t give the nanny even a chance to say bye to the kids. No one wants their baby to bear the brunt of whatever disagreement the adults have. Unless it’s a 100% amicable split, I’d just pay out the notice period and have the nanny leave immediately.

To OP: did she have unlimited sick days? I would put in some limit on paid sick days for your next nanny (and say Covid or other long illnesses/injuries to be discussed case by case). My personal preference would be to pay out PTO, even if not legally mandatory, and not do severance, on the principle of PTO is that it’s accrued and earned, whereas severance is usually to incentivize good behavior until the last day or to recognize a long term of employment coming to an end, neither of which was your case.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny needs to find a new job. Letter isn't enough. You gotta respond to the calls. She took care of your precious gems. Be fair, pay her the 2 weeks and if she finds a job let her take the job and you still pay her.

She needs to worry of finding a job because you chose daycare

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Not trying to stir the pot here > but this is just terrible advice here!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Years ago I did a share and got 2 weeks notice. We weren’t exactly parting on good term due to the parents and I honestly didn’t feel like showing up or working the last 2 weeks. I had checked out. Pretty much my last two weeks kids just sat in crib all day unless being changed/fed while I looked for another job.

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This is just awful PP.
Why should the child suffer with negligent care just because you had checked out?
I could never neglect a child just because I didn’t get along with the parents.

I hope you are out of the Nanny profession now.

Nanny stories like THIS give all of us responsible + loving Nannies a bad name.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny needs to find a new job. Letter isn't enough. You gotta respond to the calls. She took care of your precious gems. Be fair, pay her the 2 weeks and if she finds a job let her take the job and you still pay her.

She needs to worry of finding a job because you chose daycare

Yes, and OP had to worry about her own job because the nanny took so much unplanned time off. Flakes don't get to call other people on flaky behavior.

[Anonymous]

Don't pay another dime. She's done. And please, as a parent who's been in a similar situation, be honest with any references. Other children and families shouldn't be subjected to what you're going through. Let the good professional nannies get the jobs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Looking for advice. We hired our first nanny in January 2022. Since being employed with us, she has called out sick over 22 days. This is not counting her planned days off that we have provided PTO for, or paid holidays. We decided that we need more reliability, and have enrolled our child into preschool. Last Friday, we gave our nanny 2 week's notice, along with an offer to pay out her unused paid time off days (3) and one week of severance pay. In addition, we offered to be flexible around interviews if she needed to take some time off, and provided her a letter of recommendation to help serve as a positive reference for her.

Since we gave her notice, she came to work on Monday, took Tuesday off for an interview, and has now called in sick the last two days. We have no idea if she will come in tomorrow or not. Next week is incredibly stressful for us, as we have medical appointments that we need to be at. Given her lack of reliability this week (and honestly her entire employment with us), I am debating just firing her tomorrow if she does show up and plan for other childcare next week.

I want to fire her the next day that she comes in. I am so frustrated and feel like she abuses our flexibility and generosity. Do I tell her not to come in next week, and just give her the 1 week of severance and 3 days of unused PTO along with the days she worked this week? Would you feel obligated to honor the 2 week notice? Or would you renege on the severance and PTO payouts (neither are required in state of TN)?

I don't know what to do, but she is making it impossible for my husband and I to work, and I can't risk us losing our jobs over this.

I am a professional trained Nanny from the UK. Everyone is using the word FIRE, what people forget is the Nanny community is a grapevine. Have a discussion, DON'T put in writing. Saying something like, we want to thank you for your time, but we desperately need consistency which you have been unable to furnish our family. This would be a good time to part ways as you have been out the last three days, we were not sure you were coming back and we cannot accomodate that any longer. We have made other arrangements. We wish you good luck in the future.

That way you don't give her an opportunity to get nasty back at you and you most certainly close the door. It always blows me away how much parents will tolerate and how much advantage some Nannies take. In ALL my years as a Nanny over 30 years, I have taken 3 days off sick (caught usually from my charges) and 1 week for surgery and went back with sutures! I'm so sorry this happened to you and your first time experience. Some of us are committed and loyal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You did something OP. A happy nanny stays. Pay her, be fair. Don't be a resentful woman, looks ugly

There are lots of lazy and unreliable people looking to be Nannie’s because they can’t keep a position in a team environment

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Years ago I did a share and got 2 weeks notice. We weren’t exactly parting on good term due to the parents and I honestly didn’t feel like showing up or working the last 2 weeks. I had checked out. Pretty much my last two weeks kids just sat in crib all day unless being changed/fed while I looked for another job.

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This is just awful PP.
Why should the child suffer with negligent care just because you had checked out?
I could never neglect a child just because I didn’t get along with the parents.

I hope you are out of the Nanny profession now.

Nanny stories like THIS give all of us responsible + loving Nannies a bad name.

Please just stop. Your tired comment is worn out. Most of you Americans don’t even know what a nanny is, so here’s a hint: nannies do not do your routine housecleaning. If your help wants to be your cleaning lady, that’s a totally different job.

My personal reputation is based on MY history of outstanding work, as evidenced in dozens of well-written reference letters. Of course I can jump in to be Jill-of-all-trades, but that’s not what defines my professional work as a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Years ago I did a share and got 2 weeks notice. We weren’t exactly parting on good term due to the parents and I honestly didn’t feel like showing up or working the last 2 weeks. I had checked out. Pretty much my last two weeks kids just sat in crib all day unless being changed/fed while I looked for another job.

You should be ashamed taking this out on the kid - you shouldn't be in this field at all if this is the level of care and compassion you have for children. Really disgusting.

[Anonymous]

You do not get $100 worth of work for $20/hour.