Son is too attached to Nanny

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is jealous of the nanny because your son has spent almost all all his waking hours all his life with someone who loves him. Maybe you and your wife should take a lesson from this.

OP here,

My wife had the opportunity to stay home but she declined the job.
My job did not give opportunity to work from home but if it ever does, I will take it and spend time at home. having a baby was my idea and my wife didn't at the beginning but we agreed to have a full time Nanny. Our son knows he is loved and wanted but he has chosen to love his Nanny more than his mother.

Your son obviously feels more connected with his nanny than his biological mother. Fight with all you have to maintain stability in your child’s life. Beg the nanny to stay. You have to let your wife do what she wants with her career, but she should not cause unnecessary irreparable damage to your child. Please keep us posted. This matters a lot. Thank you for caring about your son.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is thinking only of herself and her feelings and not thinking about her child at all! Please put your foot down, OP. Banishing the nanny will damage your son.

We all, as parents, need to respect our kids relationships with others.

This. Absolutely do not allow the nanny to be fired. Your son will never “recover” from that sort of trauma. And trauma it would be. I learned this from a very wise pediatric psychiatrist.

+1. The memory of loss and abandonment will stay with the child long after the actual memory of the nanny fades. It’s a terrible thing to do to a three-year-old.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is jealous of the nanny because your son has spent almost all all his waking hours all his life with someone who loves him. Maybe you and your wife should take a lesson from this.

OP here,

My wife had the opportunity to stay home but she declined the job.
My job did not give opportunity to work from home but if it ever does, I will take it and spend time at home. having a baby was my idea and my wife didn't at the beginning but we agreed to have a full time Nanny. Our son knows he is loved and wanted but he has chosen to love his Nanny more than his mother.

He doesn’t love his nanny more than his mother! A kid could never make that determination and it’s as far from a choice as you can get!

Be a father to your son and do not allow your wife to fire the nanny. Simply refuse to let it happen. Grow balls and be a parent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here,
My wife is definitely upset and I know my son and Nanny closenes are the reason . The Nanny is a formal middle school teacher and experience with early Childhood Education. Reasons why she was hired, plus she speaks fluent French and our son speak fluent with the nanny. I know my wife is feeling left out in some weird way but I will try to help her see the light.

Don’t “try” - do it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is jealous of the nanny because your son has spent almost all all his waking hours all his life with someone who loves him. Maybe you and your wife should take a lesson from this.

OP here,

My wife had the opportunity to stay home but she declined the job.
My job did not give opportunity to work from home but if it ever does, I will take it and spend time at home. having a baby was my idea and my wife didn't at the beginning but we agreed to have a full time Nanny. Our son knows he is loved and wanted but he has chosen to love his Nanny more than his mother.

He doesn’t love his nanny more than his mother! A kid could never make that determination and it’s as far from a choice as you can get!

Be a father to your son and do not allow your wife to fire the nanny. Simply refuse to let it happen. Grow balls and be a parent.

We have a long term contract with the Nanny. Nanny has advice us maybe it's better if our son starts pre K next year since we are in the Washington area. Nanny salary is the same regardless it's a half a day or a full. By the time he's 5 years old, he will go to full-time kindergarten and we can eliminate the nanny position. As a parents, we are not heartless and keep him away from his nanny permanently.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is jealous of the nanny because your son has spent almost all all his waking hours all his life with someone who loves him. Maybe you and your wife should take a lesson from this.

OP here,

My wife had the opportunity to stay home but she declined the job.
My job did not give opportunity to work from home but if it ever does, I will take it and spend time at home. having a baby was my idea and my wife didn't at the beginning but we agreed to have a full time Nanny. Our son knows he is loved and wanted but he has chosen to love his Nanny more than his mother.

He doesn’t love his nanny more than his mother! A kid could never make that determination and it’s as far from a choice as you can get!

Be a father to your son and do not allow your wife to fire the nanny. Simply refuse to let it happen. Grow balls and be a parent.

We have a long term contract with the Nanny. Nanny has advice us maybe it's better if our son starts pre K next year since we are in the Washington area. Nanny salary is the same regardless it's a half a day or a full. By the time he's 5 years old, he will go to full-time kindergarten and we can eliminate the nanny position. As a parents, we are not heartless and keep him away from his nanny permanently.

Are you the OP? I’m confused.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
My wife is unhappy how attached our son to his nanny. Our son is 3 years old and he's starring preschool soon. Our nanny has been with us since he was three months old. Nanny is very smart, happy, trustworthy, and she has a special way of handling our son. My wife and I work long hours, The Nanny has been with our son from 7:30 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Monday through Friday. We encourage full disclosure our son daily activities, Nanny always ask before new activities introduce. Lately, our son knows that he is going to school Monday and Wednesday from 11:00 to 2:00 p.m., he has been acting up, saying he just wants to stay home with his nanny. When we ask him what he's he's going to miss the most, when he's at school, he told us he does not want his Nanny to be lonely without him. When my wife heard that, she broke down and unhappy ever since. My wife is thinking of putting son in full-time School and letting the nanny go. I don't think it's a good decision and it might harm our son in the long run to separate him from his nanny so soon. The idea was for him to attend preschool two to three days a week and have nanny watch him part-time. I don't know what to do, some obviously jealousy is involved but our son can't help himself but to love is nanny, because he spends so much time with her and she's really really good with him.

“Full time school” at three is called DAYCARE.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is jealous of the nanny because your son has spent almost all all his waking hours all his life with someone who loves him. Maybe you and your wife should take a lesson from this.

OP here,

My wife had the opportunity to stay home but she declined the job.
My job did not give opportunity to work from home but if it ever does, I will take it and spend time at home. having a baby was my idea and my wife didn't at the beginning but we agreed to have a full time Nanny. Our son knows he is loved and wanted but he has chosen to love his Nanny more than his mother.

He doesn’t love his nanny more than his mother! A kid could never make that determination and it’s as far from a choice as you can get!

Be a father to your son and do not allow your wife to fire the nanny. Simply refuse to let it happen. Grow balls and be a parent.

We have a long term contract with the Nanny. Nanny has advice us maybe it's better if our son starts pre K next year since we are in the Washington area. Nanny salary is the same regardless it's a half a day or a full. By the time he's 5 years old, he will go to full-time kindergarten and we can eliminate the nanny position. As a parents, we are not heartless and keep him away from his nanny permanently.

Are you the OP? I’m confused.

OP here,
Sorry!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
My wife is unhappy how attached our son to his nanny. Our son is 3 years old and he's starring preschool soon. Our nanny has been with us since he was three months old. Nanny is very smart, happy, trustworthy, and she has a special way of handling our son. My wife and I work long hours, The Nanny has been with our son from 7:30 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Monday through Friday. We encourage full disclosure our son daily activities, Nanny always ask before new activities introduce. Lately, our son knows that he is going to school Monday and Wednesday from 11:00 to 2:00 p.m., he has been acting up, saying he just wants to stay home with his nanny. When we ask him what he's he's going to miss the most, when he's at school, he told us he does not want his Nanny to be lonely without him. When my wife heard that, she broke down and unhappy ever since. My wife is thinking of putting son in full-time School and letting the nanny go. I don't think it's a good decision and it might harm our son in the long run to separate him from his nanny so soon. The idea was for him to attend preschool two to three days a week and have nanny watch him part-time. I don't know what to do, some obviously jealousy is involved but our son can't help himself but to love is nanny, because he spends so much time with her and she's really really good with him.

“Full time school” at three is called DAYCARE.

OP here,

Daycare will not be a good fit for our son. He likes being home school at home by his Nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is jealous of the nanny because your son has spent almost all all his waking hours all his life with someone who loves him. Maybe you and your wife should take a lesson from this.

OP here,

My wife had the opportunity to stay home but she declined the job.
My job did not give opportunity to work from home but if it ever does, I will take it and spend time at home. having a baby was my idea and my wife didn't at the beginning but we agreed to have a full time Nanny. Our son knows he is loved and wanted but he has chosen to love his Nanny more than his mother.

He doesn’t love his nanny more than his mother! A kid could never make that determination and it’s as far from a choice as you can get!

Be a father to your son and do not allow your wife to fire the nanny. Simply refuse to let it happen. Grow balls and be a parent.

We have a long term contract with the Nanny. Nanny has advice us maybe it's better if our son starts pre K next year since we are in the Washington area. Nanny salary is the same regardless it's a half a day or a full. By the time he's 5 years old, he will go to full-time kindergarten and we can eliminate the nanny position. As a parents, we are not heartless and keep him away from his nanny permanently.

Are you the OP? I’m confused.

OP here,
Sorry!

You said your son was three and starting preschool? Now he’s four and starting free DC prek?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is jealous of the nanny because your son has spent almost all all his waking hours all his life with someone who loves him. Maybe you and your wife should take a lesson from this.

OP here,

My wife had the opportunity to stay home but she declined the job.
My job did not give opportunity to work from home but if it ever does, I will take it and spend time at home. having a baby was my idea and my wife didn't at the beginning but we agreed to have a full time Nanny. Our son knows he is loved and wanted but he has chosen to love his Nanny more than his mother.

He doesn’t love his nanny more than his mother! A kid could never make that determination and it’s as far from a choice as you can get!

Be a father to your son and do not allow your wife to fire the nanny. Simply refuse to let it happen. Grow balls and be a parent.

We have a long term contract with the Nanny. Nanny has advice us maybe it's better if our son starts pre K next year since we are in the Washington area. Nanny salary is the same regardless it's a half a day or a full. By the time he's 5 years old, he will go to full-time kindergarten and we can eliminate the nanny position. As a parents, we are not heartless and keep him away from his nanny permanently.

Are you the OP? I’m confused.

OP here,
Sorry!

You said your son was three and starting preschool? Now he’s four and starting free DC prek?!

+1. You also said your wife wants to fire the nanny.

What’s up, dude? Are you trolling? You aren’t keeping your stories straight.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is jealous of the nanny because your son has spent almost all all his waking hours all his life with someone who loves him. Maybe you and your wife should take a lesson from this.

OP here,

My wife had the opportunity to stay home but she declined the job.
My job did not give opportunity to work from home but if it ever does, I will take it and spend time at home. having a baby was my idea and my wife didn't at the beginning but we agreed to have a full time Nanny. Our son knows he is loved and wanted but he has chosen to love his Nanny more than his mother.

He doesn’t love his nanny more than his mother! A kid could never make that determination and it’s as far from a choice as you can get!

Be a father to your son and do not allow your wife to fire the nanny. Simply refuse to let it happen. Grow balls and be a parent.

We have a long term contract with the Nanny. Nanny has advice us maybe it's better if our son starts pre K next year since we are in the Washington area. Nanny salary is the same regardless it's a half a day or a full. By the time he's 5 years old, he will go to full-time kindergarten and we can eliminate the nanny position. As a parents, we are not heartless and keep him away from his nanny permanently.

Are you the OP? I’m confused.

OP here,
Sorry!

You said your son was three and starting preschool? Now he’s four and

starting free DC prek?!

OP here,
My son will be four next year in October. Not all pre k is free in the DC area. If we miss our spot than he can go to private.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
My wife is unhappy how attached our son to his nanny. Our son is 3 years old and he's starring preschool soon. Our nanny has been with us since he was three months old. Nanny is very smart, happy, trustworthy, and she has a special way of handling our son. My wife and I work long hours, The Nanny has been with our son from 7:30 a.m. to 4:00 p.m. Monday through Friday. We encourage full disclosure our son daily activities, Nanny always ask before new activities introduce. Lately, our son knows that he is going to school Monday and Wednesday from 11:00 to 2:00 p.m., he has been acting up, saying he just wants to stay home with his nanny. When we ask him what he's he's going to miss the most, when he's at school, he told us he does not want his Nanny to be lonely without him. When my wife heard that, she broke down and unhappy ever since. My wife is thinking of putting son in full-time School and letting the nanny go. I don't think it's a good decision and it might harm our son in the long run to separate him from his nanny so soon. The idea was for him to attend preschool two to three days a week and have nanny watch him part-time. I don't know what to do, some obviously jealousy is involved but our son can't help himself but to love is nanny, because he spends so much time with her and she's really really good with him.

“Full time school” at three is called DAYCARE.

OP here,

Daycare will not be a good fit for our son. He likes being home school at home by his Nanny.

But full time is daycare. You said your wife wants to fire the nanny and send him to school full time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is jealous of the nanny because your son has spent almost all all his waking hours all his life with someone who loves him. Maybe you and your wife should take a lesson from this.

OP here,

My wife had the opportunity to stay home but she declined the job.
My job did not give opportunity to work from home but if it ever does, I will take it and spend time at home. having a baby was my idea and my wife didn't at the beginning but we agreed to have a full time Nanny. Our son knows he is loved and wanted but he has chosen to love his Nanny more than his mother.

He doesn’t love his nanny more than his mother! A kid could never make that determination and it’s as far from a choice as you can get!

Be a father to your son and do not allow your wife to fire the nanny. Simply refuse to let it happen. Grow balls and be a parent.

We have a long term contract with the Nanny. Nanny has advice us maybe it's better if our son starts pre K next year since we are in the Washington area. Nanny salary is the same regardless it's a half a day or a full. By the time he's 5 years old, he will go to full-time kindergarten and we can eliminate the nanny position. As a parents, we are not heartless and keep him away from his nanny permanently.

Are you the OP? I’m confused.

OP here,
Sorry!

You said your son was three and starting preschool? Now he’s four and

starting free DC prek?!

OP here,
My son will be four next year in October. Not all pre k is free in the DC area. If we miss our spot than he can go to private.

Wait! So what is the dilemma?

And most prek cutoffs are September. Your son will likely have to wait a year.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your wife is jealous of the nanny because your son has spent almost all all his waking hours all his life with someone who loves him. Maybe you and your wife should take a lesson from this.

OP here,

My wife had the opportunity to stay home but she declined the job.
My job did not give opportunity to work from home but if it ever does, I will take it and spend time at home. having a baby was my idea and my wife didn't at the beginning but we agreed to have a full time Nanny. Our son knows he is loved and wanted but he has chosen to love his Nanny more than his mother.

He doesn’t love his nanny more than his mother! A kid could never make that determination and it’s as far from a choice as you can get!

Be a father to your son and do not allow your wife to fire the nanny. Simply refuse to let it happen. Grow balls and be a parent.

We have a long term contract with the Nanny. Nanny has advice us maybe it's better if our son starts pre K next year since we are in the Washington area. Nanny salary is the same regardless it's a half a day or a full. By the time he's 5 years old, he will go to full-time kindergarten and we can eliminate the nanny position. As a parents, we are not heartless and keep him away from his nanny permanently.

Are you the OP? I’m confused.

OP here,
Sorry!

You said your son was three and starting preschool? Now he’s four and starting free DC prek?!

+1. You also said your wife wants to fire the nanny.

What’s up, dude? Are you trolling? You aren’t keeping your stories straight.

+2