Nanny of 4 years and car pooling

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So you’re considering firing your housekeeper/nanny of four years because she complains about a new responsibility she never signed on for?

You’re an ugly woman, OP. Try a gratitude list.

Changing responsibilities is part of the job of a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So you’re considering firing your housekeeper/nanny of four years because she complains about a new responsibility she never signed on for?

You’re an ugly woman, OP. Try a gratitude list.

Changing responsibilities is part of the job of a nanny.

Not unless the nanny agrees to it. And in this case it’s the responsibility of driving another child who is not her charge. It’s certainly nothing I would fire our nanny over.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's all about the way it's structured. If she also has more kids and never fewer, then yes, you and/or the other parent need to pay more. If she's seeing the number of kids go down as well as up, it's nbd.

BTW, APs are only allowed to drive their charges, per visa rules.

Pp again. The only time I have agreed to carpooling that wasn’t really carpooling (which implies rotating who is doing it!) was when it caused no extra work for me. The child two houses down attended the same private school and his parents asked if he could ride there and back everyday. I texted them anytime we weren’t coming home, and they had to arrange pick up, sometimes less than an hour before school got out, because one child’s plans fell through and I had to drive to practice instead of doing pick up. And if he wasn’t outside and waiting for us, or knocking on our front door to wait inside, he didn’t get a ride to school.

I was asked when I took the job if I would agree to give him a ride everyday. I was allowed to set the conditions and his parents were grateful enough for the help that they were happy to accede.

Otherwise? I’m happy to pick up 5 different kids everyday on the way to wherever… but each additional parent pays $5 per leg, more if their child misbehaves, and if their child routinely misbehaves, I reserve the right no longer chauffeur them.

Those parents should have paid you something for driving every day. That's not right and taking advantage of you.

[Anonymous]

I would definitely not drive someone else's child while I was working. Not a chance in hell. What if there was an accident- who is covering any injuries on the additional child

[Anonymous]

I don’t like driving other people’s kids either and I’m a parent. I would have asked our nanny if it was okay and definitely compensated her for the additional responsibility and hassle.

[Anonymous]

I HATE carpooling with young kids. The pick up, hook up, drop off is a pain in the butt. Plus the other kid is usually loud. My sympathies for your nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I HATE carpooling with young kids. The pick up, hook up, drop off is a pain in the butt. Plus the other kid is usually loud. My sympathies for your nanny.

+1, I'd rather just drive my kids as it doesn't save me any time when I have to pick up/drop off and then no flexibility.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's all about the way it's structured. If she also has more kids and never fewer, then yes, you and/or the other parent need to pay more. If she's seeing the number of kids go down as well as up, it's nbd.

BTW, APs are only allowed to drive their charges, per visa rules.

Pp again. The only time I have agreed to carpooling that wasn’t really carpooling (which implies rotating who is doing it!) was when it caused no extra work for me. The child two houses down attended the same private school and his parents asked if he could ride there and back everyday. I texted them anytime we weren’t coming home, and they had to arrange pick up, sometimes less than an hour before school got out, because one child’s plans fell through and I had to drive to practice instead of doing pick up. And if he wasn’t outside and waiting for us, or knocking on our front door to wait inside, he didn’t get a ride to school.

I was asked when I took the job if I would agree to give him a ride everyday. I was allowed to set the conditions and his parents were grateful enough for the help that they were happy to accede.

Otherwise? I’m happy to pick up 5 different kids everyday on the way to wherever… but each additional parent pays $5 per leg, more if their child misbehaves, and if their child routinely misbehaves, I reserve the right no longer chauffeur them.

Those parents should have paid you something for driving every day. That's not right and taking advantage of you.

I agreed only because I could set the stipulations I did. However, yes, they have at least given a Christmas and birthday gift card, but they didn’t.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's all about the way it's structured. If she also has more kids and never fewer, then yes, you and/or the other parent need to pay more. If she's seeing the number of kids go down as well as up, it's nbd.

BTW, APs are only allowed to drive their charges, per visa rules.

Pp again. The only time I have agreed to carpooling that wasn’t really carpooling (which implies rotating who is doing it!) was when it caused no extra work for me. The child two houses down attended the same private school and his parents asked if he could ride there and back everyday. I texted them anytime we weren’t coming home, and they had to arrange pick up, sometimes less than an hour before school got out, because one child’s plans fell through and I had to drive to practice instead of doing pick up. And if he wasn’t outside and waiting for us, or knocking on our front door to wait inside, he didn’t get a ride to school.

I was asked when I took the job if I would agree to give him a ride everyday. I was allowed to set the conditions and his parents were grateful enough for the help that they were happy to accede.

Otherwise? I’m happy to pick up 5 different kids everyday on the way to wherever… but each additional parent pays $5 per leg, more if their child misbehaves, and if their child routinely misbehaves, I reserve the right no longer chauffeur them.

Those parents should have paid you something for driving every day. That's not right and taking advantage of you.

I agreed only because I could set the stipulations I did. However, yes, they have at least given a Christmas and birthday gift card, but they didn’t.

Employers don’t give birthday or Christmas cards. They are your employers not friend.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's all about the way it's structured. If she also has more kids and never fewer, then yes, you and/or the other parent need to pay more. If she's seeing the number of kids go down as well as up, it's nbd.

BTW, APs are only allowed to drive their charges, per visa rules.

Pp again. The only time I have agreed to carpooling that wasn’t really carpooling (which implies rotating who is doing it!) was when it caused no extra work for me. The child two houses down attended the same private school and his parents asked if he could ride there and back everyday. I texted them anytime we weren’t coming home, and they had to arrange pick up, sometimes less than an hour before school got out, because one child’s plans fell through and I had to drive to practice instead of doing pick up. And if he wasn’t outside and waiting for us, or knocking on our front door to wait inside, he didn’t get a ride to school.

I was asked when I took the job if I would agree to give him a ride everyday. I was allowed to set the conditions and his parents were grateful enough for the help that they were happy to accede.

Otherwise? I’m happy to pick up 5 different kids everyday on the way to wherever… but each additional parent pays $5 per leg, more if their child misbehaves, and if their child routinely misbehaves, I reserve the right no longer chauffeur them.

Those parents should have paid you something for driving every day. That's not right and taking advantage of you.

I agreed only because I could set the stipulations I did. However, yes, they have at least given a Christmas and birthday gift card, but they didn’t.

Employers don’t give birthday or Christmas cards. They are your employers not friend.

They weren’t her employers. They were the parents of the kid she drove for free everyday.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It's all about the way it's structured. If she also has more kids and never fewer, then yes, you and/or the other parent need to pay more. If she's seeing the number of kids go down as well as up, it's nbd.

BTW, APs are only allowed to drive their charges, per visa rules.

Pp again. The only time I have agreed to carpooling that wasn’t really carpooling (which implies rotating who is doing it!) was when it caused no extra work for me. The child two houses down attended the same private school and his parents asked if he could ride there and back everyday. I texted them anytime we weren’t coming home, and they had to arrange pick up, sometimes less than an hour before school got out, because one child’s plans fell through and I had to drive to practice instead of doing pick up. And if he wasn’t outside and waiting for us, or knocking on our front door to wait inside, he didn’t get a ride to school.

I was asked when I took the job if I would agree to give him a ride everyday. I was allowed to set the conditions and his parents were grateful enough for the help that they were happy to accede.

Otherwise? I’m happy to pick up 5 different kids everyday on the way to wherever… but each additional parent pays $5 per leg, more if their child misbehaves, and if their child routinely misbehaves, I reserve the right no longer chauffeur them.

Those parents should have paid you something for driving every day. That's not right and taking advantage of you.

I agreed only because I could set the stipulations I did. However, yes, they have at least given a Christmas and birthday gift card, but they didn’t.

Employers don’t give birthday or Christmas cards. They are your employers not friend.

They weren’t her employers. They were the parents of the kid she drove for free everyday.

They were technically employers and they should have paid her. Even $50-75 a week. Something.