Would you stick around if you knew you were getting fired?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:better to be fired...if you need to collect unemployment...if you quit, you can't, is my understanding.

But yes, a bit bizarre. Would you have wanted to cook clean and watch kids? As a mom, I look for nanny who can be a second mom, so cooking and cleaning and caring and teaching is part of the scope of the job. We have had two very long term nannies. They seem happy with the gig and do not feel like they are servants. And yes pay is above $25/hr, guaranteed full time hrs with overtime pay. Sometimes odd hours but not because I'm a stripper...doctor actually.

op here. I am also a mom as well. I can't do all of those things well, so no, I wouldn't expect it. IF both kids were napping simultaneously, I could add on 30 minutes of housework—a slow cooker meal, for example, and folding children's laundry. As a mom, I feel like I am forever doing housework, and there's no time to spend playing with them. I have two very wild boys, though. You also guarantee total time DAY TIME hours. That's a big difference from what this woman wants. I was working 9 pm- 3 am. I don't want to work for a stripper. They aren't known to be stable people, and this lady proved that to me. She doesn't vax her child, and she texted me a lot. There was a lot of drama with her. I wouldn't feel right taking money from someone who takes off their clothing for a living. People's girlfriends and wives are at those places, and I have choices. Most families who can afford a nanny have professional jobs. They aren't the time of people who quit their jobs frequently. This lady even admitted to not paying me one day because she didn't make any money that night. I didn't know what she meant until I heard from another person in my building that she was a stripper.

I meant to say she told me she couldn't pay me one day because she didn't have the money. No one wants to hear that!

Then quit. What is the drama?

She did quit, and this is Nanny forum. A place she can share her experience. I find it ironic this "stripper" wanted a "real" nanny, given she doesn't have a "real" job, OP. She probably felt she was paying you to watch TV. I am assuming the child was sleeping since you worked 9 pm-3 am. If the job is so easy, why doesn't the mom do it? Oh, wait, she's paying for your time because she needs to leave the house.

[Anonymous]

Op here. I found a job working at a preschool as a teachers assistant. My child can go with me and there’s no charge for the tuition. It seems like a wonderful school. It’s tricky being a career nanny when you have young children yourself. I will try it again when my kids are older. A school setting gives me a bit more protection from crazy employers. Nannies don’t have HR, unfortunately.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I found a job working at a preschool as a teachers assistant. My child can go with me and there’s no charge for the tuition. It seems like a wonderful school. It’s tricky being a career nanny when you have young children yourself. I will try it again when my kids are older. A school setting gives me a bit more protection from crazy employers. Nannies don’t have HR, unfortunately.

Preschool and daycare never make as much as nannies do, precisely because we deal with our employers 1-1 with no outside recourse.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I found a job working at a preschool as a teachers assistant. My child can go with me and there’s no charge for the tuition. It seems like a wonderful school. It’s tricky being a career nanny when you have young children yourself. I will try it again when my kids are older. A school setting gives me a bit more protection from crazy employers. Nannies don’t have HR, unfortunately.

You sound so fake.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. She also never asked me if I could cook or clean when I interviewed with her or whenever she decided this was what she needed.

You absolutely did the right thing. Glad you stuck up for yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:better to be fired...if you need to collect unemployment...if you quit, you can't, is my understanding.

But yes, a bit bizarre. Would you have wanted to cook clean and watch kids? As a mom, I look for nanny who can be a second mom, so cooking and cleaning and caring and teaching is part of the scope of the job. We have had two very long term nannies. They seem happy with the gig and do not feel like they are servants. And yes pay is above $25/hr, guaranteed full time hrs with overtime pay. Sometimes odd hours but not because I'm a stripper...doctor actually.

op here. I am also a mom as well. I can't do all of those things well, so no, I wouldn't expect it. IF both kids were napping simultaneously, I could add on 30 minutes of housework—a slow cooker meal, for example, and folding children's laundry. As a mom, I feel like I am forever doing housework, and there's no time to spend playing with them. I have two very wild boys, though. You also guarantee total time DAY TIME hours. That's a big difference from what this woman wants. I was working 9 pm- 3 am. I don't want to work for a stripper. They aren't known to be stable people, and this lady proved that to me. She doesn't vax her child, and she texted me a lot. There was a lot of drama with her. I wouldn't feel right taking money from someone who takes off their clothing for a living. People's girlfriends and wives are at those places, and I have choices. Most families who can afford a nanny have professional jobs. They aren't the time of people who quit their jobs frequently. This lady even admitted to not paying me one day because she didn't make any money that night. I didn't know what she meant until I heard from another person in my building that she was a stripper.

I meant to say she told me she couldn't pay me one day because she didn't have the money. No one wants to hear that!

She has $3k for an agency fee bit couldn’t pay you? Glad you got out of there.

[Anonymous]

1. It’s not your business what your employer does for a job or in their personal life. MYOB.
2. If you’re paid daily, you’re a sitter, not a nanny.
3. It sounds like you want to be paid to sleep on her couch, likely because you have a daytime gig. Find a live-in position that is just sleeping in the house overnight, and you’ll have room and board, but likely no pay.
4. If you’re hired as a nanny, be prepared to take care of the children’s laundry, dishes from dinner, possibly making lunches for the next day. Normally, you might need to clean their bedroom, but that’s not likely if they’re asleep. Taking out the diaper pail is normal.
5. If your employer refuses to pay or doesn’t have the funds on time, you have three options: quit on the spot, give them the benefit of the doubt until the next day and hope it won’t happen again, or let them know there’s an extra charge (usually an hour or two of gross pay) per day it’s late. Your choice. My contract has it spelled out as to what happened the first and second times; there is no third time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I found a job working at a preschool as a teachers assistant. My child can go with me and there’s no charge for the tuition. It seems like a wonderful school. It’s tricky being a career nanny when you have young children yourself. I will try it again when my kids are older. A school setting gives me a bit more protection from crazy employers. Nannies don’t have HR, unfortunately.

You sound so fake.

+1

Unfortunately I have to agree with this.
Everything sounds really made-up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:1. It’s not your business what your employer does for a job or in their personal life. MYOB.
2. If you’re paid daily, you’re a sitter, not a nanny.
3. It sounds like you want to be paid to sleep on her couch, likely because you have a daytime gig. Find a live-in position that is just sleeping in the house overnight, and you’ll have room and board, but likely no pay.
4. If you’re hired as a nanny, be prepared to take care of the children’s laundry, dishes from dinner, possibly making lunches for the next day. Normally, you might need to clean their bedroom, but that’s not likely if they’re asleep. Taking out the diaper pail is normal.
5. If your employer refuses to pay or doesn’t have the funds on time, you have three options: quit on the spot, give them the benefit of the doubt until the next day and hope it won’t happen again, or let them know there’s an extra charge (usually an hour or two of gross pay) per day it’s late. Your choice. My contract has it spelled out as to what happened the first and second times; there is no third time.

She said she has 10+ years of experience. But seems like a total troll post. Also, I do care what my employers do for work. Not until he sense that I’m nosy but I want to know they can pay me and are not out there commuting crimes to get their money. Again, the story sounds fake but I could see why mom lied about being a stripper. However, the money is guaranteed every single time so I wouldn’t work for a stripper.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. It’s not your business what your employer does for a job or in their personal life. MYOB.
2. If you’re paid daily, you’re a sitter, not a nanny.
3. It sounds like you want to be paid to sleep on her couch, likely because you have a daytime gig. Find a live-in position that is just sleeping in the house overnight, and you’ll have room and board, but likely no pay.
4. If you’re hired as a nanny, be prepared to take care of the children’s laundry, dishes from dinner, possibly making lunches for the next day. Normally, you might need to clean their bedroom, but that’s not likely if they’re asleep. Taking out the diaper pail is normal.
5. If your employer refuses to pay or doesn’t have the funds on time, you have three options: quit on the spot, give them the benefit of the doubt until the next day and hope it won’t happen again, or let them know there’s an extra charge (usually an hour or two of gross pay) per day it’s late. Your choice. My contract has it spelled out as to what happened the first and second times; there is no third time.

She said she has 10+ years of experience. But seems like a total troll post. Also, I do care what my employers do for work. Not until he sense that I’m nosy but I want to know they can pay me and are not out there commuting crimes to get their money. Again, the story sounds fake but I could see why mom lied about being a stripper. However, the money is guaranteed every single time so I wouldn’t work for a stripper.

She said she has 10+ years of experience. But seems like a total troll post. Also, I do care what my employers do for work. Not in the sense that I’m nosy but I want to know they can pay me and are not out there committing crimes to get their money etc. Again, the story sounds fake but I could see why mom lied about being a stripper. However, the money isn’t guaranteed every single time so I wouldn’t work for a stripper. (Fixed typos )

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:1. It’s not your business what your employer does for a job or in their personal life. MYOB.
2. If you’re paid daily, you’re a sitter, not a nanny.
3. It sounds like you want to be paid to sleep on her couch, likely because you have a daytime gig. Find a live-in position that is just sleeping in the house overnight, and you’ll have room and board, but likely no pay.
4. If you’re hired as a nanny, be prepared to take care of the children’s laundry, dishes from dinner, possibly making lunches for the next day. Normally, you might need to clean their bedroom, but that’s not likely if they’re asleep. Taking out the diaper pail is normal.
5. If your employer refuses to pay or doesn’t have the funds on time, you have three options: quit on the spot, give them the benefit of the doubt until the next day and hope it won’t happen again, or let them know there’s an extra charge (usually an hour or two of gross pay) per day it’s late. Your choice. My contract has it spelled out as to what happened the first and second times; there is no third time.

She said she has 10+ years of experience. But seems like a total troll post. Also, I do care what my employers do for work. Not until he sense that I’m nosy but I want to know they can pay me and are not out there commuting crimes to get their money. Again, the story sounds fake but I could see why mom lied about being a stripper. However, the money is guaranteed every single time so I wouldn’t work for a stripper.

Plenty of parents work as contractors with variable income. It’s not the nanny’s business.