Increasing scrutiny from MB

[Anonymous]

Do you not normally shower daily?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. Maybe you should be a little more specific about your first Post. So you MB tells you like: "ohhh Ana I can see you like really tight clothes" or " Ohhh Ana... I think you are showing to much breast with that blouse" or " I don't think I would be wearing that kind of clothes if I were over my 40s" or " Ohhh Ana.. I guess you must love your outfit bcs I can see you wear it always every day" or " ohhh Ana.. I think something smells bad around here (when she is next to you)" or " Ohhh Ana.. you don't feel cold wearing that short and showing off your legs?" Or " I always make sure to wash my hair when I see my hair gets too greasy bcs I hate it. What about you Ana?". I was just trying to guess a little more in details what kind or comments your MB tells you. That way Moms here and Nannies here can help a little with some advices.

OP here. MB a couple of weeks ago passive aggressively alluded to the fact that I wear some of the same outfits regularly. These are clothes that can withstand playing with children, chauffering them around town, playing outside, walking the equivalent of several miles throughout their house, cooking, etc. when I am working. She did not explicitly SAY IT, it was a convo about something else but she really worked in her thoughts about MY clothes and I know this specifically because it could not have applied to anyone else. I cannot tell why because the details would be obvious to her.

I am just saying the past few months she and some of the kids have been rudely nitpicky with personal critiques. NOTHING has changed about my hygiene. Some days I shower TWICE and engaged her neurosis at the beginning of this pandemic last year when we were all so scared. Nothing has changed about how clean I am, and continue to be. I carry extra sets of clothes with me when I come over, something not a lot of people would put up with. I could certainly have c ommented about some of the rags that the boys wear, but do I? No way!!! First, I have manners and second, that is not my place.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a little confused regarding your post OP.

It was kind of all over the map.

Why on earth would your MomBoss be critiquing your hair, clothing choices or basically your personal hygiene??![/quote]

Because she is a b.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is she saying about your clothes, OP? That they're dirty? Your post is not clear. Our nanny wears jeans and sweatshirts or tshirts.

Yes, implicitly. Not just the clothes, but babysitter also.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Nanny here. Maybe you should be a little more specific about your first Post. So you MB tells you like: "ohhh Ana I can see you like really tight clothes" or " Ohhh Ana... I think you are showing to much breast with that blouse" or " I don't think I would be wearing that kind of clothes if I were over my 40s" or " Ohhh Ana.. I guess you must love your outfit bcs I can see you wear it always every day" or " ohhh Ana.. I think something smells bad around here (when she is next to you)" or " Ohhh Ana.. you don't feel cold wearing that short and showing off your legs?" Or " I always make sure to wash my hair when I see my hair gets too greasy bcs I hate it. What about you Ana?". I was just trying to guess a little more in details what kind or comments your MB tells you. That way Moms here and Nannies here can help a little with some advices.

OP here. MB a couple of weeks ago passive aggressively alluded to the fact that I wear some of the same outfits regularly. These are clothes that can withstand playing with children, chauffering them around town, playing outside, walking the equivalent of several miles throughout their house, cooking, etc. when I am working. She did not explicitly SAY IT, it was a convo about something else but she really worked in her thoughts about MY clothes and I know this specifically because it could not have applied to anyone else. I cannot tell why because the details would be obvious to her.

I am just saying the past few months she and some of the kids have been rudely nitpicky with personal critiques. NOTHING has changed about my hygiene. Some days I shower TWICE and engaged her neurosis at the beginning of this pandemic last year when we were all so scared. Nothing has changed about how clean I am, and continue to be. I carry extra sets of clothes with me when I come over, something not a lot of people would put up with. I could certainly have c ommented about some of the rags that the boys wear, but do I? No way!!! First, I have manners and second, that is not my place.

I think you should start looking for a new job. When you find a fabulous one, give the notice that is required and leave. I don't think she is going to listen and hear you if you do ask her to stop commenting on your clothing.

for now, when she gets home, tell her what she needs to know for the handoff, 2 fun anecdotes, then leave. No need to do a 30 minute passover where she then gets to chat about other things, including your clothing. So - both kids napped, I just took X to the potty, and Y had his last bottle at 5pm. We had so much fun at the park, Y went down the big slide all by himself, and X is really trying to figure out pumping when on the swing. You are running low on milk for lunch tomorrow. Have a great night, see you tomorrow! Put on your coat and leave.

Also, perhaps you want to have a form that you use throughout the day to help with this pass-over -
time of diapers/potty - and what happened, so you and they can keep track of how many BMs a child has, if they are constipated or not, etc
time of nap - start and end
what they had for lunch and snacks - and how much or anything different - totally refused the broccoli so he had asparagus and kind of liked it
and time of medication (if necessary) or anything else

then you just need to give the fun anecdotes and leave.

[Anonymous]

Many parents are worried about covid and ask their nannies to change every time they come from outside. That means, nanny has to change when she goes outside, and then again when comes back. Maybe the OP forgets to do that? I never heard of any MB in this country paying any attention to nanny's clothes. I myself wear sweatpants and a T shirt that make me look totally shapeless, and my shirts always pretty old and often have small holes (babies love those) but I never had any comment from anyone.