Frequent grandparent visits

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you aren't cut out to be a nanny with COIVD. Where do you want them to go?

You’re ridiculous.

1) The grandparents shouldn’t be visiting at all during covid.
2) The parents should adhere to a schedule for interacting with the baby for the baby’s sake.
3). The apartment is too fricking small for four people plus monthly grandparent sleepovers for a week at a time!

Its not small. We have a house that small and have had another 4-6 visit and its not an issue. OP doesn't want parents around. She needs a new job.

Yes, OP needs a new job. But absolutely that apartment is too small for three adults working from home plus weeklong monthly sleepovers adding to more adults and baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like you aren't cut out to be a nanny with COIVD. Where do you want them to go?

You’re ridiculous.

1) The grandparents shouldn’t be visiting at all during covid.
2) The parents should adhere to a schedule for interacting with the baby for the baby’s sake.
3). The apartment is too fricking small for four people plus monthly grandparent sleepovers for a week at a time!

Its not small. We have a house that small and have had another 4-6 visit and its not an issue. OP doesn't want parents around. She needs a new job.

Yes, OP needs a new job. But absolutely that apartment is too small for three adults working from home plus weeklong monthly sleepovers adding to more adults and baby.

Especially when they aren’t using the space effectively AND are blocking her use of the two larger rooms!

[Anonymous]

Spend more time in baby's room. I know it will be tight, but that works to your advantage. No way for mom to squeeze in. Grandparents can't zoom in there. You make this your special space. Baby is not walking yet so there should be enough room to crawl and pull and play without there being any extra space. But no reason to make a special trip into that space.

Take your walk at typical lunch time to eliminate contact with parents. Maybe let parents know a schedule - we will walk around the block and then look for seven dogs.. todays focus is on colors so we are going to look for red and green things. It will seem more "educational" and less like just trying to be out of the house if you can "explain" why you are out (not justifying that you should need to do that but in terms of how to manage these parents).

Buy a bottle warmer..keep it in baby's room or take it home every day. But eliminate the need to go into the kitchen for a long period of time.

I would schedule a meeting with the parents to discuss your concerns about the number of disruptions and the impact it is having on the baby - he is becoming more aware of people coming and going, so this is becoming a challenge for him. See if they are interested in changing. If not, find a new job

[Anonymous]

Mom here. You should quit and find a new job. This sounds really bad.

[Anonymous]

Another MB, and I agree with the 11:22 PP. I would be thrilled if you took the baby out for long walks and the park--perhaps not the play structures but certainly out and about and onto a blanket to roll around on the ground, yes, even in this weather!

We also work from home in a slightly larger apartment (1100sq ft). Our kids' former nanny used to take the kids out twice a day for 1-2 hours at a time and that was definitely *everyone's* favorite part of the day. Especially with COVID, it's so important to get fresh air and keep everyone's spirits up, and there's no better way to do it than to be outdoors.

[Anonymous]

There is not solution in your case. Lot of people and tiny tiny house like a shoe box. Remember it's COVID. Really bad and very uncomfortable situacion for a nanny. If I was you; I would be looking for a new Job now. Quit.

[Anonymous]

Leave!! Sounds like my worst nightmare (10+ yrs nanny here).

[Anonymous]

Also, not sure if its already been mentioned but PLEASE for the love of God, remember that we are in the middle of a dangerous pandemic. Frequent grandparent visits while nanny is around is not only dangerous but so disrespectful and inconsiderate of the nanny who likely agreed to MUTUALLY adhere to strict COVID19 preventative measures including social distancing, limited household mixing, mask wearing etc in order to keep her nanny family safe and herself safe.


Grandparents visiting for long periods of time likely equals no masks or social distancing when the nanny is around. In addition there is zero quarantining taking place when they visit as the nanny is still working. Zero mention from the parents about how nanny's safety can be observed in light of grandparents visits is a clear indication of the level of respect they have for you and your health/well being.


Please, parents: remember that your nanny also has a family she goes home to. It is inconsiderate to require your nanny to be careful and limit her outings with the baby yet you are doing the complete opposite if not worse when it comes to protecting her. Nanny walking with baby in a stroller socially distanced from everyone else and wearing a mask is less riskier than nanny in the same room with parents who have traveled from a location 7hours away withe ZERO quarantine.

OP, for the simple fact that this situation does not serve your best interests as far as your health, I would personally start looking for another job and use this experience as a learning opportunity: ask about these things during the interview in your next post and make sure they are in the contract which you should not feel afraid to bring up if breeched. All the best!

[Anonymous]

Another MB here (also working from home). This sounds too tough for the nanny. The parents should be working from the smallest room in the apartment, should try to pack a lunch so they can disappear as much as possible, and shouldn’t be having guests stay during your work hours. But they should be realizing these things on their own. You can try to talk with them, but if you want to leave and find a better position, the market for new nanny jobs is really strong right now. It is very hard to find a good nanny at the moment! Good luck!