Au Pair Wants to Fly Internationally and return to our family
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Anonymous
| Will you quarantine for 14 days upon return? |
Anonymous
Level of science expertise = Zero |
Anonymous
This. Happened to us. |
Anonymous
I don't actually think that's legal. |
Anonymous
Well, our safety comes first and we are also trying to help her have a vacation. We are in a pandemic. This is how we are able to support her and ensure safety for everyone. |
Anonymous
You have to pay her stipend every week, no exceptions. It’s illegal not to pay the stipend. |
Anonymous
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Has your AP been working with your family through the pandemic, away from family through this shitshow? Taking care of your kids and enabling you to work while must people had their caregivers stay away when risk was so high in March and April?
Really, I would support an AP in any way you can given how fortunate you are to have a caregiver in your home, and how unfortunate she has been to be living in her employer’s home through all of this. |
Anonymous
I mean, you could pay her... like you’re legally obliged to. Just one option. |
Anonymous
We have given her a lot of weeks off throughout the pandemic (paid). we are paying the full costs of her education. We asked her to take her vacation at the end of her year and she insisted that it has to be now. |
Anonymous
Where are you getting this information that MOST people did this? |
Anonymous
I would argue that less than half of people with APs, nannies or single-family sitters did without care. Some did sure, but not 50%; many of us saw hours change, most decreasing while some increased. I’ve heard of more families who decided to end AP care and switch to an alternative or rematches with an AP with more compatible views surrounding covid than families who just sent the AP to rematch or home and are taking a break. Most daycare families kept sending their kids, as long as their center was open. Not that it’s relevant since PP phrased it as caregivers staying away, implying that they were in-home caregivers. Most preschools have been dl or closed. Again, not relevant, because caregivers weren’t staying away from the home. The only in-home caregivers that stayed away for months (and then returned) had one or more of the following reasons: 1. Mismatch with family regarding exposure 2. High risk, family or nanny 3. Caregiver used public transit and couldn’t afford private; family couldn’t or wouldn’t subsidize or do pick up/drop off Finally, risk was actually lower in March and April. However, the pandemic was newer, so fear was higher, and we knew less about the virus, which also drove fear higher. If you look at current numbers and the spread across the country, it was a lot safer in March and April, as long as you weren’t in one of tge big hotspots. |
Anonymous
I mean, it's nice you gave her weeks off and it's nice that you accommodated her vacation. It is *still* illegal not to pay her. It frankly sounds like you didn't need as much childcare during the pandemic and so gave her the time off; again, nice, but insufficient to justify not paying her. |
Anonymous
Thank you, I reconsidred and will pay her. I did need the childcare, we just made it work because it was stressful for all of us (signed, a frontline family) |
Anonymous
Ok, well I did, as did all of my close friends and colleagues with in-home childcare. But you are right, who knows what others did? And kiddos to the op for, well, following her legal obligations I guess. |