WWYD (COVID communication failure)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I currently lie to my employers because they are extreme. I’ve been with them for 7 years. While THEY do socially distanced play dates and go for hikes and go shopping, they expect ME to stay home completely. As in, they want me to get my groceries delivered like they do. The only reason why the groceries are delivered now, is because I refused to continue going to the store for them. So, I am careful and don’t see friends but I am not paying for delivery and tip and overpriced Groceries when I can safely go to the store and shop for myself- one person. If my bosses want to give me a raise to have groceries delivered I’m happy to stay home. But since they sent offering nay extra compensation, I’m going to continue to lie to them. I have also gone shopping to a couple store, because my boss thinks it’s okay for her to go out but not me? I don’t play that game and it’s easier for me to lie and just let them think they control me. When they were staying home completely, I did too. But now that they’re out and about? So am I.

I think you should ask them to pay you extra to get your groceries delivered. They may because of us and not thinking about the fact that it is more expensive. I don’t think you should lie to your employers. Your behavior could literally kill them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I currently lie to my employers because they are extreme. I’ve been with them for 7 years. While THEY do socially distanced play dates and go for hikes and go shopping, they expect ME to stay home completely. As in, they want me to get my groceries delivered like they do. The only reason why the groceries are delivered now, is because I refused to continue going to the store for them. So, I am careful and don’t see friends but I am not paying for delivery and tip and overpriced Groceries when I can safely go to the store and shop for myself- one person. If my bosses want to give me a raise to have groceries delivered I’m happy to stay home. But since they sent offering nay extra compensation, I’m going to continue to lie to them. I have also gone shopping to a couple store, because my boss thinks it’s okay for her to go out but not me? I don’t play that game and it’s easier for me to lie and just let them think they control me. When they were staying home completely, I did too. But now that they’re out and about? So am I.

I think you should ask them to pay you extra to get your groceries delivered. They may because of us and not thinking about the fact that it is more expensive. I don’t think you should lie to your employers. Your behavior could literally kill them.

Autocorrect

I wrote

They may be clueless

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I currently lie to my employers because they are extreme. I’ve been with them for 7 years. While THEY do socially distanced play dates and go for hikes and go shopping, they expect ME to stay home completely. As in, they want me to get my groceries delivered like they do. The only reason why the groceries are delivered now, is because I refused to continue going to the store for them. So, I am careful and don’t see friends but I am not paying for delivery and tip and overpriced Groceries when I can safely go to the store and shop for myself- one person. If my bosses want to give me a raise to have groceries delivered I’m happy to stay home. But since they sent offering nay extra compensation, I’m going to continue to lie to them. I have also gone shopping to a couple store, because my boss thinks it’s okay for her to go out but not me? I don’t play that game and it’s easier for me to lie and just let them think they control me. When they were staying home completely, I did too. But now that they’re out and about? So am I.

I think you should ask them to pay you extra to get your groceries delivered. They may because of us and not thinking about the fact that it is more expensive. I don’t think you should lie to your employers. Your behavior could literally kill them.

Autocorrect

I wrote

They may be clueless

But it’s a two way street. If this nanny’s employers aren’t adhering to the parameters they set for their nanny, then why should the nanny? The nanny’s employers actions could kill someone too.

[Anonymous]

op I mean this nicely but who else are you going to find? Who can live alone in DC on a nanny's salary? Nannies in their 20s have friends and relationships, 30s and 40s probably have working spouses and maybe kids of their own, 50s and 60s have grandkids they want to see just like your parents. Truly think about letting a solid nanny go to find a needle in a haystack.

[Anonymous]

To the nanny who said she lies to her employer - not cool to lie. I am sure they would not trust you with their children should they find out you lie.

To the OP - let the nanny go. You either get the whole covid pandemic thing or you don’t. Dont waste time trying to convince those who are not on your wavelength.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:At this point you don’t know who’s being safe unless they live with you. It’s pretty easy to lie about your whereabouts. I don’t think her going out is a problem, as long as she’s wearing a mask and is avoiding large indoor gatherings. In your post you seem even bothered by her doing essential things like grabbing her mail and grocery store runs. You sound a little paranoid and maybe it’s best you either take care of your children yourself or find someone that will live in and abide by your strict rules concerning their personal life

You did not read what I said. We are fine with her going out. But she wants to move out of our house to a new house with housemates. And she has been visiting them ahead of the move and spending time indoors with them, eating and other things. She said she was just moving there to have her own space (will have separate kitchenette) and not to socialize, but it has obviously been more than that. I have asked her about it, and she thinks she is being safe since they “sit far apart” and “don’t serve each other food,” but they are still indoors in the same room for extended periods of time

Regarding seeing grandparents and hypocrisy, they literally see no one else. And we see no one but them. It is as if they lived with us.

Let the grandparents live with you and solve your problem.