Our nanny found out she has cancer
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Anonymous
| OP here. Thank you PP. We love her and I’m willing to sacrifice not paying our debt (we don’t make DCUM salaries) to make she is taken care of. I was just saying now that we are all home and will be for the foreseeable future, I did feel torn. I don’t want her to have to come and not feel fulfilled either. I guess the bottom line is, I should be talking to her about it. So find another poster for those attacks. |
Anonymous
Your post is ridiculously worded and you’ll continue to get rightfully attacked. No one has a clue what you’re asking or why you’re torn. Just ask to have the whole thing taken down. |
Anonymous
| Do you know if your nanny has health insurance? |
Anonymous
| OP clearly can't afford your nanny now. Only you can decide how much further you want to go into debt to keep paying nanny to stay home. What next you will skip mortgage and become homeless?Gve her a generous severance and connect her with social services or other public resources and to help pay for her treatment. Maybe start a gofundme or something for your nanny she needs help and you can in other ways. |
Anonymous
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Talk to her OP.
So many variables here - especially the type of cancer she has. Maybe you keeping her employed in some capacity for a couple of months while she needs flexibility for treatments is wonderful. Maybe you letting her go now means she can collect maximum unemployment while getting care. Maybe some generous under the table severance, combined w/ unemployment would actually be the best solution. Maybe unemployment w/ some occasional under the table work for you when/if you all would want that makes the most sense. Maybe a summer off (with whatever combo of above makes sense) combined w/ a stellar reference from you means she can self quarantine and then start a new job w/ a newborn in a couple of months. There are ways for all of you to acknowledge that the time has come for you all to stop having a nanny, and to take care of her, without martyring anyone. |
Anonymous
| Since your husband is off the summer due to his job, and not due to being fired, why can't you continue to pay her but not have her work? That's what we've been doing with our nanny since the middle of March. And I took a pay cut due to COVID and my husband's company is rocky so it's not like we don't miss the money. |
Anonymous
| Ok, she may be too sick to work. |
Anonymous
| There are so many appointments she will have to go to. Unemployment plus supplement from you may work better for her than having to show up for work. I hope she has health insurance and if not she can get Obamacare through special enrollment that i believe they have on now due to Covid. |
Anonymous
| Different situation, but since the pandemic started, we have been paying our nanny to not come to work. I was originally scheduled to have a lot of overseas work trips this summer and now that's all been cancelled. I have a lot of time on my hands. We don't need our nanny for now, and she has health conditions that put her in a high-risk group. We do hope to have her back in our home in the fall when my work will pick up again, assuming it is safe to do so. In the meantime, we are still paying her. |
Anonymous
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This is tricky legally, especially if you live in DC . Talk to a lawyer to get sound advice to protect your family from being sued.
Also, her frequent trips to hospitals for treatment and evaluations could very well put your family at risk for Covid-19. |
Anonymous
| PP, why do you keep paying your nanny, that's just silly because most nannies make more now on unemployment. |