power outage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait but what did you offer at the relative’s house specifically? You took the guest room and offered her the couch or something more reasonable?

Op here. I absolutely offered her the couch or the futon in my nephews toy room. I am unapologetic about that. Flame away

Couch in the living room is unacceptable. As long as the toy room has a door that closes, the futon can be made up like a real bed and nephew would have to stay out of the playroom except during AP’s work hours, that’s reasonable.

[Anonymous]

AP are ALWAYS supposed to be offered a private room. Your kids go on the couch, you can go on the couch, but you abide by the rules.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:AP are ALWAYS supposed to be offered a private room. Your kids go on the couch, you can go on the couch, but you abide by the rules.

Except when they decide to stay with a friend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You realize that she should have been offered a bedroom, right? Even a bedroom at the cheapest motel you could find would be better than a random couch.

My guess is this is from the not host mom/not AP for whom nothing is good enough.

Haha, I guessed the same thing. I think we should give her a name

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait but what did you offer at the relative’s house specifically? You took the guest room and offered her the couch or something more reasonable?

Op here. I absolutely offered her the couch or the futon in my nephews toy room. I am unapologetic about that. Flame away

Couch in the living room is unacceptable. As long as the toy room has a door that closes, the futon can be made up like a real bed and nephew would have to stay out of the playroom except during AP’s work hours, that’s reasonable.

Do you guys realize this is an emergency situation?? What if it was on a weekend and AP wasn't working? I guess the nephew could wake up AP out of the room at 6 am to start playing? My point is: in case of emergency situation everyone has to have REASONABLE Expectation. It is not like the family is on a vacation or something, they are also figuring it out. I would totally rematch with an au pair who shows me their princess side in the type of circumstances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait but what did you offer at the relative’s house specifically? You took the guest room and offered her the couch or something more reasonable?

Op here. I absolutely offered her the couch or the futon in my nephews toy room. I am unapologetic about that. Flame away

Couch in the living room is unacceptable. As long as the toy room has a door that closes, the futon can be made up like a real bed and nephew would have to stay out of the playroom except during AP’s work hours, that’s reasonable.

Do you guys realize this is an emergency situation?? What if it was on a weekend and AP wasn't working? I guess the nephew could wake up AP out of the room at 6 am to start playing? My point is: in case of emergency situation everyone has to have REASONABLE Expectation. It is not like the family is on a vacation or something, they are also figuring it out. I would totally rematch with an au pair who shows me their princess side in the type of circumstances.

Right, and I love how everyone assumes that the relative has tons of space to accommodate all kinds of people. My sister lives in a 2 bedroom condo.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait but what did you offer at the relative’s house specifically? You took the guest room and offered her the couch or something more reasonable?

Op here. I absolutely offered her the couch or the futon in my nephews toy room. I am unapologetic about that. Flame away

Couch in the living room is unacceptable. As long as the toy room has a door that closes, the futon can be made up like a real bed and nephew would have to stay out of the playroom except during AP’s work hours, that’s reasonable.

Do you guys realize this is an emergency situation?? What if it was on a weekend and AP wasn't working? I guess the nephew could wake up AP out of the room at 6 am to start playing? My point is: in case of emergency situation everyone has to have REASONABLE Expectation. It is not like the family is on a vacation or something, they are also figuring it out. I would totally rematch with an au pair who shows me their princess side in the type of circumstances.

I guess I just view following the rules differently than you do. AP is to ALWAYS have their own room. There’s no loophole for emergency situations, power outages, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait but what did you offer at the relative’s house specifically? You took the guest room and offered her the couch or something more reasonable?

Op here. I absolutely offered her the couch or the futon in my nephews toy room. I am unapologetic about that. Flame away

Couch in the living room is unacceptable. As long as the toy room has a door that closes, the futon can be made up like a real bed and nephew would have to stay out of the playroom except during AP’s work hours, that’s reasonable.

Do you guys realize this is an emergency situation?? What if it was on a weekend and AP wasn't working? I guess the nephew could wake up AP out of the room at 6 am to start playing? My point is: in case of emergency situation everyone has to have REASONABLE Expectation. It is not like the family is on a vacation or something, they are also figuring it out. I would totally rematch with an au pair who shows me their princess side in the type of circumstances.

Right, and I love how everyone assumes that the relative has tons of space to accommodate all kinds of people. My sister lives in a 2 bedroom condo.

And it sounds like you got the kid’s bedroom. Nope, if that was the plan, it should have been AP, with you and your kids in the playroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait but what did you offer at the relative’s house specifically? You took the guest room and offered her the couch or something more reasonable?

Op here. I absolutely offered her the couch or the futon in my nephews toy room. I am unapologetic about that. Flame away

Couch in the living room is unacceptable. As long as the toy room has a door that closes, the futon can be made up like a real bed and nephew would have to stay out of the playroom except during AP’s work hours, that’s reasonable.

Do you guys realize this is an emergency situation?? What if it was on a weekend and AP wasn't working? I guess the nephew could wake up AP out of the room at 6 am to start playing? My point is: in case of emergency situation everyone has to have REASONABLE Expectation. It is not like the family is on a vacation or something, they are also figuring it out. I would totally rematch with an au pair who shows me their princess side in the type of circumstances.

Right, and I love how everyone assumes that the relative has tons of space to accommodate all kinds of people. My sister lives in a 2 bedroom condo.

And it sounds like you got the kid’s bedroom. Nope, if that was the plan, it should have been AP, with you and your kids in the playroom.

Wtf are you talking about?? I’m not even the Op. Get a life

[Anonymous]

Ah okay then yes she was right to be mad. You didn’t follow the rules.

Imagine if your employer violated an employment law and said “but it was an emergency...”

-HM who would have offered to take the futon and put the kids on the couch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ah okay then yes she was right to be mad. You didn’t follow the rules.

Imagine if your employer violated an employment law and said “but it was an emergency...”

-HM who would have offered to take the futon and put the kids on the couch

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ah okay then yes she was right to be mad. You didn’t follow the rules.

Imagine if your employer violated an employment law and said “but it was an emergency...”

-HM who would have offered to take the futon and put the kids on the couch

Yeah right

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Ah okay then yes she was right to be mad. You didn’t follow the rules.

Imagine if your employer violated an employment law and said “but it was an emergency...”

-HM who would have offered to take the futon and put the kids on the couch

Yeah right

Not sure why. We have actually had situations like this over our several years of au pairing and following the rules to the letter is always #1.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ah okay then yes she was right to be mad. You didn’t follow the rules.

Imagine if your employer violated an employment law and said “but it was an emergency...”

-HM who would have offered to take the futon and put the kids on the couch

MHM (martyr host mom)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wait but what did you offer at the relative’s house specifically? You took the guest room and offered her the couch or something more reasonable?

Op here. I absolutely offered her the couch or the futon in my nephews toy room. I am unapologetic about that. Flame away

Couch in the living room is unacceptable. As long as the toy room has a door that closes, the futon can be made up like a real bed and nephew would have to stay out of the playroom except during AP’s work hours, that’s reasonable.

Do you guys realize this is an emergency situation?? What if it was on a weekend and AP wasn't working? I guess the nephew could wake up AP out of the room at 6 am to start playing? My point is: in case of emergency situation everyone has to have REASONABLE Expectation. It is not like the family is on a vacation or something, they are also figuring it out. I would totally rematch with an au pair who shows me their princess side in the type of circumstances.

No. If it’s considered a bedroom for the duration, and AP doesn’t work weekends, then playroom wouldn’t be available over the weekend.