Cultural differences and uncomfortability - Help

[Anonymous]

You need a nanny who specializes in special needs. And absolutely do not bring her children into the mix! Yes, the nanny will be much more expensive but will know how to handle older diaper-dependent children and follow instructions (at the very least).

[Anonymous]

That is a terrible schedule, OP.

[Anonymous]

OP, are you paying during school hours? If she is being paid from 7am-4:30pm but only required to actually work for some of those hours then $20 is actually a great rate. If you are only offering 6 hours a day split into two chunks then $20 is a pittance and honestly you should be close to $30-$35 range. For comparison, I make $22 working full time on a normal schedule with NT twin preschoolers.

[Anonymous]

There isn't a lot she can do between 9 and 12:30. She would spend most of it commuting to and from wherever she wanted to go. And those are unpaid hours.

Three kids under 4 with 2 with SN is a lot. I would expect her to bring all 3 kids into the bathroom. As long as the other two are in a safe, secure space, then that is fine. I also am not concerned about rinsing vs wipes. Much of the world rinses and it works just fine.

She isn't great but honestly for what you need and are paying, letting her go is only going to get you someone else of similar quality. She is cheaper because she can bring her own child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That is a terrible schedule, OP.

In your opinion. To others it would be a great schedule! There are essentially 3 hours during the day to accomplish personal tasks (during the week, rare for many!), and your day still ends before 5. Regardless, it's the schedule the nanny agreed to and should have no bearing on how well she does her job.

Your comment is terrible. And pointless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are raising your grandchildren? Or are you pretending this is your issue but it's really your adult child's?

There's no need to be nasty. It sounds like OP's daughter is a single mom with two special needs kids so she (grandma) helps as much as possible.

Grandma had her AUNT take care of two SN kids for four weeks? Yeah, I’m calling troll too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You are raising your grandchildren? Or are you pretending this is your issue but it's really your adult child's?

There's no need to be nasty. It sounds like OP's daughter is a single mom with two special needs kids so she (grandma) helps as much as possible.

Grandma had her AUNT take care of two SN kids for four weeks? Yeah, I’m calling troll too.

Some aunts are still young.
My mom was 17 when her youngest sister was born. My mom was 26 when she had me, so my aunt is only 9 years old than me (I'm 44, she is 53.)

My oldest child is 20, theoretically i could be a grandma in the next few years. My aunt would be in her mid 50s and perfectly capable of caring for a child for a couple weeks. And yes, even with SN. In fact her job is related to special needs kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is a terrible schedule, OP.

In your opinion. To others it would be a great schedule! There are essentially 3 hours during the day to accomplish personal tasks (during the week, rare for many!), and your day still ends before 5. Regardless, it's the schedule the nanny agreed to and should have no bearing on how well she does her job.

Your comment is terrible. And pointless.

You’re missing the big picture, OP. The dreadful schedule is getting you less quality applicants.

NO here and you shouldn’t dismiss posts so glibly. Everyone is trying to help you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is a terrible schedule, OP.

In your opinion. To others it would be a great schedule! There are essentially 3 hours during the day to accomplish personal tasks (during the week, rare for many!), and your day still ends before 5. Regardless, it's the schedule the nanny agreed to and should have no bearing on how well she does her job.

Your comment is terrible. And pointless.

You’re missing the big picture, OP. The dreadful schedule is getting you less quality applicants.

NO here and you shouldn’t dismiss posts so glibly. Everyone is trying to help you.

Not OP. Not at all. Again, what a pointless response. And again, the schedule would be fine for many. Just not the spoiled (or fake?) DCUM nannies who think they should work from 8-4 and be paid $40/hr.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is a terrible schedule, OP.

In your opinion. To others it would be a great schedule! There are essentially 3 hours during the day to accomplish personal tasks (during the week, rare for many!), and your day still ends before 5. Regardless, it's the schedule the nanny agreed to and should have no bearing on how well she does her job.

Your comment is terrible. And pointless.

You’re missing the big picture, OP. The dreadful schedule is getting you less quality applicants.

NO here and you shouldn’t dismiss posts so glibly. Everyone is trying to help you.

Not OP. Not at all. Again, what a pointless response. And again, the schedule would be fine for many. Just not the spoiled (or fake?) DCUM nannies who think they should work from 8-4 and be paid $40/hr.

Dp. Well if the schedule was fine for many and the pay was good, OP wouldn’t be on here posting. Since you aren’t spoiled and think the schedule is fine, contact OP for a job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is a terrible schedule, OP.

In your opinion. To others it would be a great schedule! There are essentially 3 hours during the day to accomplish personal tasks (during the week, rare for many!), and your day still ends before 5. Regardless, it's the schedule the nanny agreed to and should have no bearing on how well she does her job.

Your comment is terrible. And pointless.

You’re missing the big picture, OP. The dreadful schedule is getting you less quality applicants.

NO here and you shouldn’t dismiss posts so glibly. Everyone is trying to help you.

Not OP. Not at all. Again, what a pointless response. And again, the schedule would be fine for many. Just not the spoiled (or fake?) DCUM nannies who think they should work from 8-4 and be paid $40/hr.

What a pointless response in calling another’s a pointless response.

Split shifts are globally unpopular and rarely done in any job, any profession.

Why are you taking it so personally? You’re not a nanny or an employer of a nanny.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:That is a terrible schedule, OP.

In your opinion. To others it would be a great schedule! There are essentially 3 hours during the day to accomplish personal tasks (during the week, rare for many!), and your day still ends before 5. Regardless, it's the schedule the nanny agreed to and should have no bearing on how well she does her job.

Your comment is terrible. And pointless.

You are clearly not a nanny. I have a few hours of unpaid “free time” during the day? Can I have a glass of wine with lunch? Commit to another family during that time? What about summers and holidays? Additionally, I use my sick/personal time for appointments and can make a quick drop off if needed during my shift. I’m absolutely not going to have a large portion of my day go unpaid.