Walking on egg shells around AP

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have never spoken English with an au pair so it’s not something I care about at all, but what if you told her you would put a plate to the side and encourage her to go the gym or take a walk so she could have dinner in a quieter environment and then have a cup of coffee or tea and dessert with her while she eats dinner so she’s not eating alone.

Are you insane???

Who da fuk has time to sit down and baby this girls fragile state of mind each night with tea and dessert? You're nuts. I get home at 530, scramble to make dinner, nag everyone to help me clean up, go over the kids homework with them, see what they are struggling with, try to bond with my 13yr old, corral everyone to brush their teeth, both boys still love me to lay in bed and talk to them and then flop into bed. Nowhere in there is time for my husband let alone some freaking tea and crumpets with Miss Cranky pants.

+100 Must be the same people who take their au pair everywhere with them for the first 6 weeks.

I’m a widow with a toddler who goes to bed early, so it’s not a big deal for me to make sure my au pair has a good meal and conversation (if she wants it). She’s a bit of a homebody, but with much encouragement she’s making her way out and meeting people. I look at my au pair like that look at my niece. If my niece were doing a year in DC, I would try to make sure she had a safe and successful experience in a big city. I don’t treat my au pair as if she were Anne of Green Gables straight from the asylum in Halifax for the sole purpose of saving my twins from the croup, but to each to her own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never spoken English with an au pair so it’s not something I care about at all, but what if you told her you would put a plate to the side and encourage her to go the gym or take a walk so she could have dinner in a quieter environment and then have a cup of coffee or tea and dessert with her while she eats dinner so she’s not eating alone.

Are you insane???

Who da fuk has time to sit down and baby this girls fragile state of mind each night with tea and dessert? You're nuts. I get home at 530, scramble to make dinner, nag everyone to help me clean up, go over the kids homework with them, see what they are struggling with, try to bond with my 13yr old, corral everyone to brush their teeth, both boys still love me to lay in bed and talk to them and then flop into bed. Nowhere in there is time for my husband let alone some freaking tea and crumpets with Miss Cranky pants.

+100 Must be the same people who take their au pair everywhere with them for the first 6 weeks.

I’m a widow with a toddler who goes to bed early, so it’s not a big deal for me to make sure my au pair has a good meal and conversation (if she wants it). She’s a bit of a homebody, but with much encouragement she’s making her way out and meeting people. I look at my au pair like that look at my niece. If my niece were doing a year in DC, I would try to make sure she had a safe and successful experience in a big city. I don’t treat my au pair as if she were Anne of Green Gables straight from the asylum in Halifax for the sole purpose of saving my twins from the croup, but to each to her own.

I'm so sorry for your loss.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never spoken English with an au pair so it’s not something I care about at all, but what if you told her you would put a plate to the side and encourage her to go the gym or take a walk so she could have dinner in a quieter environment and then have a cup of coffee or tea and dessert with her while she eats dinner so she’s not eating alone.

Are you insane???

Who da fuk has time to sit down and baby this girls fragile state of mind each night with tea and dessert? You're nuts. I get home at 530, scramble to make dinner, nag everyone to help me clean up, go over the kids homework with them, see what they are struggling with, try to bond with my 13yr old, corral everyone to brush their teeth, both boys still love me to lay in bed and talk to them and then flop into bed. Nowhere in there is time for my husband let alone some freaking tea and crumpets with Miss Cranky pants.

+100 Must be the same people who take their au pair everywhere with them for the first 6 weeks.

I’m a widow with a toddler who goes to bed early, so it’s not a big deal for me to make sure my au pair has a good meal and conversation (if she wants it). She’s a bit of a homebody, but with much encouragement she’s making her way out and meeting people. I look at my au pair like that look at my niece. If my niece were doing a year in DC, I would try to make sure she had a safe and successful experience in a big city. I don’t treat my au pair as if she were Anne of Green Gables straight from the asylum in Halifax for the sole purpose of saving my twins from the croup, but to each to her own.

My condolences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never spoken English with an au pair so it’s not something I care about at all, but what if you told her you would put a plate to the side and encourage her to go the gym or take a walk so she could have dinner in a quieter environment and then have a cup of coffee or tea and dessert with her while she eats dinner so she’s not eating alone.

Are you insane???

Who da fuk has time to sit down and baby this girls fragile state of mind each night with tea and dessert? You're nuts. I get home at 530, scramble to make dinner, nag everyone to help me clean up, go over the kids homework with them, see what they are struggling with, try to bond with my 13yr old, corral everyone to brush their teeth, both boys still love me to lay in bed and talk to them and then flop into bed. Nowhere in there is time for my husband let alone some freaking tea and crumpets with Miss Cranky pants.

+100 Must be the same people who take their au pair everywhere with them for the first 6 weeks.

I’m a widow with a toddler who goes to bed early, so it’s not a big deal for me to make sure my au pair has a good meal and conversation (if she wants it). She’s a bit of a homebody, but with much encouragement she’s making her way out and meeting people. I look at my au pair like that look at my niece. If my niece were doing a year in DC, I would try to make sure she had a safe and successful experience in a big city. I don’t treat my au pair as if she were Anne of Green Gables straight from the asylum in Halifax for the sole purpose of saving my twins from the croup, but to each to her own.

Well good for you, enjoy your tea and biscuits while your kids put themselves to bed. Maybe throw them a teddy bear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never spoken English with an au pair so it’s not something I care about at all, but what if you told her you would put a plate to the side and encourage her to go the gym or take a walk so she could have dinner in a quieter environment and then have a cup of coffee or tea and dessert with her while she eats dinner so she’s not eating alone.

Are you insane???

Who da fuk has time to sit down and baby this girls fragile state of mind each night with tea and dessert? You're nuts. I get home at 530, scramble to make dinner, nag everyone to help me clean up, go over the kids homework with them, see what they are struggling with, try to bond with my 13yr old, corral everyone to brush their teeth, both boys still love me to lay in bed and talk to them and then flop into bed. Nowhere in there is time for my husband let alone some freaking tea and crumpets with Miss Cranky pants.

+100 Must be the same people who take their au pair everywhere with them for the first 6 weeks.

I’m a widow with a toddler who goes to bed early, so it’s not a big deal for me to make sure my au pair has a good meal and conversation (if she wants it). She’s a bit of a homebody, but with much encouragement she’s making her way out and meeting people. I look at my au pair like that look at my niece. If my niece were doing a year in DC, I would try to make sure she had a safe and successful experience in a big city. I don’t treat my au pair as if she were Anne of Green Gables straight from the asylum in Halifax for the sole purpose of saving my twins from the croup, but to each to her own.

Well good for you, enjoy your tea and biscuits while your kids put themselves to bed. Maybe throw them a teddy bear.

With your keen sense of empathy, I’m sure you’re the best host parent around. Yikes!

[Anonymous]

I had a similar Polish au pair. We rematched and lives happily ever after. All she ever did was to judge me and my kids. I have zero tolerance for arrangoncy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a similar Polish au pair. We rematched and lives happily ever after. All she ever did was to judge me and my kids. I have zero tolerance for arrangoncy.

+1. We had one from Colombia like this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had a similar Polish au pair. We rematched and lives happily ever after. All she ever did was to judge me and my kids. I have zero tolerance for arrangoncy.

What is arrangoncy?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I had a similar Polish au pair. We rematched and lives happily ever after. All she ever did was to judge me and my kids. I have zero tolerance for arrangoncy.

What is arrangoncy?

A type-o

[Anonymous]

Rematch rematch rematch.

[Anonymous]

I’m a widow with a toddler who goes to bed early, so it’s not a big deal for me to make sure my au pair has a good meal and conversation (if she wants it). She’s a bit of a homebody, but with much encouragement she’s making her way out and meeting people. I look at my au pair like that look at my niece. If my niece were doing a year in DC, I would try to make sure she had a safe and successful experience in a big city. I don’t treat my au pair as if she were Anne of Green Gables straight from the asylum in Halifax for the sole purpose of saving my twins from the croup, but to each to her own.

Serious respect for the immense shade thrown here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have never spoken English with an au pair so it’s not something I care about at all, but what if you told her you would put a plate to the side and encourage her to go the gym or take a walk so she could have dinner in a quieter environment and then have a cup of coffee or tea and dessert with her while she eats dinner so she’s not eating alone.

Come on...
Did the au pair come here to GET an au pair to BE an au pair? The host mom is not HER au pair. She needs to clarify her expectations and her role (in her head); do a good Jon and enjoy the cultural exchange. Isn't this what she signed up for?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have never spoken English with an au pair so it’s not something I care about at all, but what if you told her you would put a plate to the side and encourage her to go the gym or take a walk so she could have dinner in a quieter environment and then have a cup of coffee or tea and dessert with her while she eats dinner so she’s not eating alone.

Are you insane???

Who da fuk has time to sit down and baby this girls fragile state of mind each night with tea and dessert? You're nuts. I get home at 530, scramble to make dinner, nag everyone to help me clean up, go over the kids homework with them, see what they are struggling with, try to bond with my 13yr old, corral everyone to brush their teeth, both boys still love me to lay in bed and talk to them and then flop into bed. Nowhere in there is time for my husband let alone some freaking tea and crumpets with Miss Cranky pants.

This x1million.

The above suggestion is just idiotic.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't want to listen to my employers constantly bickering

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't want to listen to my employers constantly bickering

ANd....you can then leave....