Angry at this situation

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grow up and find your own jobs. Not everyone can afford $25 an hour and reality is most adults don't make that much. If a parent makes $20 an hour, minus taxes and all that, there isn't $25 an hour to pay you. Day care is not an option for obvious reasons. My guess is medicaid or someone else was paying for an aide and that was the pay rate.

Okay...those people who are making $20/hour can't afford a nanny. Just because you have children doesn't mean you're entitled to a private in home caregiver. There are choices here. You could choose not have children if you can't afford care (which it seems like many people don't bother to take into consideration). You could move to be near family if that's an option for you or your partner. You could find an in home daycare. You could work with your insurance company to find an aide if your child has serious medical needs (as this child does).

Saying "grow up and find your own jobs" is ridiculous. The family who employs OP doesn't want to pay her to retain her services so offered her a referral. As a professional, she followed up with this and found out that their expectations were completely out of line with her salary, her responsibilities, and her current job. She did absolutely nothing wrong here. Just because they have a sick child doesn't mean that they can expect a stranger to show up and work for a sub minimum wage. They sound manipulative and so does her boss. It's shameful to try and use their personal misfortune to try and guilt her into taking a job that will leave her short on her own bills. If anything, I would charge more money to take care of a sick child who will likely have more needs than is typical. This job sounds very stressful and I would personally rather take the financial hit than enter into this situation.

[Anonymous]

Get a better job with a contract and guaranteed hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NF is on vacation for two weeks in September so I needed to find a temp position to fill the gap in income.

MB found temporary work with a friend of a friend. The family has a little girl who is undergoing cancer treatment. I went to meet the family and to discuss pay and as soon as we started discussing pay the mom looked surprised and upset and told me my MB promised them I’d work for a very low wage. Like $300 week for 50+ hours. I felt trapped and really bad for this family because they clearly are under a lot of stress so agreed.

When I confronted my MB she got a bit nasty with me and made a very rude comment insinuating I was heartless for thinking of money when this family had a very sick child. I got upset. I said yes, but I was put in a weird situation. It made me feel bad, and also won’t allow me to find other positions and really sets me back for the month.

Why do families do this?

Wow. That's not even close to minimum wage. Your MB is nuts. She should have asked you what your short-term rate was before referring you to the other family. You probably should not have agreed.

[Anonymous]

Are you young? Foreign? Legal to work here? You are being taken advantage of big time, and I am guessing that one of the above reasons is why. It may be hard to find a well paying position with a good family of you are any of the above, but you deserve better and do not deserve to be taken advantage of like that! Please look for a better job with guaranteed hours and a contract. Best of luck to you!

[Anonymous]

MB here. Why isn't the family paying you while they're on vacation? We pay our nanny for 40 hrs per week regardless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NF is on vacation for two weeks in September so I needed to find a temp position to fill the gap in income.

MB found temporary work with a friend of a friend. The family has a little girl who is undergoing cancer treatment. I went to meet the family and to discuss pay and as soon as we started discussing pay the mom looked surprised and upset and told me my MB promised them I’d work for a very low wage. Like $300 week for 50+ hours. I felt trapped and really bad for this family because they clearly are under a lot of stress so agreed.

When I confronted my MB she got a bit nasty with me and made a very rude comment insinuating I was heartless for thinking of money when this family had a very sick child. I got upset. I said yes, but I was put in a weird situation. It made me feel bad, and also won’t allow me to find other positions and really sets me back for the month.

Why do families do this?

MB sounds awful. She's doing her friend a favor by offering you up as cheap labor and not even discussing it with you? Find a new job and give MB no notice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Grow up and find your own jobs. Not everyone can afford $25 an hour and reality is most adults don't make that much. If a parent makes $20 an hour, minus taxes and all that, there isn't $25 an hour to pay you. Day care is not an option for obvious reasons. My guess is medicaid or someone else was paying for an aide and that was the pay rate.

That’s $11 something an hour, and it won’t authorize overtime, so it’s be a maximum of 40 hours, which is still higher.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think what your MB did was just awful.

She should never have assumed that you would work for such a low wage.
And she most definitely put you in an awkward position by telling the family that you would.

She showed total disrespect on her part and I would give her my walking papers as soon as I found another position.
And I would call/text an apology ASAP to the other family & explain that you simply cannot work for the rate your MB told them.

I would be so angry at my boss.
Angry enough to quit right before their vacation, thus ruining it.

This. Get a new job.

[Anonymous]

Mb here. Your Mb sounds awful and you should find a new employer. First, you should be paid when your employers go on vacation. You could agree to a contract otherwise but I do not recommend it and if you do the times must be prespecified and limited. Second, while my heart goes out to this family your MB was manipulative and cruel. If she wants that family to have childcare for a low free she can pay for your wages so that family doesn’t have to. Or she can ask yo in advance about that charity with the idea you can (and probably will) say no. Good luck! Start looking today.

[Anonymous]

They need to pay you when they are away! Please look for a new family and be upfront and say that you expect guaranteed hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wait!! How are your employers not paying you while they’re on vacation?!

Yeah, this is crazy! We've never not paid our nanny, whether she was working or not. We even let her take some additional leave with pay as needed. Well, now you know you shouldn't ever agree to that again!