Is it unreasonable to ask our nanny to

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Does she take them to other activities or just stay home and watch them? IDK looks more like a babysitter if she can’t manage kids outside by herself and surprising she has been with your family for so long.

Good point. Usually just stays home with them. She works for us two days a week when I work. Oldest one in school, younger two play at home and occasionally go on walks. She does pick them up from preschool once a week. This is not a nanny? Outside her job description?

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The reason I even ask this is because she has been telling my daughter she wants to take her strawberry picking and my older son overheard and wanted to go so I asked if I could help her plan to take them next week and she said no.

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I wouldnt want to go out and stand in a field and pick fruit in the heat by myself let alone with 3 kids. I get that some people find this fun, I do not.
So its not unreasonable to ask, its also not unreasonable for her to say no.

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Anonymous wrote:You asked, she said no. Take them yourself. Why does she need to take them. 3 kids that age is a lot.

She is wonderful and we love her but we are realizing maybe we need a nanny with more energy now that our children are the ages they are.

And maybe you need to discipline your children. Our 64 year old nanny has taken our kids many similar places but they are good kids. Clearly yours aren’t.

LOL! Dang! Love yah DCUM!

And on a personal level, there is no need for such a mean and snarky response. I hope you are ashamed of yourself and that karma causes you to have a bad hair day tomorrow.

MP. The PP above you took the words out of my mouth. This area abounds with lazy parents of horrid bratty children. Clearly, OP and her children are in this category.

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Anonymous wrote:My grandparents owned a strawberry farm in Virginia. My grandmother had no problem keeping up with us while my parents worked in a nearby city. She was 62 when I was born. I was picking strawberries at a year old, and was plowing with a horse by the time I was in kindergarten. Age doesn't keep you from being active. My grandmother was active on her farm until age 84 when she had a clot and lost her leg. She would still take her wheelchair outside to feed her chickens until she died at almost 87. So yeah, I think your nanny should be tougher, OP. Your kids will benefit from going to a strawberry patch.

So, their mother can take them. The nanny doesn’t feel comfortable corralling three kids in a place she has never been.

I usually do take them by myself every year but this year am 8 months pregnant

So? Pregnancy is not a disease nor does it stop you from taking them and watching while they pick strawberries.

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Judging by the amount of snarky and mean responses to a simple question by people who I imagine to be nannies, my view of the nanny profession is sharply dropping. Maybe my kids are better off in daycare after all. - mb

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Anonymous wrote:Judging by the amount of snarky and mean responses to a simple question by people who I imagine to be nannies, my view of the nanny profession is sharply dropping. Maybe my kids are better off in daycare after all. - mb
NO, actually I am one of the critical posters and I am an MB. OP is pretty awful to even think about firing a loyal nanny because she doesn’t want to take three kids strawberry picking alone. And she is insulting older women in assuming it’s about her nanny’s age.

But yes, most parents who read this forum would be better off with daycare. There will always be enough parents who earn enough and believe in the bond between a nanny and her child to employ all the good nannies.

Some of the questions and responses from mothers who employ nannies on this forum are embarrassing.

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OP, you are thinking about firing your nanny because she won’t take your kids to a strawberry field and you don’t think you deserve “snark”?!

Yes, you are most definitely someone who needs to use daycare. And I am an MB.

Why don’t you take the kids yourself?

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OP, from your follow up posts it sounds like she works for you two days a week while you work. And you can't take them this year because you are 8 months pregnant. And she said to your middle child that she would like to take her strawberry picking. And that oldest child overheard and now he wants to go also.

Here is my suggestion:
Ask her to babysit for a third day next week, and she takes the oldest two kids strawberry picking while you stay home with the youngest. Pay for her mileage and strawberry picking expenses for this excursion, as well as regular babysitting pay.

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Anonymous wrote:You asked, she said no. Take them yourself. Why does she need to take them. 3 kids that age is a lot.

She is wonderful and we love her but we are realizing maybe we need a nanny with more energy now that our children are the ages they are.

And maybe you need to discipline your children. Our 64 year old nanny has taken our kids many similar places but they are good kids. Clearly yours aren’t.

LOL! Dang! Love yah DCUM!

And on a personal level, there is no need for such a mean and snarky response. I hope you are ashamed of yourself and that karma causes you to have a bad hair day tomorrow.

I actually agree with PP. You are talking about firing an otherwise good nanny because she doesn’t want to take your three kids strawberry picking?! Take your kids yourself - alone - in the heat and humidity. Try being a mother.

Seriously? You don’t want to take 3 children out in the heat and humidity, don’t be a nanny to 3 children in the summer! I would assume that OP does activities with her children on the weekends and possibly evenings, just as my bosses do, but during the week OP is working, hence her having a nanny for her children. Do not bash parents for having a nanny!

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Anonymous wrote:My grandparents owned a strawberry farm in Virginia. My grandmother had no problem keeping up with us while my parents worked in a nearby city. She was 62 when I was born. I was picking strawberries at a year old, and was plowing with a horse by the time I was in kindergarten. Age doesn't keep you from being active. My grandmother was active on her farm until age 84 when she had a clot and lost her leg. She would still take her wheelchair outside to feed her chickens until she died at almost 87. So yeah, I think your nanny should be tougher, OP. Your kids will benefit from going to a strawberry patch.

So, their mother can take them. The nanny doesn’t feel comfortable corralling three kids in a place she has never been.

Hence OP thinking that it may be time to get a nanny who is comfortable corralling 3 children while providing a varied and exciting childhood. This is why parents choose nannies over other forms of childcare.

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Anonymous wrote:My grandparents owned a strawberry farm in Virginia. My grandmother had no problem keeping up with us while my parents worked in a nearby city. She was 62 when I was born. I was picking strawberries at a year old, and was plowing with a horse by the time I was in kindergarten. Age doesn't keep you from being active. My grandmother was active on her farm until age 84 when she had a clot and lost her leg. She would still take her wheelchair outside to feed her chickens until she died at almost 87. So yeah, I think your nanny should be tougher, OP. Your kids will benefit from going to a strawberry patch.

So, their mother can take them. The nanny doesn’t feel comfortable corralling three kids in a place she has never been.

I usually do take them by myself every year but this year am 8 months pregnant

You will definitely need a new nanny if you’re pregnant.

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Anonymous wrote:Judging by the amount of snarky and mean responses to a simple question by people who I imagine to be nannies, my view of the nanny profession is sharply dropping. Maybe my kids are better off in daycare after all. - mb
NO, actually I am one of the critical posters and I am an MB. OP is pretty awful to even think about firing a loyal nanny because she doesn’t want to take three kids strawberry picking alone. And she is insulting older women in assuming it’s about her nanny’s age.

But yes, most parents who read this forum would be better off with daycare. There will always be enough parents who earn enough and believe in the bond between a nanny and her child to employ all the good nannies.

Some of the questions and responses from mothers who employ nannies on this forum are embarrassing.

OP is not in the wrong for thinking that she needs a nanny that is comfortable taking her children out of the house. I cannot imagine being overwhelmed by taking my charges anywhere, absolutely anywhere. And to the “glad I chose daycare” poster above, if this is the comparison, yes. But in reality nannies take their charges out for all sorts of fun and exciting activities that most daycares centers simply cannot provide. Also, many of us are passionate about what we do, fully capable, AND support the parents professions!

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Anonymous wrote:OP, from your follow up posts it sounds like she works for you two days a week while you work. And you can't take them this year because you are 8 months pregnant. And she said to your middle child that she would like to take her strawberry picking. And that oldest child overheard and now he wants to go also.

Here is my suggestion:
Ask her to babysit for a third day next week, and she takes the oldest two kids strawberry picking while you stay home with the youngest. Pay for her mileage and strawberry picking expenses for this excursion, as well as regular babysitting pay.

So now it is the parent’s role to go out of their way to support the nanny!?! If she cannot handle 3 children then she shouldn’t be a nanny to 3 children. OP should not pay her for an extra day so that she can take the kids separately, that is insane! (plus she’s have to pay for two additional days so that the two oldest could both go, separately).

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OP, you take them. How are you going to handle 4 kids?