help needed with script for letting go nanny who has been with us 7 years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Given how long she’s been with you, why don’t you have a collaborative convo about how long she wants to stay on while she’s looking for a new job? Ask her how long she expects it to take?

Impossible to know how long it might take, could be a week or could be six weeks. But I like the collaborative idea.

[Anonymous]

One thought, OP: do you know for sure she plans to get another nanny job immediately after this? I know that is the most likely scenario but if she had been thinking about a career change or taking a long vacation before job searching again or anything else, that could change what kind of help she would like from you. Maybe just double check that in your convo and adjust accordingly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Given how long she’s been with you, why don’t you have a collaborative convo about how long she wants to stay on while she’s looking for a new job? Ask her how long she expects it to take?

That's ridiculous. You don't keep paying a person and having them come to work if you don't need them anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Pp, I disagree. I know my job is ending in August and they told me they plan on giving me a severance, not a retention bonus.

If it’s not a retention bonus, would you get it if you left the job in two weeks? They are using the term incorrectly.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I would still get it if I left the job early. They have helped me line up a new job and have said, if I need to leave earlier than planned they understand and would still give me my severance. I don’t believe they have used the term incorrectly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Given how long she’s been with you, why don’t you have a collaborative convo about how long she wants to stay on while she’s looking for a new job? Ask her how long she expects it to take?

That's ridiculous. You don't keep paying a person and having them come to work if you don't need them anymore.

And yet that’s not what I said. I said to have a collaborative conversation. OP has no idea what nanny wants to do next or how she’d like the end of their relationship to look.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Given how long she’s been with you, why don’t you have a collaborative convo about how long she wants to stay on while she’s looking for a new job? Ask her how long she expects it to take?

I agree with this post. I don't think 6 weeks notice is sufficient for a nanny who has been with you this long. It takes time to find a new nanny position. We gave our nanny of three years 3 months official notice but she knew that the kids would be going to school in the fall. We told her that if she stayed until the end of August we'd give her two weeks retention bonus.