Homebody au pair

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be careful what you wish for. We had an AP who would disappear on weekends and then get dropped off by different guys around noon on Sundays. I eventually had to ask her to get dropped off a couple houses down (and to vary it) because I was worried about the number of strangers that would know our address and my 8-year-old asked me if these were all her boyfriends.

Unless there is a trip planned, even our most responsible, sweet au pairs don't seem to arise from their bedrooms until lunch on the weekends. Most of them just didn't start their day until later, but we had one who just preferred to stick around the house. She was perfectly content to sit in her room and crochet, talk to her family, and sometimes cook. An old soul.

Lol! Your address is prominently and publically displayed. It is a matter of public record. You are just the typical older middle aged pearl clutched who probably had her first kid at 42.

So classy!

[Anonymous]

This question re-surfaces several times a year.

I have had homebodies and social butterflies. Right now I have a painfully homebody situ. She stays home on the weekends and weekdays and then says she's bored with her day. She does go to the gym 3-4 days a week. But has all but refused to find new friends. Not from lack of trying to connect her via the LCC, the neighborhood APs, or facebook groups. She's just a loner/introvert and is happy with it.

For me, I would have to get out of the house at least once a day or once a weekend for sanity. But she's very levelheaded and such a hard worker. She is trying to plan her vacation weeks, so she's not skipping out completely on the experience.

I am just sad on the missed opportunities. Why come here to just sit in your room and watch live pass by.

But the social APs are worse. You feel like a hotel and just not feeling the love or like they care about you at all. Like others say, try not to overcompensate. I found my current one in rematch after letting a social one that was only interested in hanging with her countrymen and extended family in the area and not interested in any relationship with us.

I wish I find a balance each time I match, but sometimes it swings to the extreme one way or another. Take a good look at your questions and adjust to ask for soft skills.

I had another homebodies (not as extreme) and both found their way/BFF/interests mid-way through the year and were more outgoing. Hang in...it might be early still...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Be careful what you wish for. We had an AP who would disappear on weekends and then get dropped off by different guys around noon on Sundays. I eventually had to ask her to get dropped off a couple houses down (and to vary it) because I was worried about the number of strangers that would know our address and my 8-year-old asked me if these were all her boyfriends.

Unless there is a trip planned, even our most responsible, sweet au pairs don't seem to arise from their bedrooms until lunch on the weekends. Most of them just didn't start their day until later, but we had one who just preferred to stick around the house. She was perfectly content to sit in her room and crochet, talk to her family, and sometimes cook. An old soul.

Lol! Your address is prominently and publically displayed. It is a matter of public record. You are just the typical older middle aged pearl clutched who probably had her first kid at 42.

LOL! You sound like the slutty au pair who screws around with sugar daddies and married host fathers and lacked the smarts to finish her degree. All the Botox in Brazil won’t stop you from getting old, sweetheart.

[Anonymous]

i dont see her email address

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What bothers you about her being around on the weekend if she is happy and cheerful (and not actually sulking and looking miserable)? I assume she spends most of the time in her room? Your house is her home for the year, some people like to spend their weekend relaxing in the comfort of their home on weekends and if your kid are school-aged she might be out a lot during the weekdays and not feel the need to go out on weekends?

You might want to offer her tickets to events she would like as an insensitive to get out of the house but you really can't be mad about her wanting to spend her weekends at home. She is as entitled to stay home on her time off as you are.

A completely wasted opportunity and terrible role model. I would not pay for one of my kids to go abroad and sit in their room watching television all year.

Also, ours washed her hair and did laundry on the weekends. The laundry part got me annoyed... I work all week and AP doesn’t (school age kids). I had to tell her to do her laundry during the week and I need to do everyone else’s laundry on the weekends. She doesn’t even do the kids laundry because she ruined some of their clothes. I realized afterwards that she had been ignoring my laundry instructions and she seems to think laundry must be washed on the hottest and heaviest settings to be truly clean...

[Anonymous]

Our last AP never left the house on weekends and used her vacation weeks to stay in her room and watch movies. She was sweet with the kids but I was so ready to see her go. It made me almost angry that she would waste a year of her life watching TV.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our last AP never left the house on weekends and used her vacation weeks to stay in her room and watch movies. She was sweet with the kids but I was so ready to see her go. It made me almost angry that she would waste a year of her life watching TV.

Who do you care? Who are you to judge? She’s an adult. It’s not your business.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our last AP never left the house on weekends and used her vacation weeks to stay in her room and watch movies. She was sweet with the kids but I was so ready to see her go. It made me almost angry that she would waste a year of her life watching TV.

Not your business. I don’t have kids, live with my charges, and (sometimes) the last thing I want after a hard week is to be around other people, especially children. So I do the same thing (sometimes).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our last AP never left the house on weekends and used her vacation weeks to stay in her room and watch movies. She was sweet with the kids but I was so ready to see her go. It made me almost angry that she would waste a year of her life watching TV.

Not your business. I don’t have kids, live with my charges, and (sometimes) the last thing I want after a hard week is to be around other people, especially children. So I do the same thing (sometimes).

You obviously are a nanny, not an AP who only has a year or two at most.