Nanny Feels Threatended By Us

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It sounds to me that your husband was obviously joking. Just makes sure this doesn’t happen again and instead of joking you need to say when they are acting unprofessional. Yea she was late, but now you know words matter. Also, I don’t want to sound insensitive but is your nanny foreign born? My mom is Foreign born and sometimes doesn’t understand American humor or sayings

No. She’s Caucasian American.

[Anonymous]

Your husband shouldn't have said that. Tell him not to do it again. No "jokes" with new nanny. Instead, make it clear that she must be on time.
and not a good fit- find a new nanny, and post your housekeeping needs in your job description this time.
-MB

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you. I’m getting the feeling she took the position and found an excuse to back out. We double check her references ( she was referred to us by someone who’s best friends employed her for two years), and they spoke very highly of her skill set, experience, and her reliability. She balked at that the offer when we asked her to do housekeeping ( laundry for family, sweep/mom apparentment, dishes, make our bed, meal prep, etc.) and asked for a higher rate, which we paid. It just wasn’t a good fit, but I still am backing up my DH that he didn’t do anything wrong to warrant her behavior.

You literally had both MBs and Nannys telling you that the joke of killing her is not ok but you don't understand that it was wrong?
BTW- sounds like you suck. You hired a nanny of course she's going to balk when you also ask her to make your bed (wtf?)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you. I’m getting the feeling she took the position and found an excuse to back out. We double check her references ( she was referred to us by someone who’s best friends employed her for two years), and they spoke very highly of her skill set, experience, and her reliability. She balked at that the offer when we asked her to do housekeeping ( laundry for family, sweep/mom apparentment, dishes, make our bed, meal prep, etc.) and asked for a higher rate, which we paid. It just wasn’t a good fit, but I still am backing up my DH that he didn’t do anything wrong to warrant her behavior.

You literally had both MBs and Nannys telling you that the joke of killing her is not ok but you don't understand that it was wrong?
BTW- sounds like you suck. You hired a nanny of course she's going to balk when you also ask her to make your bed (wtf?)

OP and her husband are pigs! Of course the nanny quit! What adult is incapable of making their own bed! And all the housekeeper duties?! And then a rude husband?! Ugh. I would never treat a nanny like that!

[Anonymous]

I think your Nanny overreacted a bit here.

The phrase your hubby used is actually quite common.
However w/Political Correctness, etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. Thank you. I’m getting the feeling she took the position and found an excuse to back out. We double check her references ( she was referred to us by someone who’s best friends employed her for two years), and they spoke very highly of her skill set, experience, and her reliability. She balked at that the offer when we asked her to do housekeeping ( laundry for family, sweep/mom apparentment, dishes, make our bed, meal prep, etc.) and asked for a higher rate, which we paid. It just wasn’t a good fit, but I still am backing up my DH that he didn’t do anything wrong to warrant her behavior.

She took the job because she was starting to get concerned she wouldn't find another one. She was getting desperate. After a week or so, she started thinking, "Am I really THAT desperate that I am doing the parents laundry, dishes, and bed making? No! I'd rather work retail." She started looking for excuses for you to fire her (showing up late) and then your husband provided an excuse for her to quit (threat of physical harm.)

[Anonymous]

Jokes about killing is not ok.

Stupid parents. That's not professional at all.

[Anonymous]

I'm glad nanny quit or is quitting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think your Nanny overreacted a bit here.

The phrase your hubby used is actually quite common.
However w/Political Correctness, etc.

Maybe she has been a victim of domestic violence and aggressorbdidvtrybyo kill her? You don't know and if I had a boss who said if I didn't do something they would kill me, I would call police! I do not threaten people with murder.

[Anonymous]

You asked her to make your bed. You are a grown woman. Make your own bed. Nannies should not have to enter the parents bedroom. Also nannies are not house keepers or maids. We do child related tasks and look after your children. No wonder she quit. Your husband was also out of line saying you would kill her if she was late to work again. I would quit also. Threatening a nanny with violence is unacceptable. Of course you will stand by your husband as you are a narcissist.

[Anonymous]

No wonder she quit. The only person interested in this job would have to be desperate. No sane person would do those duties. You and your husband are pigs.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if this is the same OP who wants verification of nanny vaccinations.

[Anonymous]

Op can't even use proper spelling and grammar. Troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your husband waaa fine. She is overreacting as most nannies do.

Generalize much? You sound like the MB from hell.