Looking for a live-in nanny for twins in Mclean

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. With the responses I'm seeing...I think we should reconsider the whole line-in idea and just hire someone who can be onsite for 8 hours.

What is it about the responses that are making you feel that way ? I'm the poster who is interested in the job .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op I am interested in this live in nanny position. How can I get ahold of you?

OP here. What's your rate?

It is so very interesting that this is your first question to a potential LIVE-IN NANNY. Any interest that I may have had in such a job would evaporate with this comment. If I am going to be living in your home, sharing a house and amenities with a family, I need to have different conversations (PLURAL) about expectations, personalities, setting boundaries, do's and dont's, kids discipline, etc etc. Yes money is always an important factor but for someone who will be sharing your personal space full time, it should not be the primary factor.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. With the responses I'm seeing...I think we should reconsider the whole line-in idea and just hire someone who can be onsite for 8 hours.

What is it about the responses that are making you feel that way ? I'm the poster who is interested in the job .

Nanny interested in this job: this is another red flag. The OP cannot take some constructive feedback. Whether the feedback be helpful or not, a mature individual will know to take in what relates to his or her family and to discard or disregard the rest. I am seeing potential issues with handling any problems that may arise. I suggest asking a lot of questions and being clear on expectations should you interview for this job.

[Anonymous]

OP here. I think I'm just making matters worse by showing my inexperience in hiring a "live-in" nanny.

The nanny we have right now came from a family friend's household and highly recommended, so we hired her essentially with no questions asked. However, she's a bit older and is going through age related issues that may prevent her from taking care of of two infants/toddlers. This is by her own admission, not from us.

As far as my question about rates "first", I think that's a fair question to ask, because if your rates are way more than we can afford, everything else is immaterial. If they are in the ballpark, THEN we should explore all the other aspects.

We're fortunate enough to be able to afford a nanny, but we're in no way a "high net worth family" or anything like that.

To the poster that asked "What is it about the responses that are making you feel that way?" - The responses are making me feel that we're projecting higher expectations than we're willing to pay for. That's certainly not the case. It's probably my inexperience with this that's making it come across that way.

My opening remarks were that we want someone who can integrate with our family. Does that not imply that we would certainly discuss "expectations, personalities, setting boundaries, do's and dont's, kids discipline, etc etc.", but more importantly, your rates are not the ONLY factor, your personality is equally, if not more important.

That said, if we can't afford you, we can't afford you. It's that simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Hi - We were blessed with twins (two boys) last year (they are ~13 months now) and we're looking for some help. Our current nanny is not live in and will not be able to continue after the next few weeks (flexible on that).

We have a good sized house, certainly big enough to provide a BR/Bath for the Nanny. We're willing to provide a cell phone, use of the minivan whenever needed etc etc. Totally flexible on these things. We would not expect you to work more than 40 hours/week as such, even though you're live in. The occasional help is welcome but not expected.

We'd love to have someone that thinks more along the lines of integrating with our family, vs thinking of it as a job. We expect to have a Nanny atleast for a few years (minimum 5) so, someone long term would be better than changing nannies frequently. We'd love someone who is a native English speaker (or close) but we're willing to compromise on that for an amazing personality.

Since we've never had a live in Nanny before, what kind of rates are we looking at?

The last time I accepted a live-in position, I earned $25/hr + generous benefits package. Living-in is a huge loss of privacy, unless you have a totally separate dwelling on the estate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think I'm just making matters worse by showing my inexperience in hiring a "live-in" nanny.

The nanny we have right now came from a family friend's household and highly recommended, so we hired her essentially with no questions asked. However, she's a bit older and is going through age related issues that may prevent her from taking care of of two infants/toddlers. This is by her own admission, not from us.

As far as my question about rates "first", I think that's a fair question to ask, because if your rates are way more than we can afford, everything else is immaterial. If they are in the ballpark, THEN we should explore all the other aspects.

We're fortunate enough to be able to afford a nanny, but we're in no way a "high net worth family" or anything like that.

To the poster that asked "What is it about the responses that are making you feel that way?" - The responses are making me feel that we're projecting higher expectations than we're willing to pay for. That's certainly not the case. It's probably my inexperience with this that's making it come across that way.

My opening remarks were that we want someone who can integrate with our family. Does that not imply that we would certainly discuss "expectations, personalities, setting boundaries, do's and dont's, kids discipline, etc etc.", but more importantly, your rates are not the ONLY factor, your personality is equally, if not more important.

That said, if we can't afford you, we can't afford you. It's that simple.

19:14 here. You should disclose your range. Depending on the total compensation package, people are sometimes willing to negotiate their established rates.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think I'm just making matters worse by showing my inexperience in hiring a "live-in" nanny.

The nanny we have right now came from a family friend's household and highly recommended, so we hired her essentially with no questions asked. However, she's a bit older and is going through age related issues that may prevent her from taking care of of two infants/toddlers. This is by her own admission, not from us.

As far as my question about rates "first", I think that's a fair question to ask, because if your rates are way more than we can afford, everything else is immaterial. If they are in the ballpark, THEN we should explore all the other aspects.

We're fortunate enough to be able to afford a nanny, but we're in no way a "high net worth family" or anything like that.

To the poster that asked "What is it about the responses that are making you feel that way?" - The responses are making me feel that we're projecting higher expectations than we're willing to pay for. That's certainly not the case. It's probably my inexperience with this that's making it come across that way.

My opening remarks were that we want someone who can integrate with our family. Does that not imply that we would certainly discuss "expectations, personalities, setting boundaries, do's and dont's, kids discipline, etc etc.", but more importantly, your rates are not the ONLY factor, your personality is equally, if not more important.

That said, if we can't afford you, we can't afford you. It's that simple.

Op this forum can be very harsh. You must take it all with a grain of salt.

I've been a live in nanny for 14 years. I understand what you mean by integrating with your family and it is what makes the live in situation work so well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think I'm just making matters worse by showing my inexperience in hiring a "live-in" nanny.

The nanny we have right now came from a family friend's household and highly recommended, so we hired her essentially with no questions asked. However, she's a bit older and is going through age related issues that may prevent her from taking care of of two infants/toddlers. This is by her own admission, not from us.

As far as my question about rates "first", I think that's a fair question to ask, because if your rates are way more than we can afford, everything else is immaterial. If they are in the ballpark, THEN we should explore all the other aspects.

We're fortunate enough to be able to afford a nanny, but we're in no way a "high net worth family" or anything like that.

To the poster that asked "What is it about the responses that are making you feel that way?" - The responses are making me feel that we're projecting higher expectations than we're willing to pay for. That's certainly not the case. It's probably my inexperience with this that's making it come across that way.

My opening remarks were that we want someone who can integrate with our family. Does that not imply that we would certainly discuss "expectations, personalities, setting boundaries, do's and dont's, kids discipline, etc etc.", but more importantly, your rates are not the ONLY factor, your personality is equally, if not more important.

That said, if we can't afford you, we can't afford you. It's that simple.

Op this forum can be very harsh. You must take it all with a grain of salt.

I've been a live in nanny for 14 years. I understand what you mean by integrating with your family and it is what makes the live in situation work so well.

What were your worst experiences?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
The last time I accepted a live-in position, I earned $25/hr + generous benefits package. Living-in is a huge loss of privacy, unless you have a totally separate dwelling on the estate.

OP here. We certainly don't have an "estate" We have a nice sized 5BR/5BA house. There's only us four, which means MBR for us, one or two BRs for the kids, which still leaves 2 extra BRs. There's even a huge "play area" (if you wanna think of it that way) on the second floor that can be used as a BR if need be.

And I have to be honest, $25/hr + generous benefits is not something we can afford. Ballpark would in the $15 range. If that means, a live-in nanny is not an option, so be it. We'll look at live out nannies.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. I think I'm just making matters worse by showing my inexperience in hiring a "live-in" nanny.

The nanny we have right now came from a family friend's household and highly recommended, so we hired her essentially with no questions asked. However, she's a bit older and is going through age related issues that may prevent her from taking care of of two infants/toddlers. This is by her own admission, not from us.

As far as my question about rates "first", I think that's a fair question to ask, because if your rates are way more than we can afford, everything else is immaterial. If they are in the ballpark, THEN we should explore all the other aspects.

We're fortunate enough to be able to afford a nanny, but we're in no way a "high net worth family" or anything like that.

To the poster that asked "What is it about the responses that are making you feel that way?" - The responses are making me feel that we're projecting higher expectations than we're willing to pay for. That's certainly not the case. It's probably my inexperience with this that's making it come across that way.

My opening remarks were that we want someone who can integrate with our family. Does that not imply that we would certainly discuss "expectations, personalities, setting boundaries, do's and dont's, kids discipline, etc etc.", but more importantly, your rates are not the ONLY factor, your personality is equally, if not more important.

That said, if we can't afford you, we can't afford you. It's that simple.

Op this forum can be very harsh. You must take it all with a grain of salt.

I've been a live in nanny for 14 years. I understand what you mean by integrating with your family and it is what makes the live in situation work so well.

What were your worst experiences?

lol I can't say on here. I've had 2 jobs that didn't work out. 1 experience was truly horrible. However all my other jobs have been great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The last time I accepted a live-in position, I earned $25/hr + generous benefits package. Living-in is a huge loss of privacy, unless you have a totally separate dwelling on the estate.

OP here. We certainly don't have an "estate" We have a nice sized 5BR/5BA house. There's only us four, which means MBR for us, one or two BRs for the kids, which still leaves 2 extra BRs. There's even a huge "play area" (if you wanna think of it that way) on the second floor that can be used as a BR if need be.

And I have to be honest, $25/hr + generous benefits is not something we can afford. Ballpark would in the $15 range. If that means, a live-in nanny is not an option, so be it. We'll look at live out nannies.

Op you can find great live in candidates for 15 per hr.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
The last time I accepted a live-in position, I earned $25/hr + generous benefits package. Living-in is a huge loss of privacy, unless you have a totally separate dwelling on the estate.

OP here. We certainly don't have an "estate" We have a nice sized 5BR/5BA house. There's only us four, which means MBR for us, one or two BRs for the kids, which still leaves 2 extra BRs. There's even a huge "play area" (if you wanna think of it that way) on the second floor that can be used as a BR if need be.

And I have to be honest, $25/hr + generous benefits is not something we can afford. Ballpark would in the $15 range. If that means, a live-in nanny is not an option, so be it. We'll look at live out nannies.

Op you can find great live in candidates for 15 per hr.

+1. The person who wants 25+ plus full room and board is out of their mind.
We have a live in nanny. We pay 15 an hour- guaranteed hours of 40 a week. (overtime for anything over 40). We also pay for 2 college classes at NOVA. Full use of a car. Private bedroom and bathroom with semi private living area.
I think what makes a live in situation work/not work is to be pretty clear about what are working hours and what are off hours. So if nanny works 9-5, at 5pm she is free to leave. She might choose to stay and have dinner, or she might choose to go hide in her room, or whatever.
Also- you don't want job creep, but do think about chores. Its best to think about this up front- this will be an adult member of the family.

[Anonymous]

OP - I think you can find a live-in nanny that meets your requirements in the $15 range.
the one thing about your initial post and even your follow up posts that is concerning is the occasional extra help and preparing dinner for kids after Nanny's time is up. I would suggest that you try to keep it as standard as possible. Obviously you would make room for unexpected occurrences but it is best to stick with allotted times and respect the Nanny's non-work hours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP - I think you can find a live-in nanny that meets your requirements in the $15 range.
the one thing about your initial post and even your follow up posts that is concerning is the occasional extra help and preparing dinner for kids after Nanny's time is up. I would suggest that you try to keep it as standard as possible. Obviously you would make room for unexpected occurrences but it is best to stick with allotted times and respect the Nanny's non-work hours.

OP here. Completely agreed. Like I said, I'm not very familiar with this kind of situation.

If we ever ask her to do things above and beyond what has been agreed to, we'd of course either not ask or pay her extra or she can say no. That's a given. This whole "extra help" is not even an issue, it only cropped up because of the "live in" situation. It's human tendency to ask for things without realizing what you're doing.

I apologize if that didn't come through. It's been a very hectic one year with twins...

[Anonymous]

There are two categories of live in nannies.

The first group is experienced and often highly educated career nannies who specialize in providing tailored and often round the clock or very flexible care to high net worth families for very high rate.

The second group is primarily nannies who are young/inexperienced. These nannies view living in as a way to live either in a better neighborhood/region than they could otherwise afford with minimal expenses. If you are a nice young lady from the Midwest who just wants to live near a major city but doesn’t want to deal with figuring out roommates or finding a decent paying job that will allow you to support yourself in a big city, then working as a nanny for a few years might be a good way to get familiar with a new area within the comfortable structure of family life. These nannies will charge you if you dollars below the going rate to care for your children because they view living in as a perk rather than a drawback of the job.