Inviting someone else's nanny?

[Anonymous]

Nanny here. Honestly, I wouldn't mind being invited to a birthday during the week and go along my charges, but if it's on a weekend, it's a "no". I value my time off.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it would be nice to treat the nanny like an actual human being and invite her. She is the one that you actually have known for 1.5 years - not the parents.

Are you saying that, under normal working circumstances, MBs treat their nannies as subhuman?

Clearly. OP doesn't know if she should invite the nanny.

No, OP doesn't know if the nanny feels friendly towards her and her child, or if she's just part of the nanny's work life and the nanny would rather not be bothered with a party on her free time.

Nannies, being human beings, are capable of RSVPing "no". Nannies can do many amazing things, PP, like speak, think, feel and respond. Why, nannies are almost like real people!!!!!

But then the nanny is the one with the burden of deciding whether to give up her free time or potentially insult the hosts. If the OP and the nanny had developed a close friendship, OP would have invited her as a matter of course. They clearly have not, so it is entirely reasonable to wonder how an invitation might be received.

[Anonymous]

04.02 here. It's tough to say "no" when you're invited. I agree it's a burden if you feel you have to give up your free time or potentially insult the hosts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I think it would be nice to treat the nanny like an actual human being and invite her. She is the one that you actually have known for 1.5 years - not the parents.

Are you saying that, under normal working circumstances, MBs treat their nannies as subhuman?

Clearly. OP doesn't know if she should invite the nanny.

No, OP doesn't know if the nanny feels friendly towards her and her child, or if she's just part of the nanny's work life and the nanny would rather not be bothered with a party on her free time.

Nannies, being human beings, are capable of RSVPing "no". Nannies can do many amazing things, PP, like speak, think, feel and respond. Why, nannies are almost like real people!!!!!

But then the nanny is the one with the burden of deciding whether to give up her free time or potentially insult the hosts. If the OP and the nanny had developed a close friendship, OP would have invited her as a matter of course. They clearly have not, so it is entirely reasonable to wonder how an invitation might be received.

Nannies, being humans in society, have undoubtedly been in a position to RSVP "no" before in their lives. I doubt writing, "I am so sorry but we have made plans for Saturday! Happy Birthday, Larla!" would be considered an undue burden by most adult humans. As a nanny, I know I have done it before.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it would be nice to treat the nanny like an actual human being and invite her. She is the one that you actually have known for 1.5 years - not the parents.

Are you saying that, under normal working circumstances, MBs treat their nannies as subhuman?

Clearly. OP doesn't know if she should invite the nanny.

No, OP doesn't know if the nanny feels friendly towards her and her child, or if she's just part of the nanny's work life and the nanny would rather not be bothered with a party on her free time.

Nannies, being human beings, are capable of RSVPing "no". Nannies can do many amazing things, PP, like speak, think, feel and respond. Why, nannies are almost like real people!!!!!

But then the nanny is the one with the burden of deciding whether to give up her free time or potentially insult the hosts. If the OP and the nanny had developed a close friendship, OP would have invited her as a matter of course. They clearly have not, so it is entirely reasonable to wonder how an invitation might be received.

And the parents were invited - not close friends or even acquaintances - while the nanny is excluded. Makes no sense.

Other posters are correct, OP. Think of the nanny as an actual human person and then rethink your post.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it would be nice to treat the nanny like an actual human being and invite her. She is the one that you actually have known for 1.5 years - not the parents.

Are you saying that, under normal working circumstances, MBs treat their nannies as subhuman?

Clearly. OP doesn't know if she should invite the nanny.

No, OP doesn't know if the nanny feels friendly towards her and her child, or if she's just part of the nanny's work life and the nanny would rather not be bothered with a party on her free time.

Nannies, being human beings, are capable of RSVPing "no". Nannies can do many amazing things, PP, like speak, think, feel and respond. Why, nannies are almost like real people!!!!!

But then the nanny is the one with the burden of deciding whether to give up her free time or potentially insult the hosts. If the OP and the nanny had developed a close friendship, OP would have invited her as a matter of course. They clearly have not, so it is entirely reasonable to wonder how an invitation might be received.

And the parents were invited - not close friends or even acquaintances - while the nanny is excluded. Makes no sense.

Other posters are correct, OP. Think of the nanny as an actual human person and then rethink your post.

[Anonymous]

This is starting to happen to me as my charge and all her friends are having 2nd birthday parties. I am very friendly with a group of mothers as we have been in the same classes since the children were six months old and I also host a playgroup. We discuss the children's birthday parties, themes, etc - and yet I have not received one invitation. All of these mothers have met my MB and DB maybe once, if that.

Honestly, I am hurt.

[Anonymous]

Yes,you should.