Why do American nannies have such a different mentality?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The difference is that I didn't go to school and get a masters degree to clean your toilet. I'm paid $40/hr and do childcare only. You can clean your own toilet!

I'm sure you're great at your job, but wow, $40 an hour? For that I'd want you to anything I asked you to. I also am amazed that there are many people willing to pay this when you can find excellent, educated nannies for half that. Good for you though

Sex?

Well, I was thinking more like cleaning the bathrooms. I'm not really into prostitution.

[Anonymous]

BS with that $40; 40 in your dream ?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I live overseas and my (American) friend has a Filipino nanny who nannies AND cooks AND cleans AND babysits. She doesn't have any relevant degrees. She's just a nice, reliable, hard working person. My friend doesn't seem to care about whether the nanny has any background in child development. My friend lives in a diplomatic area and every situation is like this. I've visited friends around the world and it seems the same. With the exception of my extremely wealthy cousin who lives in India and has two nannies assigned to his twins, plus a full staff for cooking and cleaning, every other "domestic" seems to cook, clean, and babysit. As a SAHM "domestic" myself for a while, I also cooked, cleaned, and provided childcare (with no child development degree). Why is the American nanny so...specific...that they are nanny and insulted to do anything that pertains to the household (see the post about the lady who didn't want to wash the family napkins) and are parents really that concerned with degrees etc-they don't seem to care overseas, that is for sure!

Non-American women are generally treated as 2nd class citizens and are accustomed to being abused and used by wealthier people. Your friend is a perfect example of someone who is guilty of abuse of power. A nanny provides child care. She is not a cook, maid, dog sitter, laundress (except EXCLUSIVELY laundry for children).

I appreciate how you posted this retort highlighting exactly the entitled nonsense attitude OP is referring to without the slightest hint of irony.

If I acted at my job the way the nannies around here claim to work at theirs I'd be fired so fast.

You are required to do laundry for your boss and his family? You have to cook their dinner every day and clean their house? I know, and you know, that there is a world of difference in working in an office and a nanny working in someone's home. Stop being obtuse.

[Anonymous]

Those women are also paid peanuts. I worked for a mom whom I'm sure is still on here. Her family didn't pay the woman who did all of the above. Her family was allowed to live in a room off of the kitchen and got to eat their dinner scraps.

Meanwhile they're a family of doctors. Smh

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I don't necessarily sees her as housekeeper I sees her as an employee who like her employer. And is trying to help them after a hard day at the office. I don't see if you have some spare time and you help out your employer what does that take from you as someone with a master degree? You shouldn't be in anyone's home you should be sitting in an office somewhere like your boss. And no you shouldn't clean anyone toilet, not even your own. Why must we always have to put a label on work, work is work we do a job we get pay. We pay our bills save little for our retirement, a home, a car or whatever we choose to do with it. I've never seen, heard, or known of so many screw up people in my life until I've came to this country. People give you dirty looks if you take care of certain people's children, now you have the nerves to compare washing a toilet.....please. I would wash it if I had a master, bachelor, doctorate, or the highest degree possible because I would sit or squat on anyone filthy toilet. And if that takes something away from me as a beautiful, clean and neat lady so be it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't necessarily sees her as housekeeper I sees her as an employee who likes her employer. And is trying to help them after a hard day at the office. If you have some spare time I don't see what would it take from you to help out your employer? What does cleaning their toilet t take from you? As someone with a master degree you shouldn't be in anyone's home you should be sitting in an office somewhere like your boss. And no you shouldn't clean anyone toilet, not even your own. Why must we always have to put a label on work, work is work we do a job we get pay. We pay our bills save little for our retirement, a home, a car or whatever we choose to do with it. I've never seen, heard, or known of so many screw up people in my life until I've came to this country. People give you dirty looks if you take care of certain people's children, now you have the nerves to compare washing a toilet.....please. I would wash it if I had a master, bachelor, doctorate, or the highest degree possible because I would sit or squat on anyone filthy toilet. And if that takes something away from me as a beautiful, clean and neat lady so be it.

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My philosophy is, you do your part as a good person and let their bad deeds come back on them. As a young child my mom would always say to our dad, no you are not going to do that....remember the sins of the father visits the children. And she was determine that his sins were not going to visit us......none of those nannies who goes beyond the call of duty, then get screw over they don't have one thing to worry about...they did they part. Remember...people.....what goes up must come down.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The difference is that I didn't go to school and get a masters degree to clean your toilet. I'm paid $40/hr and do childcare only. You can clean your own toilet!

I'm sure you're great at your job, but wow, $40 an hour? For that I'd want you to anything I asked you to. I also am amazed that there are many people willing to pay this when you can find excellent, educated nannies for half that. Good for you though

If I had a masters, I would not be a nanny! Anyway, it’s completely possible she makes $40/h. Probably for a really wealthy family. And just because you pay someone a certain amount doesn’t mean they should do whatever you want. It should be agreed on mutually.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The difference is that I didn't go to school and get a masters degree to clean your toilet. I'm paid $40/hr and do childcare only. You can clean your own toilet!

I'm sure you're great at your job, but wow, $40 an hour? For that I'd want you to anything I asked you to. I also am amazed that there are many people willing to pay this when you can find excellent, educated nannies for half that. Good for you though

If I had a masters, I would not be a nanny! Anyway, it’s completely possible she makes $40/h. Probably for a really wealthy family. And just because you pay someone a certain amount doesn’t mean they should do whatever you want. It should be agreed on mutually.

Why? A masters degree doesn’t automatically mean a good high paying job. Im a nanny with a bachelors and make as much as some ppl with a masters. I thought about going back to school but realized a masters is just another degree that doesn’t guarantee you anything. It just means more student loans.

[Anonymous]

They're not all this way OP. My American nanny (in the US) does cook our dinners, keeps our house extremely tidy, and without asking will do things like wash our towels, take out trash, change sheets on a bed etc. We never made these part of her job, she just hates sitting around during nap time and does them.

I think there is a two prong problem - one I agree some nannies are crazy about not doing anything that is not nanny - I can't imagine getting away with this at my job or any other. You do what your company needs of you within reason.

The other though is so many parents here are obsessed that their children are engaged AT. ALL. TIMES. They would not choose for the nanny to be cooking dinner while the kids entertain themselves in the living room - they want stories to be read, activities planned, on the floor playmates for their kids all day.

[Anonymous]

I don’t see why people are so up in arms. When I was a SAHM, I did all those duties 24/7 and did not get paid at all. I don’t see the problem in having staff handle more than one duty.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t see why people are so up in arms. When I was a SAHM, I did all those duties 24/7 and did not get paid at all. I don’t see the problem in having staff handle more than one duty.

Um staff?? I am a nanny and do not want to clean anyone’s toilet—except my own. I know many people who are okay with doing childcare and house duties. I am not one of them.

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Anonymous wrote:I don’t see why people are so up in arms. When I was a SAHM, I did all those duties 24/7 and did not get paid at all. I don’t see the problem in having staff handle more than one duty.

Um staff?? I am a nanny and do not want to clean anyone’s toilet—except my own. I know many people who are okay with doing childcare and house duties. I am not one of them.

And they aren't nannies. They're sitters and helpers who do whatever. Nannies limit themselves to the needs of the children.

Perhaps it'd be more accurate to call them substitute mothers if in fact they're expected to do whatever the parents would do if they were there with their children.

[Anonymous]

I can believe the poster who claimed she makes $40/Hour because she stated that along w/being the child’s Nanny, she also provides tutoring services for the child as well + tutoring usually commands a much higher pay rate.

[Anonymous]

Our American nanny does our laundry occasionally (always does the kids’), does last minute needs shopping for us (and about 50% of the grocery shopping for food the kids eat), lets in/coordinates with anyone who needs to come by during the day (cleaners, parcels needing signatures, plumber, etc) and does other minor errands for us as needed (dry cleaning drop off, taking our car — which she uses while working — in for servicing, etc). She’s never balked at any of these requests and I’ve never thought twice about making them. (We do also have a cleaner come every other week, so we certainly are never asking her to scrub toilets, if that matters.) We pay her well, but not extravagantly.