3 child, 2 family nanny share - Increase in Nanny Pay

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP,

Not sure why everyone was so confused by your post. Yes, you need to pay for three children, as there will often be three children (after school, possibly before, school holidays, teacher days, and SUMMERS). Don't break up the pay when she has 2 and when she has 3, that is complicated and doesn't give her a proper budget. Plus, given that the share is at your house, she will likely be tending to laundry of both your children.

I think a $4 raise is sufficient, $3 coming from you and $1 coming the other family when the annual raise approaches.

Op shouldn’t pay for 3 children, she should pay for having 2 children. The other family should be out the equation as their rate should not changed. What will Op pay for adding HER new baby to the share? The raise shouldn’t be included in adding a child. If the families agreed to a $1 raise (total) then each family pays $0.50 and OP would pay $.50+ increase for new baby.

.50 for a new baby is totally unacceptable..for example if they both pay $10 a hour for 1 you're saying the family with the new baby should only pay $10.50 I would never agree to that and I am a nanny. At a daycare they only off a 5% discount some don t offer a discount at all so parents need to take that into consideration instead of always trying to find a way to short change their nanny as if she or he doesn't have bills and a family of their own......I'm in a nanny share and ironically both parents got pregnant so now I care for 4 kids totally and both families agreed to pay an additional $4 so that's what I think this family should pay at least $4 and the family with 1 child pay the normal rate and give her a small raise annually.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Hi OP,

Not sure why everyone was so confused by your post. Yes, you need to pay for three children, as there will often be three children (after school, possibly before, school holidays, teacher days, and SUMMERS). Don't break up the pay when she has 2 and when she has 3, that is complicated and doesn't give her a proper budget. Plus, given that the share is at your house, she will likely be tending to laundry of both your children.

I think a $4 raise is sufficient, $3 coming from you and $1 coming the other family when the annual raise approaches.

Op shouldn’t pay for 3 children, she should pay for having 2 children. The other family should be out the equation as their rate should not changed. What will Op pay for adding HER new baby to the share? The raise shouldn’t be included in adding a child. If the families agreed to a $1 raise (total) then each family pays $0.50 and OP would pay $.50+ increase for new baby.

.50 for a new baby is totally unacceptable..for example if they both pay $10 a hour for 1 you're saying the family with the new baby should only pay $10.50 I would never agree to that and I am a nanny. At a daycare they only off a 5% discount some don t offer a discount at all so parents need to take that into consideration instead of always trying to find a way to short change their nanny as if she or he doesn't have bills and a family of their own......I'm in a nanny share and ironically both parents got pregnant so now I care for 4 kids totally and both families agreed to pay an additional $4 so that's what I think this family should pay at least $4 and the family with 1 child pay the normal rate and give her a small raise annually.

You didn’t understand my post. I said $.50 (for the RAISE if applicable) in addition to the increase for the new baby.

[Anonymous]

OP, the way families we know in this situation have handled it is to negotiate a three-child rate with your nanny. Then you divide that by three, and each parent pays for their child. So when both your kids are in the share, you will pay 2/3 of the rate. I would probably set a new two- and three-child rate at the same time to account for the raise, and then in six months you go back to the two-child rate.

[Anonymous]

I personally feel that the only fair solution to this issue is for the families involved to pay their fair share.

The family that has two children pay 2/3 while the family w/only one child pays 1/3.

This simplifies everything & is the only fair solution that I can think of.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I personally feel that the only fair solution to this issue is for the families involved to pay their fair share.

The family that has two children pay 2/3 while the family w/only one child pays 1/3.

This simplifies everything & is the only fair solution that I can think of.

+1

[Loutwo]

Anonymous wrote:I have a new little one I will be adding to our perfectly happy 2 child 2 family nanny share this fall. Our nanny has worked for both families for over 2 years and we have had very few, if any issues with the nanny and the share. We are in a great situation and want to keep all parties happy, especially the children. The nanny is willing and excited to take this on, especially since my oldest will be going to school in the spring so this 3 child share will be about 6 months long (before it goes back to being 2 with the new baby and the other family's younger child). That means she will have the two toddlers and an infant for a stretch when the infant is most interested in eating, napping and stationary playing (and we are totally comfortable having her take him along on the usual outings in the meantime).

We host full time. We currently use the same hours and split the rate evenly. When we go to three children, what do people do as far as increase in nanny's rate? I have read everywhere from $2-$5 additional an hour. Is that only for the hours that the nanny is working with three children? Or across the board?

Also, I have read some families have the 1 child family reduce their pay slightly while the two child family takes on additional pay whenever all three children are present. I have also read that some people keep the 1 child family at the same rate and the 2 child family pays the entire increase and that's all. I have also read about splitting three ways, which makes sense theoretically but in practice would mean in our case, we would be paying more for our share than we would be than if we hired our own personal nanny.

It sounds like there are a lot of ways this can be done and I am open to hearing advice about what has worked and what hasn't. TIA.

OP, we soon will be in a similar circumstance (currently 2 families / 2 toddlers, looking to add an infant sibling). Views on this forum and elsewhere seem to be varied as to the right way to do this. Curious what you wound up doing, if you don't mind sharing!

[Anonymous]

Not quite the same, but I will tell you how our share worked. SF area, so costs are high, and also was very experienced nanny.
Original child had private nanny at $25 hour.
We added our infant to make a share, rate was $30/hr split even. (Other child was ~20 months.)
Occasionally she'd care for a 3rd toddler/preschool child, and the 3 kid rate was (I think) $36hr and everyone paid $13/hr for a slight discount Or maybe it was $33/hr and we all paid $11/hr.

Seems easiest to just establish a rate for 2 kids and 3 kids, and the other family's rate should drop slightly when you add a 3rd.