Thinking about traveling with nanny

[Anonymous]

Something about this feels exploitative, or at least like you're really trying to "milk" this no-benefit, budget nanny thing for all it's worth.

Agreed. I know you don't mean to sound this way OP, but it sounds like you've forgotten that your nanny and her family are all human beings with their own lives.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Something about this feels exploitative, or at least like you're really trying to "milk" this no-benefit, budget nanny thing for all it's worth.

Agreed. I know you don't mean to sound this way OP, but it sounds like you've forgotten that your nanny and her family are all human beings with their own lives.

Another MB here. This feels exploitative because OP has already exploited her nanny by not guaranteeing her hours or paying her benefits in return for not staying more than a year. I frankly don't see how that was a fair trade. Yet you seek to take further advantage of your nanny by giving her the option of accompanying your family on a vacation and receiving her full pay yet having to work around your family's schedule and having her/her family provide room, board and transportation during her "off" hours. You really are quite the deal maker. Shame on you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As long as you present it as non-mandatory, it's totally fine. The only thing is: are her hours guaranteed? If so, and she says no, won't she essentially get a paid 1 week vacation? Some chance she prefers that to all of the hassle...

Yes, completely at her option. Her hours are not guaranteed, which is why I think she'll love this opportunity. We hired her knowing that she would work for us for less than a year (she is taking a year off) even though we wanted to hire someone permanent and the trade-off is that she doesn't get any benefits. Having said that, if she ends up not coming with us, I'll probably pay her half-time anyway (like one week if we are gone for two weeks) because I'd feel guilty paying her zero when she has bills to pay.

Your bills are not her responsibility. My 5yo DC has had 7 nannies so far and I've never paid any of them for time they didn't work, it's never been a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As long as you present it as non-mandatory, it's totally fine. The only thing is: are her hours guaranteed? If so, and she says no, won't she essentially get a paid 1 week vacation? Some chance she prefers that to all of the hassle...

Yes, completely at her option. Her hours are not guaranteed, which is why I think she'll love this opportunity. We hired her knowing that she would work for us for less than a year (she is taking a year off) even though we wanted to hire someone permanent and the trade-off is that she doesn't get any benefits. Having said that, if she ends up not coming with us, I'll probably pay her half-time anyway (like one week if we are gone for two weeks) because I'd feel guilty paying her zero when she has bills to pay.

Your bills are not her responsibility. My 5yo DC has had 7 nannies so far and I've never paid any of them for time they didn't work, it's never been a problem.

The fact that your child is only 5 years old and you've already gone through 7 nannies is a problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As long as you present it as non-mandatory, it's totally fine. The only thing is: are her hours guaranteed? If so, and she says no, won't she essentially get a paid 1 week vacation? Some chance she prefers that to all of the hassle...

Yes, completely at her option. Her hours are not guaranteed, which is why I think she'll love this opportunity. We hired her knowing that she would work for us for less than a year (she is taking a year off) even though we wanted to hire someone permanent and the trade-off is that she doesn't get any benefits. Having said that, if she ends up not coming with us, I'll probably pay her half-time anyway (like one week if we are gone for two weeks) because I'd feel guilty paying her zero when she has bills to pay.

Your bills are not her responsibility. My 5yo DC has had 7 nannies so far and I've never paid any of them for time they didn't work, it's never been a problem.

The fact that your child is only 5 years old and you've already gone through 7 nannies is a problem.

+1, their bills may not be your problem but the problem is you and how you treat people. It is a problem for them.

[Anonymous]

Who in their right mind would go on a work trip where the cost of the return flight isn't included? You're going to cost this girl money for the privilege of being at your beck and call on a trip you want to go on. Either pay her correctly and all cost of travel or leave her home. Pretending this is some sort of favor for your nanny is laughable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Our DC's nanny and I are from the same area on the West Coast (our hometowns are 10 miles apart) and I'm thinking of asking her to come with us when we go back home later this summer for one or two weeks. I think she would be thrilled; she recently visited her family and I know that she cut the trip short because of her work obligations (i.e., us). Here is the comp/expense reimbursement I am considering and would like feedback on:

* Paid plane ticket
* Paid travel time to West Coast
* Return travel time paid ONLY IF DH does not fly back with us: DH would not fly with us to the W.C., but hopefully, join us for the back-end of the trip. If he does, then DC would sit with me and DH so nanny would not have to take care of DC. If DH ends up not being able to travel, then DC, nanny and I would sit together and nanny would be paid for her return trip.
* Room and board not paid for: Nanny would stay with her family and take meals with them.
* Commuting cost not paid for: Nanny's family live < 15 miles/30 minutes from us, which is considered a normal commute for the area. Nanny drives family car.

Also, her typical work week is 25 hours/week, she'd probably end up working about the same number of hours (including the paid travel time) although on a slightly different schedule that may include one weekend day.

Thoughts? Is there anything I haven't covered? The only areas where I think I could be more generous would be paying for her return trip in the event DH flies with us and paying commute costs. Honestly, I think she would be really happy with the above package nevertheless because she gets a paid trip home and will have plenty of free time to spend with her family and friends. Just want to do a gut-check first, though.

People are (I hope) misunderstanding OP. The plane ticket is paid for both ways. OP is talking about paying the nanny her hourly rate while on the flight.

OP, the only things I'd suggest are:
-make sure the dates are known well ahead of time, so she can let her family and friends know she'll be coming.
-set the working hours ASAP.
-pay for any meals she'd have during the hours she works. If she's watching your child during lunch (11am-1pm) or dinner (5pm-7pm), offer something.
-Have a backup plan in case nanny cannot use her family's car. When I visit family, it's difficult for me to get a car. I'd need to arrange someone to drop me off/pick me up in your situation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As long as you present it as non-mandatory, it's totally fine. The only thing is: are her hours guaranteed? If so, and she says no, won't she essentially get a paid 1 week vacation? Some chance she prefers that to all of the hassle...

Yes, completely at her option. Her hours are not guaranteed, which is why I think she'll love this opportunity. We hired her knowing that she would work for us for less than a year (she is taking a year off) even though we wanted to hire someone permanent and the trade-off is that she doesn't get any benefits. Having said that, if she ends up not coming with us, I'll probably pay her half-time anyway (like one week if we are gone for two weeks) because I'd feel guilty paying her zero when she has bills to pay.

Your bills are not her responsibility. My 5yo DC has had 7 nannies so far and I've never paid any of them for time they didn't work, it's never been a problem.

[b]

Lololololololol maybe this is why your FIVE YEAR OLD has had 7 (!!!!!) nannies. You sound like a great employee!

[Anonymous]

*employer

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our DC's nanny and I are from the same area on the West Coast (our hometowns are 10 miles apart) and I'm thinking of asking her to come with us when we go back home later this summer for one or two weeks. I think she would be thrilled; she recently visited her family and I know that she cut the trip short because of her work obligations (i.e., us). Here is the comp/expense reimbursement I am considering and would like feedback on:

* Paid plane ticket
* Paid travel time to West Coast
* Return travel time paid ONLY IF DH does not fly back with us: DH would not fly with us to the W.C., but hopefully, join us for the back-end of the trip. If he does, then DC would sit with me and DH so nanny would not have to take care of DC. If DH ends up not being able to travel, then DC, nanny and I would sit together and nanny would be paid for her return trip.
* Room and board not paid for: Nanny would stay with her family and take meals with them.
* Commuting cost not paid for: Nanny's family live < 15 miles/30 minutes from us, which is considered a normal commute for the area. Nanny drives family car.

Also, her typical work week is 25 hours/week, she'd probably end up working about the same number of hours (including the paid travel time) although on a slightly different schedule that may include one weekend day.

Thoughts? Is there anything I haven't covered? The only areas where I think I could be more generous would be paying for her return trip in the event DH flies with us and paying commute costs. Honestly, I think she would be really happy with the above package nevertheless because she gets a paid trip home and will have plenty of free time to spend with her family and friends. Just want to do a gut-check first, though.

People are (I hope) misunderstanding OP. The plane ticket is paid for both ways. OP is talking about paying the nanny her hourly rate while on the flight.

OP, the only things I'd suggest are:
-make sure the dates are known well ahead of time, so she can let her family and friends know she'll be coming.
-set the working hours ASAP.
-pay for any meals she'd have during the hours she works. If she's watching your child during lunch (11am-1pm) or dinner (5pm-7pm), offer something.
-Have a backup plan in case nanny cannot use her family's car. When I visit family, it's difficult for me to get a car. I'd need to arrange someone to drop me off/pick me up in your situation.

This.
Read carefully people, before you post.
Nanny gets free ticke home plus 6-7 hours of travel time paid, plus needs to work only 25 hours while there.

I would say this is win win.

[Anonymous]

Talk to your nanny and present it and see if it works for her.
Everyone is different. Some people might do it for free. Some people might require all expenses paid trip and overtime.
You have to ask HER

[Anonymous]

As long as you present it in a way where she feels totally free to say no, and you don't resent her for it, just ask...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Our DC's nanny and I are from the same area on the West Coast (our hometowns are 10 miles apart) and I'm thinking of asking her to come with us when we go back home later this summer for one or two weeks. I think she would be thrilled; she recently visited her family and I know that she cut the trip short because of her work obligations (i.e., us). Here is the comp/expense reimbursement I am considering and would like feedback on:

* Paid plane ticket
* Paid travel time to West Coast
* Return travel time paid ONLY IF DH does not fly back with us: DH would not fly with us to the W.C., but hopefully, join us for the back-end of the trip. If he does, then DC would sit with me and DH so nanny would not have to take care of DC. If DH ends up not being able to travel, then DC, nanny and I would sit together and nanny would be paid for her return trip.
* Room and board not paid for: Nanny would stay with her family and take meals with them.
* Commuting cost not paid for: Nanny's family live < 15 miles/30 minutes from us, which is considered a normal commute for the area. Nanny drives family car.

Also, her typical work week is 25 hours/week, she'd probably end up working about the same number of hours (including the paid travel time) although on a slightly different schedule that may include one weekend day.

Thoughts? Is there anything I haven't covered? The only areas where I think I could be more generous would be paying for her return trip in the event DH flies with us and paying commute costs. Honestly, I think she would be really happy with the above package nevertheless because she gets a paid trip home and will have plenty of free time to spend with her family and friends. Just want to do a gut-check first, though.

People are (I hope) misunderstanding OP. The plane ticket is paid for both ways. OP is talking about paying the nanny her hourly rate while on the flight.

OP, the only things I'd suggest are:
-make sure the dates are known well ahead of time, so she can let her family and friends know she'll be coming.
-set the working hours ASAP.
-pay for any meals she'd have during the hours she works. If she's watching your child during lunch (11am-1pm) or dinner (5pm-7pm), offer something.
-Have a backup plan in case nanny cannot use her family's car. When I visit family, it's difficult for me to get a car. I'd need to arrange someone to drop me off/pick me up in your situation.

This.
Read carefully people, before you post.
Nanny gets free ticke home plus 6-7 hours of travel time paid, plus needs to work only 25 hours while there.

I would say this is win win.

She gets a "free" ticket home but basically needs to impose on her family to get it. What if the week OP is going isn't convenient for her family to host her? Or lend her their car?

[Anonymous]

OP, why would you need the nanny to work on the flight if you're there ? Can't you do your mom's job?

[Anonymous]

No ,positive don't do that....